A close family member and I fell out some time ago after continually saying I was taking advantage of another family member. They have no evidence and noone believes him but it is driving me crazy and undermining my standing within our family. They are continuing to make allegations even though they have no evidence. It is impossible to prove this as they are saying it and not writing it.
Has anyone else ever been in this situation? How did you cope?
2007-04-22 03:33:40 · 9 answers · asked by Rats 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Every single day of my childhood was this situation. I eventually came to the conclusion that genetics mean squat and put as much space possible between me and sick people.
I asked myself this "if these were just non-genetic aquiantances, would I want to be around them?" Improved drastically my view on life.
2007-04-22 03:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, let's cover all the bases here.
If what they say is TRUE, whether they can prove it or not, then just come clean and admit whatever it was and ask forgiveness from those you have wronged. That totally deflates their arguments and it becomes OLD NEWS really really quickly. Your family will be bored by their continuous dwelling on it.
If you are TOTALLY INNOCENT, then simply announce to all your family that what they say wrong about you is false, and that it now bothers you that they continue to bring it up.
Also tell the family members who continue to spread this that you have talked to everyone and denied their lies, and you want them to stop talking about it.
Then continue to be HONEST, FAITHFUL, AND TRUE TO ALL THE FAMILY. Regardless of what is said from then on, you will be on the high ground.
Good Luck
2007-04-22 03:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He or she has no evidence and none is believing them. Sounds like the problem is solved. You and your family need to tell him or her all of you don`t want to hear about it anymore. He keeps on talking because someone somewhere keeps on listening. Be indifferent to his saying, happy and bubbly around your family and this person will give up.
2007-04-22 03:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and i still am. most of the time i make sure that i do not get anything from anyone of my family even if i have to go to friends for help. but when it is time to help them out and they ask me i flat out tell them that they don't help me because when they do they make a big deal with it all. and i tell them that when we all can help each other out and not make a big thing out of it maybe then we will be a real family and help each other out.
2007-04-22 03:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for a family meeting of the minds, get your family together, and talk things out...
2007-04-22 03:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
somewhat no straightforward way. He would desire to be counseled the reality interior the least offensive way. think of of all the forged factors he would very own: ie, intelligence, friendlyness, useful, sort to others and pets, neat textile cabinet, solid conversationalist and so forth. recommendations-set him while he's in a solid temper. Ask in case you're able to desire to communicate with him in inner maximum. In inner maximum, clarify to him he has this sort of great form of sturdy features( point out the forged factors) ; even nevertheless, he won't word of ways his words and movements at circumstances strike human beings, exceedingly close friends. they are probable too polite to show it, even nevertheless being this sort of close pal, relative, and so forth. you sense he could want some thing like this dropped at his interest. you probable recommend some issues as kidding or as a shaggy dog tale; even nevertheless, you will be slightly conceited and make out of line comments to others. Frankly, those can harm gentle persons. I want you're able to evaluate making it a factor to grant human beings a reason to grin and such as you greater helpful by thinking how they sense and giving them alluring words whenever you could. i'm confident you like compliments and others do as nicely. the subsequent time you sense the urge to make an off the cuff and, in line with danger slightly conceited remark, i'm hoping you supply it slightly thougt. In a manner, i think considered one of our objectives as civilized human is to take each and every probability to grant others slightly strengthen with our words. in my view, i could a good distance somewhat pay attention a man or woman say to me: Oh: i can not have self belief you say this sort of subject." and with a grin say; " you're a great kidder you be attentive to." somewhat than: ' You confident did some thing stupid. Are you loopy?"
2016-12-16 12:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been in this situation, but if someone in my family made a judgemental statement about me I would laugh it off and say very sarcastically, "Oh, that's a nice thing to say!" hahaha.
2007-04-22 03:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by J F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him since no one believes a word he says, that proves his word is worth nothing, nothing at all.
2007-04-22 03:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never cared enough what my extended family thinks, so it doesn't even bother me.
2007-04-22 07:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋