I am wondering how much say a father these days has in their child's life. My ex wants a say in if my child should have a cell phone that I am paying for and her personal hygiene matters. His mother also wants a say in what she wears and what classes she takes at school.
I wanted to have a strong voice in her life as her mother but could not really have that.
My ex was a mama's boy in my opinion and constantly asked his mother her opinion on things concerning our child. She had a say in what camps she attended in the summer also. She used to make comments that my daughter was her "daughter" and that I could not "make her hair."
My ex also get very upset with me when I questioned him sharing her report card with his mother. I said that each thing in her life does not have to be shared with her grandmother.
Is this normal?
2007-04-22 04:05:07 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It should be a team effort the mother and father should consult each other and agree on how the kids should be raised as for the grandparents my opinion is that a life is better with all the family members involved I can not imagine a life without my grandparents they were and are very much involved in all of their grand children's lives - not making decisions but being there to see their grandchildren grow up. Maybe you and you ex should sit down and learn to become a team for the sake of your children... Good Luck
2007-04-22 04:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by ~Brookelyn~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! It's not clear who is the custodial parent. But I will assume that you are for the sake of answering this question. As the custodial parent, you have the upperhand on what goes on in your child's life. You make the decisions and you are practically raising the child. The non custodial parent has a say but only if it is to benefit the child. He can give input or suggestions, but it is up to you whether or not you heed. As far as the cell phone goes, if you want your child to have a cell phone and you are footing the bill, tell him to mind his own business. But if he is the custodial parent and the child lives in his home, and he does not want the cell phone there, he can say no. In regards to the personal hygiene matter, listen to him.. what is he saying. Does it have merit? Is it going to benefit the child. As far as the report card goes, there is nothing wrong with sharing the grades. It's not going to harm anyone or anything. Maybe he's a proud parent. Now as far as the camps the child attends, that isn't any of the grandparent's business either. In regards to the hair comment.....in law's will always find something wrong. Just let the comment roll off of your back and move on. Seems like a very frustrating situation you are in. I'm sorry you have to endure it, I hope things work out for you
2007-04-22 11:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the father should have just as much say as you do that is a major problem in this country and no one talks about it everytime so kids go crazy and do some bad shiznit "where is the father" they say men dont have any say because the women hate him for whatever reason the relationship between them didnt work so she gets back thru the child. so i say dad should have 50% just like the mom. ty
2007-04-22 11:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately mamas boys do this. i have dated them and i have dumped them. a grown man still relied on mama. so, unless you have custody, almost a losing battle even though you have rights as the mother. seek your divorce attorney and see what she says. i am sure there is more to this story then just the question
2007-04-22 11:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by bashfullyours1973 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋