I was on a swim team all throughout high school and college. Then I got a great paying job, but I was getting fat because I didn't have enough to time to swim. Many people told me I was dumb and immature for quitting, but I quit. After a few months, I started my own business with NO help from my parents, and began making more money than at my old office job, AND I have a lot of free time now. I'm in really good shape now because of swimming, I have all my hair, so EVERYONE tells me I look younger, some people think I'm in high school. Even though I make a good living, my dad is always telling me to "grow up". He hates that I'm always swimming, or doing tricks on either my skateboard or rollerblades. I bought a trampoline, and began going to the gymnastics center again. I started doing le parkour, jumping from roofs, rock climbing, rappelling, and climbing trees. My dad says I act like a 16 year old, but I make good money.
Why is it such a problem for him what I do for fun?
2007-04-22 07:13:09 · 9 answers · asked by Document Guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do pay for my own insurance. I treat myself to an expensive insurance. I'm 25, single, don't drink, don't smoke, I aced my physical. Insurance rates are very good to me.
2007-04-22 07:26:28 · update #1
When your dad was growing up, adults who behaved responsibly didn't have "fun".
He probably equates all your activities to being aimless and juvenile.
Plus he may be a bit envious!
It sounds like you have a great life and guess what? You are still young!
Enjoy your life, you don't have to settle for being a frumpy old adult.
You'll probably meet someone who's just as active as you and have a wonderful, adventurous life!
2007-04-22 07:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is not that you are having fun, perhaps it is some of the things that you are doing that he may feel are dangerous and he simply does not want you to be doing them. Or and here is the other thing perhaps he thinks that it is time for you to settle down and start a family. The only way you will know for sure is if you ask him to tell you what he means and then if you still don't get it ask him to give an example or why it is that those things bother him. Remember that your dad grew up in a completely different generation then you also, where people settled down and got married at your age and worked what ever jobs that they could. he may just be expecting you to settle down and start a family , like I said the only way to know for sure is to flat out ask your dad. And by the way it is great that you are doing so well on your own and that you were able to start your own business without having to involve family for financial help.
2007-04-22 07:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by vixenangel_ia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adrenaline junky and their is nothing wrong with that. For years I heard the very same words. My Mother would scream at the top of her lungs with every base jump I ever made. Your parents don't understand. They also worry about you. It has nothing to do with your money or success or lack there of. They are worried about your future. They also want you to settle down and give them a grandchild. I say, know their words come from love. You not only have a culture clash but you have a generation gap as well. Just keep saying yes Dad and move on. Do what you know is right for you in your personal life. Let Dad in when you have issues on your business life. That way you are showing your Dad you do trust and respect him. Just keep open some line of positive communication that you both can agree with.
2007-04-22 08:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by flateach33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Father will never see you as an adult. In a lot of parents eyes you are still his/hers little boy/girl. Honestly that will never change. Your father is being a father by not liking how you run your life with all the jumping from roofs, rock climbing and rappelling which even to me seem like dangerous activities. He is most likely scared something will happen to you. When a parent says "grow up" its always-in conjunction with an activity or action that can hurt you in the long run. He is just being your father. I would be worried if he didn’t seem to care. But since yours does, take it for what it is; he just loves you, wants you safe and taken care of.
2016-05-21 01:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by jeniffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool that you can make money like this. BUT !!!
Look at it from your dads point of view. IF you have a major injury, and have nothing to fall back on. Will you expect him to assist you?
Do you have the necessary insurance to take care of you, in the event of a devastating accident?
You are only ONE major injury from bankruptcy if not.
2007-04-22 07:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess since you are very good at your business. He thinks you should start thinking having a family of your own. Instead of playing around.
2007-04-22 20:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sun Valley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have the world by the tail. If your dad can not see this and that you are happy with your life then it is his problem and I would not worry about it.
Next time he asks tell him you don't know, but you are working on it...lol...and let it slide off your shoulder.
be cool...
2007-04-22 07:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say your old man could be jealous of you as he didn't have what you have when he was your age.
2007-04-22 07:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels overshadowed...
2007-04-22 07:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by cartoonfreak25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋