Should my family say sorry?

Question

My two sisters, my mom, and my dad has all talked behind my boyfriends back and he is really upset about it. My family doesn't think they should say sorry because they didn't say it to his face. But i don't think talking behind someones back is right. My family thinks that i was wrong to tell him what they said and they say its my fault for telling him. But i don't think its right to keep things from my boyfriend and let him hang out with people that talk bad behind his back without him knowing. Do you think they should say sorry because they think they don't need to say sorry they want to just act like nothing happened.

Answer 1

I think your family is wrong. If they don't like your boyfriend they shouldn't be nice to his face and talk behind his back. That's not only wrong but immature. Your bot friend has a right to know. Why let him continue to be made a fool of. They should apologize but they probably wont

Answer 2

Sorry to say, but you were wrong. Why would you tell him what they said? You knew he would be upset. You shouldn't go against your family, especially your parents over a guy. Especially if this isn't "the guy". Oh, and if this is "the guy", then congrats, you just started a war between him and your family that may last for years to come.
I suggest you apologize to all of them and make it clear to everyone that you don't want them talking about each other cause you are the one stuck in the middle. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, they shouldn't talk behind his back at all. However, you should not have repeated what they said. What good did it do but cause hard feelings? You can stick up for your boyfriend without repeating everything to him.

He and your family should just go along with a cordial relationship (everyone being polite) as if nothing has happened.

Answer 4

Yes your family do need to apologize. Although they didn't say it to his face, they still said it. You should tell them this: If they don't have anything nice to say, whether it's in his face or not, don't say it. It's not right to talk behind someone's back because how would they like it if someone talked behind their back? You family obviously has a lot of pride if they know that they're talking sh*t behind someone's back and won't apologize if they found out. Your boyfriend does have a right to know, so you are right to tell him. If you family still won't apologize, then forget it. Tell your boyfriend to just forget about their rude comments and not let them get to him. Them talking behind people's backs are going eventually to bite them back in the butt. You know what people say, "What goes around, comes around."

Answer 5

Yes they owe your boyfriend an apology. Your NOT at fault for any of this your right your boyfriend did have every right to know what was said about him and he should not hang out with your family and have them talk all nicey nice to him it is all an act. You both don't need to be hanging around them if they are causing this kind of drama. Tell your family if their not willing to be grown up about this and apologize to your boyfriend you both are not going to anymore family gatherings and you are staying away from it because they are being childish and rude not to mention judgmental. They don't even know your boyfriend i mean actually know him. Would it hurt for them to take the time to get to know him? Let it out girl you tell your family you had enough and your not going to continue being involved in their drama.

Answer 6

No. YOUR feelings are the ones that is hurt, because it seems they don't accept him. The only way he could have found out, is if you told him. If you wish to see someone that your whole family seems to dislike, then do not bring him around. But to ask them to say their sorry for discussing how they feel about him with other family members, no, they are in the right. Just because YOU like him does not mean they do.
Besides, what has he done to turn the whole family against him?

Answer 7

You are a family to your parents. It is alright for them to have their own opinion and these opinion are for your ears ONLY. Having said that, you should not translate all that you hear to your bf. First of all you betray your family trust, and secondly you upset your bf by telling him that he should not be hearing.

What you can do is that you would need to help your bf convince them. If there are certain area that your bf fall short, you can get your bf to make up what in your parent opinion deem to be bad....

After all bf is NOT yet a Family member. So treat it separately.. and with caution. This are the period where you can iron out all the differences.. between families and bf ..

take care..

Answer 8

Telling your bf what they said was the problem. You don't think it's right keeping things from your bf....but it's also not right to repeat what your family said. They told you how they felt about him assuming that what they were saying was going to be kept confidential. There was no reason for you to tell him. Just like if you met someone you thought was ugly or stupid.....you wouldn't say "hey your'e ugly." Your family probably told you how they felt because they were concerned for you. Right or wrong; they were trying to protect you.

Answer 9

No, YOU should apologize to THEM for blabbing things said in private. You had no right to carry tales and should be ashamed.
They have every right to say whatever they want to each other about whoever they want. If you're not mature enough to accept that, then don't talk with them.
You were wrong.

Answer 10

Yeah. I think an apology is needed. You obviously care a lot for your b/friend and your family should keep their bad opinions to themselves. It might need more than a sorry to make your b/friend feel better about it though.