i'm really sure i'm pregnant, i'm 18 about to be 19, i've been livin with my boyfriend for over a year now and my mom has always dislike him. My mom has alway told me that she does want to be a grandma till she is 50 which is in 11 years from now i'll be 30 when she is and she stress this fact very much so. She tends to get very long lectures that turn in to yells fights. how do i tell her and aviod a fight with her when she turns every thing in to a fight. I don't belive in abortions and this baby is want very very much.
2007-04-22 11:26:36 · 10 answers · asked by cheese_monster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just sit your mom down and tell her. Yeah she will scream and yell but after a while she will come around and be happy that she has a new baby to play with and send home at the end of the day. Just remimber her bark is worse then her bite and if it gets too much for you, you can go to the comfort of your own home and ignore it!!!!!!!
2007-04-22 13:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by army brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a question about you being pregnant then you need to have a test done so that you will know for sure. Then simply call your mom on the phone or talk one on one and just say..."I know all the fights and all we have had over me being pregnant and you not wanting to be a grandma until your 50 but somethings happens earlier. Look I love you and all but I am almost 19 yrs old and it is time I start my own life. Then if she starts to yell or fuse just simply say what is done is done and there are no changing it now." Stand your ground but don't get real offensive. Remember a mom will be there for you through the worst. I hope things work out and if you are pregnant you have a wonderful child. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-22 20:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by flutely-flute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I got pregnant when I was 18 as well. My mother wasn't and still isn't fond of my now husband. But I told her. He and I went to her house, and asked if we can talk to her, like three adults, without judgment, or repercussion. So I went on and told her that he and are are pregnant, and are very excited, and want to have the baby. We then told her that if she wishes to be in our child's life (we had a girl), that she needs to start getting along with my husband and respect the both of us. It worked for me. But no matter what, if she does start arguing, walk away. Give her some time to cool off, eventually she'll come to her senses and realize that she has an opportunity to get closer to you. Teaching you how to take care of your little one. I hope my advice helps you out. Take care and congratulations on the upcoming arrival.
2007-04-22 18:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Army Wife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, confirm you are pregnant. It is your life and you do have the choice to do what best for you. You mom may or may not come to terms with your decision. But your not asking for her to raise this child-- you just want her love and guidance on the decision you are making . She is going to get angry, and yes yell--tell her to contact you when she has settles down and ready to talk about it. Let her know you love her and hopes she'll continue to be in your life.
2007-04-22 20:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Connie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though this may not be your idea of a perfect situation it is what it is. congratulations! your mom doesn't get to choose when she'll be a grandma. that's a fact. i guess the best thing to do is just go over and say "hey mom. i'm pregnant" if she turns it into an argument, walk out. she'll get the hint. don't allow yourself to return the argument. what would be the point?
2007-04-22 20:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what your mother told you just wait till that baby is born.She will be a happy grandmother. Wait till you just have to tell her. ( l Like when your starting to show.)
2007-04-22 18:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by LDJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your life and tell her that you need her help to get through this.Once the baby comes she will feel differently.Its probably ashock to her still.
2007-04-22 22:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom cant rule life!! your 18!! you can make your own decisions!!
2007-04-22 18:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you really need her elp going throw this
2007-04-22 18:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by MJlover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR life...need I say more?
2007-04-22 18:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by ascloud@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋