Help me with my family?

Question

I am annoyed of my sister. I am 18, she's 17. I try to cover her *** for everything; for instance, I give her money when she needs it because our mom forgets to give my sister allowance, but claims that she (my mother) did give it. I lend her the car because she needs it all the time since 'she has a busy schedule." Basically I feel like her assistant, from doing her laundry to making important phone calls.

Lately I feel restricted in my home. I feel like I can't go out w/o upsetting my mom. My mom is a loner...this is apparent because she never goes out. I feel bad whenever I go out because she's stuck at home. However, when I am at home, my mom starts picking out my flaws like I can not do the laundry, how irresponsible I am, I do not wash the dishes the right way,etc.

I'm annoyed with these two women I live with. I don't know what to do. I can not take it anymore. College was supposed to be my escape, but I have to commute. What do I do? How do I handle the stres

I dont have enough money to get my own place or live on my own. I just can't live with it. My family is not exactly open-minded. When we have problems, they ignore it and try not to address it. I thought families solve problems together. I guess not anymore!

I just need an answer where I know something right needs to be done.

i can no longer trust my sister about serious things anymore because when we were having an argument she used something I told her in confidence against me

OMG I hate my sister now. We went on vacation last week, came back and there were all these flies in my room because she left her carmel frappacino in my room. Its so gross and they flies won't leave!

I think my mom is annoyed with me right now because she just cleaned my car.

Answer 1

Your at that magic breaking point were two things began to come into conflict. One is the whole, live your own life, and the other is the truth; you can't live your own life. Its a crazy catch-22 society desciding to throw at us sometime during the depression, ether way its making your life heck. Shoot it makes everyone's life heck... ether way. Its what both causes your mom to ride you and makes it so your sister does whatever she wants. At the sametime you deal with these things because the truth is you need those ladies, their your family, and your the only one who is truly excepting this, truly appriciating it. What you want to know is how do you get them to see this very, very important truth, because its going to led to some classic happens that are not good! One is your sister well take the first man she can that well show her some direction, weather its good or not, or weather it leads somewere or not, it doesn't matter. She just knows that she doesn't have to have anything to due with you guys and its driver her sense of pride crazy because thats exact who she needs to be dealing with. Your moms going to stress you out of the house because of her own pride issues, due in large part because as a mother, she is insecure that you'll make the same mistakes as her, even thou the only way to help you aviod that is if she excepts how she needs you in her life. Which well in-turn force you to become a crazy person killing your sense of self everyday your there because there both drive you crazy avioding that truth, and you'll have no choose but to do the same as your sister.... your only two chooses is to fight it(how is hard, long road and envolves you truling loving and appricating these two enough to know why they are the way they are) or coping with it(which means just going with the flow and hoping you don't make to many big mistakes, leaving your family for your own life, hey you can call them and see them on vacation!). Me personal I choose to fight, I hope you make the same choice and I'll do what I can to help you with that if you do, but if you choose to just cope with it, just follow everyone else..... I believe Mtv's got some good ideas.....