Family & Relationships - 30 December 2007

Me and my ex met each other over a year ago under an unusual situation. It started out as a hookup, but we kept in touch (long distance, by the way). More developed, and we became a couple. She came down here a few times, and then I went there. After a few months, alot went on in her life, alot of difficult situations, and we broke it off. She kept in touch with me still, but I wouldn't get back. We've been off for a year, but she kept getting in touch with me and apologizing, and said that leaving me was the stupidest thing she has done. The last time, I decided to start talking back with her. I dated during the time apart, and no one compared. Now, we are talking regularly, and I told her I want to give it another chance. She wants to get back together, but wants to wait to make it official until we see each other. She has also gotten bad about calling lately, blaming work. She goes out quite a bit. Should I be worried, and am I stupid to put out my feelings again?

2007-12-30 07:25:01 · 5 answers · asked by Niner 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm in a situation where my husband is not meeting my needs emotionally or sexually. He spends all his time either at work or doing something alone, like reading, or arranging baseball cards. We rarely are intimate.

I'm at a point where I am so lonely and feel so disconnected from human contact generally that something has to change. I feel it is unfair to be married and get the emotional (and physical) needs from outside of the marriage, but I also don't want to give up on this. I want things to work out. I also can't continue on like this. It's affecting my health at this point.

He knows how I feel, we've done countless hours of marriage counselling. I feel like my only option is to terminate the marriage. Is there an option I haven't considered that you can think of to save this marriage?
Thanks.

2007-12-30 07:23:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and i have been married for 9 months and been together for 8 years. After we got married, i had mentioned that i wanted to cut my hair. He suggested that i donate my hair to locks of love, which i did. (but they had to cute a lot off which let me with a "pixie" style haircut, which i adore. Ever since then, he has made numerous cuts about how i look like a boy, he's not attracted to me anymore, etc. He isnt affectionate anymore....I have told him that i will let my hair grow out, but he expects it to happen overnight. i miss him being affectionate with me...to me it seems so petty to act like that over hair...am i nuts???

2007-12-30 07:22:36 · 20 answers · asked by Mrs.Mann 2 in Marriage & Divorce

This is an unusual situation. My ex is 60 and I'm 41. We have 3 children together. He currently lives with us in the basement. I have to move on because we are outgrowing our house. I was thinking of letting him move in with me again due to the fact that 1) he has to have a knee replacement operation and recovery is very difficult and long! 2) my kids have grown used to him being around, esp. my youngest and they would miss him 3) we can't really afford to live separately. I am working full time he's on disability and I can't pay someone to take care of the kids after school.
With all this being said the fact of the matter is that my ex and I can't stand each other. We will NEVER get back together. I have been seeing someone for 4 years now and I can't seem to move on due to my situation. My ex hates this person immensely and doesn't want him around my kids. He's very controlling. I feel guilty though, if I don't help him out after all we've been through. Please help!! Thank you!

2007-12-30 07:18:55 · 5 answers · asked by dancergalny 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We started out normal. Had some issues arrise. Stayed together when other couples may not have. We are now, Very good friends. I mean the best of friends. But, as a result of the problems, we are not intimate, at all. My question is directed to older couples who may be familiar with this. Can It really be as good as It seems, If thier is no sex going on? We don't even talk about it or think about it. We lauph at it! We have 6 kids, 2 of whom sleep with us ( by choice,of course). We are tired, worn out, desperate to relax. Trying to have enouph $ to provide. Really, no time for sex, we fall asleep sitting up half the time. We are both round as Turkeys, probably not from food, but, depression & lack of healthy eating. We have to eat whatever we can get that will feed everyone. Half the time, I don't eat at all. & I am still fat,lol. I feel REALLY HAPPY, am I nuts? (only, depressed about my complexion & weight) I honestly think we are to fat to have sex. We release ourselves, as needed.

2007-12-30 07:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by Sojourner 2 in Marriage & Divorce

she is always lying about really stupid stuff...like today for example she insisted she was born in D.C. so I asked her for the first 3 numbers of her social security number and the numbers she gave me matched what a person born in Maryland would have not one born in D.C.

I confronted her with this and told her I know she is lying and she still will not admit that she isn't telling the truth despite me showing her the proof



how can I handle this? How can I get her to embrace where she is from and tell the truth?

2007-12-30 07:08:22 · 25 answers · asked by Jane 6 in Singles & Dating

I don't have many details.... she is having back pain and fading in and out. I pray that she will go to the Doctor ASAP.
She has a Boyfriend that is trying to help her she is in her 40's,a hard worker and seems to take care of herself...That is all I can tell ya....thats all I know....and she is such a good neighbor/friend I don't like to see her this way.....
Thanks in advance for postive feedback and prayers.

2007-12-30 07:06:58 · 18 answers · asked by Bobbie 5 in Friends

I am really shy. But me and him like the same things -- music, and we both like skateboarding. I've worn some shirts that represent the band I like, and I know he likes that band too, but I've never really talken to him because I'm shy and I don't really know what to say. I'm sure he knows I like skateboarding too because of my shoes and clothes, but is there anything else I can do?

2007-12-30 07:06:07 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel. 2 in Singles & Dating

I love her but I also would like to have kids. I do not know what is more important.
Thank you!

2007-12-30 07:05:46 · 20 answers · asked by ezns74 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok this guy, that is in some of my classes walks up to me and says hey i like the color of your backpack, i really like the color on it. Does that mean he likes me?

2007-12-30 07:02:52 · 12 answers · asked by holy moses 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-30 07:02:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Seems only fair given that I paid for my first wedding and didn't get a refund when it didn't work out, even though it wasn't my fault.

2007-12-30 07:02:22 · 56 answers · asked by Very happily married. 7 in Weddings

My mother in-law has only been married to this guy for a couple of years and he treats her like a slave. She doesn't know about this but we think if we can get several guys to start emailing her she will leave this guy she's married to now.

2007-12-30 07:01:57 · 14 answers · asked by cavyndish 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He told me two days before christmas.... that bastard

2007-12-30 07:01:38 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-30 07:01:18 · 5 answers · asked by Miss Cao 1 in Friends

2007-12-30 07:00:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why do guys lie about things they do and who they hang out with?

2007-12-30 06:59:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have taken a picture together and she is the only one who has it. She has pictures of most of her friends, but not me. Her boyfriend. He are going on our 10th month and she still has not put a picture of me and her together on her myspace. What should I do. Is she emmbaresed of me?

2007-12-30 06:58:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

with over-inflation? I checked the air pressure and it is at 32 pounds per square inch. Is this too much? Should I let some air out of the valve?

2007-12-30 06:54:45 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just the thought of it scares me

2007-12-30 06:51:35 · 51 answers · asked by linzz 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay so my ex-boyfriend and me had a big falling out when we broke up. Well now we were sort of starting to talk again and get together. Something happened last week and we got into an argument sort of but more of me just telling him my feelings. I wasn't even mad, just upset. He told me he had to go and he would call me later. I even texted him and told me to do it at a decent time b/c i had to get up early the next day. He said okay. Well, he did not call. So i think to myself, he wants to play that game ok, im not going to call him. If he wants to talk to me he can call me. He didn't call/text me for like 4 days. Then i get a text saying "i miss you baby. come back." I don't get it. What does he mean come back? I've been right here all along waiting for him. So i tried calling him last night. He didn't answer and i left a message but I havent heard from him. Does he want to be with me or does he just want to get some? Sometimes he can be so sweet then other times i feel disrespected

2007-12-30 06:49:03 · 9 answers · asked by SouthernSweetheart 2 in Singles & Dating

im thinking of calling this guy (we met at this college club at least 4 times...but he's 23 and im 18) to ask him to movies on sat/sun.

i feel really comfortable in calling him BUT
what im worried is
what if he says something like "oh sorry busy this weekend"

what should i do then?

should i be like "no prob. take care" and never contact again?

i've never dated btw XDDD

2007-12-30 06:48:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-30 06:47:27 · 19 answers · asked by jenny cooper 2 in Weddings

Ever since i saw his picture and got a reply back , i've been thinking about him. Its just been small talk between us. I am married. The thing of it is he is single and just got dumped, am i just adding to the fire by reconnecting with him? He sounded happy to hear from me. I asked if he remembered me and said "of course i do!" and listed some of the things i liked and did. The weird thing is, i didn't tell him i was married .He found that out through my profile. I felt awkward telling him i was happily married when he's telling me the girl he went out with after me, turned out to be a beast and recently he was jilted. I sent him a message telling him i need to stop contact because of how i feel. Then i sent him another one telling him i would like to keep in touch once in a while. Did i do the right thing?? Is it best to have no contact? Is he not saying much because i'm married? Its only small talk and nothing more.

2007-12-30 06:46:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years-we have a little girl and our relationship-is not so good..he flirts and drools over other girls in front of me-puts me down about my weight and looks-ive changed my diet-ive been losing weight-maybe not in the right way-but im lsing it-honestly i need to know how i can emotionally DETACH myself from him-please can someone tell me how to do that-i would really appreciate that-i need to find a way to stop loving him so much and to stop worrying about how he feels about me -i really want to find a way i can just stop caring about him period.

2007-12-30 06:44:44 · 9 answers · asked by B. Anderson 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I went out with this man for 7 months we keep broking up he has some commitmnt problems & when he drinks him filts to much with other woman .Well we talk & brok it off last year .I went out of stat to get way from things like him ! It did not work to well but we did not have any contact for a while .When i get home i got a new job & was doing good i meet this man how is great we are seeing each other could not ask for better !
My ex started seeing some one 2 witch is good but We see each other out one day & talked for about 4 houres .He & I still feelings for eachother !! He told me he still loved me but dose not want to do any thing to mess up me & this great guy !
I have been seeing my Ex for luvch & talking alot when i can !
I feel very bad for doing this to my new guy but i cant lose my ex because he was my best friend not only my lover!
I have been depressed & feel so sad alot til i see my ex i feel happy again ! My ex asked me this how & what would i do if he wanted to get

2007-12-30 06:43:40 · 7 answers · asked by Hart 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok at the end of 2005 I dated this guy (James) for a few months, and I fell completely in love with him. He treated me with respect and he wasnt like the other guys I've dated. I ended it, simply because at the time I felt paranoid about what my friends were saying about me and him, stupid and shallow i know, i regret it.
Since that, he's had girlfriends, and I've tried so so hard to get over him. There have been other boys that liked me, who were willing to give it a chance but I can never get James out of my goddamn head. I've tried everything. Literally everything. I've been on holidays away for weeks, tried having fun with my friends and forget about him, spend time with my family. None of it works. I havent talked to him properly in about a year, how sad is that? I feel pathetic for feeling like this. It's just i miss him so badly, and everytime he insults me as a joke, or just messing about, it hurts and I dwell on it for weeks.

2007-12-30 06:41:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we would go to hotels and have sex. it lasted 3years. The affair ended 9 years ago. When the affair ended, he still occassionally calls me once in awhile to see how I'm doing....when he calls I'm nice to him, keeping it casual...just wondering why ans what makes him want to call

2007-12-30 06:35:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was going good with a guy I've suddenly fallen madly in love with, and we kissed, and he said he was starting to love me, and we argued last week and he said we're not going anywhere, but he won't let us go back to how we were cos he thinks it won't be the same and he'll get bored blah blah, but I can't go out with him when we're like this, it's just not right!
I know he likes me, and claims he's starting to love me, but what do I do?? I've felt so depressed not speaking to him and I've been crying every day. Help!
What do I do next?
I'm scared he's going to say something that will upset me, I'm a bit emotionally unstable!
xx

2007-12-30 06:31:58 · 17 answers · asked by Noobo<3 2 in Singles & Dating

Me and this guy have been talking a lot lately. We chat for hours together online, and we text a lot even during class, and study together too. When we are actually among other friends though, we are pretty platonic, even though we flirt a lot online and when we study. Recently, his friends brought it up to my friend how we talk online for hours together, and how this guy doesn't even do his hw sometimes so that he can talk to me. Of course, there is no way they can know this unless this guy told them. I guess he also told them we talk a lot at school and study together. They kept pushing it to my friend how I MUST like him if I talk to him so much. I'm not sure what that means...he acts platonic in front of our friends, but then is telling them we talk a lot anyways? Does he have a thing for me maybe?? And why would I be the one who likes him if we are BOTH doing the talking and flirting. Regardless though, I actually really like him haha

2007-12-30 06:29:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating