We started out normal. Had some issues arrise. Stayed together when other couples may not have. We are now, Very good friends. I mean the best of friends. But, as a result of the problems, we are not intimate, at all. My question is directed to older couples who may be familiar with this. Can It really be as good as It seems, If thier is no sex going on? We don't even talk about it or think about it. We lauph at it! We have 6 kids, 2 of whom sleep with us ( by choice,of course). We are tired, worn out, desperate to relax. Trying to have enouph $ to provide. Really, no time for sex, we fall asleep sitting up half the time. We are both round as Turkeys, probably not from food, but, depression & lack of healthy eating. We have to eat whatever we can get that will feed everyone. Half the time, I don't eat at all. & I am still fat,lol. I feel REALLY HAPPY, am I nuts? (only, depressed about my complexion & weight) I honestly think we are to fat to have sex. We release ourselves, as needed.
2007-12-30 07:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by Sojourner 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Denise, is my best answer. I just don't see a best answer option, on this.
Thank You! So much. 28 yrs, & friends confirming it for you, is good enouph! for me! We don't fight at all. I think It sometimes has to do with the fact that we DON'T have sexual emotions, running our relationship. LOL. While @ the same time, sex will be good, to have back again, someday!!! It's all about the friendship intimacy, right now!
2007-12-30 07:55:05 · update #1
my husband and i are in the same situation. we have 5 kids, one 5 yr.old (adopted) still at home, who also sleeps more nights in our bed than his. We are both "round" and happy. But also exhausted! We probably have sex about once every 3 months? I've talked to other couples our age about it and, they all say the same thing. Eventually the sex goes and, the friendship sustains the marriage. My husband and i are best friends and couldn't imagine being without each other.
Personally I think it's part of the evolution of a relationship.
My older friends also tell me that the drive does come back.
2007-12-30 07:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have 6 kids sounds like you've enjoyed it before :) Probably all the issues you mention that puts you both out of the mood, kids, money, weight. You can be happy without it, as long as your happy about your situation it really don't matter.
The drive could come back at a later date, kids are a bit older, money not so tight. I don't think weight has anything to do with sex drive, maybe in your desire for the other person, who knows.
Whats that song, don't worry be happy.. sounds like you are
2007-12-30 07:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by vjustmehere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 40, we just had a little girl 3 months ago. prior to my pregnancy, we were wild as march hares..now I am happy to make love once a week.
That is OK, hubby is 38 BTW.
Take whatever you can get and give whatever you have...It all balances out in the end!
I too am a round lady, size has nothing to do with enjoying sex
blessings n luck
2007-12-30 09:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think your ever too fat to have sex but it's not nessecarily anything wrong with the no sex thing
Its a matter of choice i guess i mean there is way more to a marriage than sex life. Lots forget that and think that if there's little or no sex there's something wrong
But I wouldn't let problems in a marriage kill the sex part I mean I don't know maybe it's something that it's up to you though
But then again there's more to intimacy than sex too
2007-12-30 07:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What I see here is a bunch of excuses, sorry, but that's what I read here. Afraid to be intimate, (no sex if you pile kids in bed with you)
and depression is causing your obesity. If you want to live, then LIVE, if you want to be a sorry fat sap sitting around without sex or a marriage and feeling sorry for yourselves, continue as you are. THINK about it.
2007-12-30 07:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not a healthy sign either mentally or physically when people no longer want to have sex. Not something you should easily give up. Your missing out on a lot of life if you leave sex with your loved one out.
2007-12-30 07:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur happy so hey no worries right it may come back once some kids leave your bed who knows....
2007-12-30 07:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy in the way you are living right now,is okay.Good question.
2007-12-30 07:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of you are comfortable living without sex. . . that's all that matters.
2007-12-30 07:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you still have affection for one another I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-12-30 07:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋