Ok at the end of 2005 I dated this guy (James) for a few months, and I fell completely in love with him. He treated me with respect and he wasnt like the other guys I've dated. I ended it, simply because at the time I felt paranoid about what my friends were saying about me and him, stupid and shallow i know, i regret it.
Since that, he's had girlfriends, and I've tried so so hard to get over him. There have been other boys that liked me, who were willing to give it a chance but I can never get James out of my goddamn head. I've tried everything. Literally everything. I've been on holidays away for weeks, tried having fun with my friends and forget about him, spend time with my family. None of it works. I havent talked to him properly in about a year, how sad is that? I feel pathetic for feeling like this. It's just i miss him so badly, and everytime he insults me as a joke, or just messing about, it hurts and I dwell on it for weeks.
2007-12-30 06:41:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's had a girlfriend for about a year now. I'm going to a party tomorrow with only about 5 people, and he and his girlfriend are going. I'm considering telling him how I feel, hoping to get closure. I'm not really sure it's going to work. Its hard not to see him because he goes to my school. He's best mates with one of my best (boy) friends aswell..
PLEASE HELP ME!
2007-12-30 06:42:43 · update #1
Btw I'm 16. I know i'm young but I seriously feel like this is tearing me apart.
2007-12-30 06:43:51 · update #2
Do not say anything to him at a party with his girlfriend present. You will only embarrass yourself.
If you feel you must get this off your chest, ask him to meet you somewhere for coffee and tell him in private.
I am sorry, but girls that dwell on past relationships to this extent appear to be pathetic. I know your heart is broken, but grow a backbone, hold your head up high, have some pride, and get on with your life. You are wasting precious time on something from the past. Get on with today, and think about tomorrow.
2007-12-30 06:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's tearing you apart, Sweetie. You are still a child with grownup feelings that are hard to handle even for an adult. I would not confront him since he isn't the one for you, [it's obvious] so change your mind - I mean, really change your mind. Parties aren't that important, while your emotional health is. Make up your mind to forget the boy, forget the party. It is a decision that must be MADE. If the feelings get in the way, ask God to take those feelings away, and thank Him for it. Rent an uplifting movie, order a pizza, and spend time with family. When's the last time you had a really good time with family? They are the 'here and now' but won't always be there. Enjoy them. They might actually need you, right now. Be a shining light !
2007-12-30 06:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by superpest_99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, my friend, you have met your match and either youre not as good as you say or shes better. There could also be the facts that she may be a lesbian, or shes a friend of someone you played and no matter what shes going to show you. But you played your hand when you told her youre interested in her. The rest is superficial and meaningless as now she knows full well she has you right where she wants you and can play you like a violin.You need to get better, lay the bait and let them chase you. I could tell you how its done but I suspect that would only hurt your ego so I wont but only a handful of men exist that can do that. Your best bet now is to just back off out of sight and let her wonder where you are and let her think shes not all that. It will show her that just maybe youre not all that into her and women also do like a good challenge. You just need to reset your trap and be patient, if it was meant to be itll happen my friend. But next time dont paly your hand as women know if youre interested or not, but give a little to get her interested and let Nature run its course.Also you know when its too hard when you start questioning if its even worth the effort. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2016-04-02 02:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dare I say it?...It's difficult to put an old head on young shoulders...but....during your'e school/teenage years and maybe into your'e twenties!...you are going to "fall in love"...several times...and each time it ends you are going to feel like it's the end of the world!!!...Love is a stange word and can mean a lot of different things...but true love is earned with time,trust and a feeling of contentment...When I was your'e age?...I fell in love with just about anyone I thought was good looking and went out with me...after a week our combined different emotions,habits and even interests clashed sufficiently to split us up...so what is basic "Falling in Love"?...Its an 'interval' that you enjoy!...between meeting someone new and then discovering they are not the one for you!...and it's going to happen a lot more before you realise what I've said is true?...I can also predict that in the future...when you look back?...you will see it happen again with your'e own kids?...and you will be saying the same as I am....only you wont be upset by it...because it happens to everybody...and part of your'e growing up and gaining experience through life...Be Good...and hang on in there...this one wasn't meant to happen...but there will be others...
2007-12-30 07:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by djave djarvoo 'djas originel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know what your going through... The same thing has happened to me too . I know its hard to get over someone , after all when yoou think about everything youve been through and you probbaly thought it was gonna last forever right ? well things happen and even if we make plans life doesnt always care about our plans.. So you have to move on no matte rhow hard it may be.. If you found one great guy than your bound to find another.. but youll never know if you dont move on . I suggest you think about other options you have and think hard about it. As for the insulting jokes and the hurting, well im sure he doesnt mean it that way. Soemtimes men dont understand thngs like this and how a simple harmless joke can set you off into depresison and hurt. Dont take any of it personally, just laugh it off and move on ..... things will be okay... and at the party just avoid him and have agoodtime and dont think about him. maybe find a guy or someone to take him off your mind. If he does however come over and bring his new gf over than just act like nothings wrong.. even if it hurts you , dont let him see it. you have to learn to let things go and i promiseonce you do youll be much happier. ☺ i hope things workout for you .
Canel Stover Whitfield =)
2007-12-30 06:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by chanel ♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you're hanging onto something that never really existed. The relationship you two had was all in your head. I mean you dumped him after only a few months, and he's been with his new girlfriend for a year, so he wasn't that attached to you either. I think you're lonely in general and feel insecure without a boyfriend, but you're doing all the right things to distract yourself. I suggest you remind yourself every single day that you never really had a good relationship with this guy, he doesn't like you anymore, and you're fantasizing about a guy who doesn't think about you at all, ever. Hard things to think about, I know, but a good reality check is in order at this point.
2007-12-30 06:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You learn from the past and apply it to the future... be polite, friendly, compliment something, but don't tell him how you feel. Its a little toxic at this point.... save the drama... he would like to know that someone that broke it off and shattered his world is still interested with him for sure... but the timeing is bad. He will know what you are thinking with a smile and casual interest with his current going ons, also be sure to say his new girlfriend seems really nice, pretty, be totally positive. He will know to read between the lines when you tell him how lucky she is to have him for a boyfriend.
2007-12-30 06:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by chequemate 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start helping yourself.
I was with a girl for 5 years, very much in love.
It ended 2 years ago and I'm probably still in love with her, even though I haven't seen her in months and months.
It gets easier because you learn to be stronger. I've learned the price of taking what I had for granted. I'll never do it again.
I do know that I'm happy again because I learned to focus on making improvements in my life and friendships. Love will come on its own. For the first time in my life, I'm content being single.
When you have something that means the world to you, don't throw it away!
2007-12-30 06:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by Cosmodot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you should give him a call before this party. U don't just want to show up at the party like, "hey" since u haven't spoken to him in a year and that might be a bit awkward. Just ask him how things are and see what he says. Then, at the party, admit to him your true feelings, but tell him u completely understand he has a girlfriend now and u don't want to hurt their relationship, but u just wanted him to kno how u truly feel. good luck and have fun at that partay!
2007-12-30 06:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We ALWAYS want what we cannot have.
If you started dating him again, you would not want him after just a week or two. Happens every time.
He has a girlfriend now. If this were you, would you want a girl scheming how to get rid of you and get back with their use to be friend?
Force yourself to go out with other boys. DO NOT spend the time with them talking about the use to be boyfriend. They do not want to hear about your past boyfriends.
Do not go to that party, stay away. Go somewhere else.
2007-12-30 06:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋