Seems only fair given that I paid for my first wedding and didn't get a refund when it didn't work out, even though it wasn't my fault.
2007-12-30 07:02:22 · 56 answers · asked by Very happily married. 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
All bets and tradition off for a second marriage. Hell yes.
2007-12-30 07:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by MikeyintheOC 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
I think that you're blaming the first failed marriage on your fiancee, which isn't fair in the least. Hear me out...
You say that it's only fair because the first one didn't work out...well, it may not have been your fault, but it wasn't your current fiancee's fault either. No, you don't get a refund when a marriage doesn't work out, but that's just life...sometimes things work out, and sometimes they don't. But to say that this new to-be wife needs to pay for everything since the last one didn't isn't fair to her. Think about paying for the wedding jointly. Since you will in fact be paying for things together in the future, it would be a good way to start out. Good luck, and congrats!
2007-12-30 07:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by LeeAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Do you really want to get married? You sound as though you don't count on this marriage lasting. You sound pretty bitter. What does this marriage have to do with the other? If you want some kind of guarantee of a rebate if the thing doesn't work out, I recommend a) a prenuptial agreement that requires payment to you of at least one half the cost of the wedding b) you go with a smaller affair that doesn't cost much or c) don't even bother getting married because there are no guarantees in life and you don't sound happy about the prospect of marrying your fiance. Life's too short.
2007-12-30 08:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not her fault that your first marriage didnt work out.
Why should she have to foot the entire bill just because you are too scabby to pay any.
I think the kindest thing to do is to break off the engagement so this poor girl can find a real man who will treat her better. You sound like an a$$hole. Obviously she deserves better and you have no confindence in the relationship working out.
If you loved this girl you would make sure she got the dream wedding she deserves.
I hate bitter and twisted divorced men like you. Grow up.
2007-12-30 09:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your current mate's fault that you paid for your last wedding, so u can't hold that against them. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding, but with the changing times, people see fit to split the wedding cost. It's up to you how your truly want to handle it.
2007-12-30 07:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't your new fiancee's fault that your first marriage didn't work out. start taking responsibility for yourself and your actions and you'll realize that you two should split the cost - you will be sharing everything from now on, so this is not a time to be totally selfish. Marriage is about compromise - maybe you should think about this as a potential reason why you failed at it the first time...
2007-12-30 07:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a wedding there are items both sides pay for. The Bride will pay all the wedding day costs. The groom should pick up the rehearsal Dinner and honeymoon. Don't forget, he has already paid for a ring.
2007-12-30 07:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Ed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The brides parents aren't obligated to pay for her second wedding, especially if the bride wants an all-out first timer sort of wedding.
That rule was when a bride was a young girl out on her own for the first time.
If shes older and on her second or third marriage, doesn't live at home, shes responsible for her own bills.
As adults, you can both pay for your own wedding.
2007-12-30 07:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, already making the sins of your ex problems for your fiancee'. Hope he is rethinking all this. If you already had a big wedding, why not just go somewhere and make it romantic with just the two of you. Keep the past the past and all new things for the future. Hope it works out for both of you. You can always have a open house when you return for your family and friends and still celebrate your union,.
2007-12-30 07:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by onehoneybear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents are only responsible (traditionally) for the FIRST wedding of their children. Any other weddings should be split between the two adults who are getting married. You really should divvy up the wedding expenses with your new fiance' and split the costs between the two of you...now that you're all grown up.
I don't understand how the result of your first marriage has anything to do with this one? Is your fiance also making you "pay" for their bad choice investments prior to meeting you too???
2007-12-30 07:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Beach Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a traditional wedding the brides parents, the bride, a family member of the bride, or a friend of the bride pays for the brides wedding. The groom is supposed to pay for rehersal dinner and the honeymoon. But really I think that it's just up to the bride and groom who is going to pay for what. It's not how or who pays for it that matters it's the fact that it's happening. Good luck
2007-12-30 07:08:05 · answer #11 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋