What do I do about my coworkers lies.?

Question

she is always lying about really stupid stuff...like today for example she insisted she was born in D.C. so I asked her for the first 3 numbers of her social security number and the numbers she gave me matched what a person born in Maryland would have not one born in D.C.

I confronted her with this and told her I know she is lying and she still will not admit that she isn't telling the truth despite me showing her the proof



how can I handle this? How can I get her to embrace where she is from and tell the truth?

Answer 1

people who lie have mental problems often times it is from a traumatic experience such as rape. maybe something bad happen to her in her life so she creates a fantasy of her own.

Answer 2

I think the person here with an issue is you, not your co-worker. Why have you made this your mission? How much energy will you waste on a potentially useless endevour?

Here's some more info...

"The Area Number, the first three digits, is assigned by the geographical region. Prior to 1972, cards were issued in local Social Security offices around the country and the Area Number represented the office code in which the card was issued. This did not necessarily have to be in the area where the applicant lived, since a person could apply for their card in any Social Security office. Since 1972, when SSA began assigning SSNs and issuing cards centrally from Baltimore, the area number assigned has been based on the ZIP code in the mailing address provided on the application for the original Social Security card. The applicant's mailing address does not have to be the same as their place of residence. Thus, the Area Number does not necessarily represent the State of residence of the applicant, neither prior to 1972, nor since."

So nice try, but definitely, no cigar. I think you have created a personal vendetta against this person, and you strive to discredit her. More than likely your other co-workers see you acting in this fashion and it brings down YOUR respect in the workplace, not your "lying" friends. If you don't like somebody, ignore them, put up with them, whatever you need to do, but this shouldn't be on your mind at the end of the day. You need to drop the subject.

Answer 3

Does it really matter where she was born? And how is it any of your business? She very well could be telling you the truth. It sounds to me like you either have something against her or you are just a troublemaker. Even if she is lying, where she is from really isn't your business. Big deal, she might be lying to you. NEWSFLASH- Everyone lies, including you!!!! Personally, I would hate it if I were one of your co-workers. Having you up in my business all day long would drive me crazy. Give the poor girl a break! I don't know how this question falls into singles and dating, unless you are trying to date her.

Answer 4

I was BORN in DC, but my parents resided in Maryland. So my SS# prefix is for a MD resident as that is where I was RESIDING. My parents chose a hospital in DC to birth me.

So when asked where I was BORN, I say DC, but when asked where I grew up I say MD.

Why are you making such a big deal over this, It is a non-issue. Maryland & DC are right next to each other so what do you care ?

From the second link:
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About Social Security Numbers

Since 1972, social security numbers have been issued by the central office of the Social Security Administration's. The first three (3) digits of a person's social security number are determined by the ZIP Code of the mailing address shown on the application for a social security number. Prior to 1972, social security numbers were assigned by field offices. The number merely established that his/her card was issued by one of our offices in that State.
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The first three numbers of the SS deal with where the person was residing when they APPLIED for the card. Since DC & MD are so close together, and since I personally was born in DC but applied from MD for my SS card, I am in the same situation as your co-worker.

You owe her a BIG apology for calling her a LIAR. In fact, if you are going around the office, touting this as proof that she is a LIAR, then you in fact are spreading false witness about her.

You seem to have some other petty vendetta against her. I don't think you have caught her in any lies. I think you are snooping around on her, looking for "lies" where none may be found.

Why would you even question where someone is born ? Why would she have to "insist" upon this to you ? Why are you investigating her like some some Columbo wannabe ? I think you should get back to work and stop harassing your co-worker.

I am AMAZED at the number of people who blithely insist that this co-worker is a terrible liar and that you are the bigger person, based on such a false supposition. There is not real reason for someone to lie about where they were born by a few miles (DC & MD border each other) and as I, and several people have pointed out a SS# does not "prove" where anyone was born, it only "proves" what state their mailing address was when they applied for their social security #. The real issue is why are you interrogating and investigating your co-worker on something that is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS ??????

Hmmmm, I see you have added a little tid bit to your post. Even after it has been shown that your "proof" is bogus and doesn't prove a d--- thing, you just won't let it go. Don't be surprised if your co-worker marches into Human Resources and lodges a harassement complaint against you.

Answer 5

You should get over it. Maybe she lived near D.C. Maybe she was born in D.C., but her parents resided in Maryland? D.C. does, afterall, border Maryland. This is the proverbial "spilled milk" that one should not cry over or even nitpick over. What does she have to gain from lying about where she is from? She may be lying about stupid stuff, sure, but it doesn't seem like it, and even if she did, it's not nearly as bad as you seem to nitpick by insisting that somebody is lying about their origins. It's none of your business to get her to admit to something she is unwilling to admit to. You're being completely outrageous and unreasonable in my opinion and I feel you owe her an apology.

Answer 6

just last night the credit card denied me to cash a check for something just similar to this, that was their mistake, I on the other hand had a friend that lies all the time, I am not good at confronting my friends because I want them to like me and be my friends and I also am a push over in that way and I will also protect them in that way, but those that are not close to me I do not have the same tendency to do that with I just tell them and if they don't stop then we argue or I find a way to avoid them, sounds like those may not be good options for you here, so maybe best is to just know that this person is doing this to you and let it go? but like one of the answers said why are you snooping in her business?

Answer 7

IF she wants to lie let her lie. Don't forget that you can't find truth through lies. Soon enough her lies are bond to catch up to her. She will fall into her own trap and then you can stand there and laugh as you say I told you so.

But don't let it get the best of you. Now that you know she is a liar you can make out her true character and soon others will see the same.

So as for right now don't worry about it. Let it go! No need to get all worked up about this girl when it is clear you are the better person. So by being the better person let time take it's place to bite her in the A**. By that I mean reality will take its toll.

Answer 8

I would leave the situation alone. With her being a co worker there is a chance that this situation could be blown out of proportion & the result could reflect poorly on you. I don't know that you could stop her from lying, that's just what some people do. If it really bothers you that much I would keep my distance from her.

Answer 9

I used to have a co-worker that did this all the time. There is nothing you can do to control her lying. Some people lie to make themselves feel important, or just to have a good story to tell. What I would do, is call her out every time you know she is telling a lie. Maybe this will embarrass her enough to quit. (Even though it did not work with my coworker.)

Answer 10

Well no she was probably born in DC but her parents resided in P.G. county which is on the boarder line of Maryland.
You sound jealous of her and a little pathetic. If I were you I would apologize to her. She's probably native American and they are peaceful so she'll probably forgive you. JERK.

Answer 11

Why do you even care? This problem is so small, if all your problems were like this, you would have a fantastic life! I say mind your own business and leave hers alone.