Family & Relationships - 30 December 2007

I have multiple schlerosis (MS). I told me best friend a couple of months ago and ever since she's been spending less and less time with me.

My doctor tells me the disease is quite serious. I may suffer loss of vision, loss of muscle movement at time, loose my balance, loose my ability to reason and solve problems at times. I told my best friend all this just so she can be preparedd for when it does happen in front of all. So far none of this has occured yet.

I love my best friend. We've had big arguments and made up. We've done alot of things together. I want her around but i can't get her to ring me or hang with me anymore. She spends more time with her other freinds who are smart (they go to medical school), they're good looking and have many parties. Her boyfriend is good looking and popular. So i kind of understand why she don't see the point of being around a soon to be cripple like me.

what should i tell her to make her look at me the same way again???? please help.

2007-12-30 01:15:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

do you have things that you are not willing to talk about?

2007-12-30 01:03:05 · 8 answers · asked by whatever w 1 in Friends

Myself and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years and finally feel we're both ready to loose our virginity to each other. However, our families after being good friends themselves fell out months back and don't like the fact we're still seeing each other, and our parents don't go out an awful lot so we're finding it hard to be alone to do what we want and have some privacy.

What I really would like to ask is what sort of place we could be alone where it is reasonably comfortable and we can enjoy the experience - obviously we've thought about renting a room for a night but she doesn't want that.

Any suggestions would be most grateful. Thanks

2007-12-30 01:02:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am having some family problems. I don't get along with any of my family members. At first I was getting along with my dad but it got worst. Parents been divorced. I am trying to go back to college and I don't know how long I can stand living with my father. Would you move out? I can't even get a good night sleep for a whole month.

2007-12-30 00:57:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

This girl is an adult and an only child, and she is the rudest, nastiest, selfish, know-it-all I ever met in my life. She uses her big mouth to get whatever she wants and has the entire family scared to death of her.
I've gently hinted around that I'd never let either one of my children cuss at me and tell me how much money to spend, or let them just dump their children on me whenever they wanted expecting me to watch them for 10-12 hours at a time and not offer to pay me. (Or having the gall to ask me to babysit while I hang out with my friends and my husband goes and plays golf...and the husband only works part time!!)
I've also said that I'd never let my children disrespect me and talk to me like I was a piece of dirt, but it all seems to go right over her head, like I'm not referring to her precious Monster child.
I hate to see my recently retired best friend be used and abused like this, any constructive advice is appreciated.

2007-12-30 00:57:03 · 17 answers · asked by serialmom12 5 in Friends

I just found out my future brother-in-law's fiancee is pregnant. First I was irritated that they're even a couple still - they broke up for a year and they do not have what I would call a "solid" relationship. As a matter of fact about 3-4 months ago she OD'd herself after a fight (and not on purpose, just out of stupidity!) I just found out a week ago that she had a miscarriage, but then find out this week that was wrong and she is, in fact, pregnant. Apparently they have been trying even though they are not married, and she wasn't even living with him at the time when they decided to try starting (she had moved out). She's a smoker and a drinker, and it seemed like she had no problem finding out she had miscarried since she had several beers at the X-mas party.....

I'm irritated because I don't think this is a good thing, and yes I know it's not my business and I have no control over it, but it still bugs me....

2007-12-30 00:55:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my husband and are have been married for nearly 14`years, we have had a great relationship but for the last couple of years its been on a huge downhill.we fight on a daily basis, there is no more lust, he lies to me constantly.believe it or not i want this marriage to last.we have two beautiful kids.
any advice is appreciated, please dont tell us to go to counselling as, he will not, he doesnt see that he has problems...lol

2007-12-30 00:55:03 · 19 answers · asked by boohoo 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A guy I have no relation to in friends or anything on facebook asked me why I was single... and asked me for my yahoo/aim im name. He doesn't even go to my school anymore, and just by chance thought my profile picture was cute. Should I give him an im name or is he just a pedo and I should ignore the whole thing?

2007-12-30 00:53:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

is this lady trying to give me a signal? is she sexually attracted to me?

2007-12-30 00:47:47 · 17 answers · asked by jsmithlong 2 in Singles & Dating

i came up to you and gave you a hug?

2007-12-30 00:46:31 · 10 answers · asked by adam m 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been talking to this guy for about a week and it seemed like we were getting along really well. Sometimes we run out of things to talk about but will think of things after a while. Lately he hasn't really said anything to me, is he sick of having to start the conversations? Would it be better if I talked to him instead? What is he doing?

2007-12-30 00:44:27 · 14 answers · asked by Mandy-Lu 3 in Singles & Dating

Guys do you like a girl who is intelligent, interesting and has her own opinions.

Or do you prefer a very normal girl next door type who never does anything out of the ordinary and is just very normal and typical?

I usually see guys dating the boring, really normal girls and not the ones who have their own opinions and are interesting in some way. What's with that?

2007-12-30 00:42:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

in short, I love a girl. A year ago when i told her about my feelings she said she needed time (she liked me too)

Whenever i talk about situation she always say she needs time to think what she wants, and now when i asked again she said she likes me but we are not like other couples, we always like friends.

I think there is a misunderstanding because i thought she still thinking so all this time whenever we went out, I took it as we only going as friends because i was the one who ask her to go somwhere and I tried not to cross my limits as friends.
So i asked her out properly by sending teddy and flowers and asked for a fresh start. she said let her think as if dsnt work i will get hurt & she dnt want to. i told her ill wait for answr

Now after month, we went out for her bday.she was nice and ther was a point we held hands for lil while & also she held my arm while shopping.

PLZ, I need to know if its a sign she want to try, or she being friendly bcz we friends for 5 yrs

2007-12-30 00:39:09 · 25 answers · asked by iamconfuse 1 in Singles & Dating

my ears stick out, and i really don't like it, i always have my hair down, but i want it up.
i'm 15, and i'll be 16 in june, i heard you can get it done for free if you're under 16 :]
i havn't even mentioned it to my dad, because if i do, he'll say 'stop being so stupid', he doesn't understand.
i know he will say no, but i really want it done, i've always hated my ears ever since i was real young.
i don't know what to do. grr.

2007-12-30 00:35:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Can't believe I'm asking on here...
This girl and I were very close friends, she admitted she liked me more then that.
At the time I didn't want to ruin the friendship, although I did like her a lil in that way. Her girlfriends (also close friends with me) would tell me how much she wanted it to be more. A week after we start getting closer she announces she's going out with a guy, also in the same circle of friends. It's been 1 year, and we rarely have talked since then. I'm still hung up over it, esp the loss of friendship as well. Recently I was told she (in her friends words) 'was still obcessed with me when she got with this guy.But their Still together..I'm wondering if she's only with him because she couldn't be with me? But it has been a year.
The guy shes with knows how much she liked me and hes also a "sortof" friend. soI'd feel weird trying to make contact to her after all this time I miss her, but am unsure what to do.
My friends have no idea I like her so muchthis way

2007-12-30 00:34:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am male, college student, 19 year old virgin.

Before dating my ex, I was a shy kid around girls. I didn't understand them, but I always respected them. Girls were a luxury to me, and I promised myself if I ever had the chance to date a girl, I'd treat her well, give my virginity to her, and marry her.
However, my perspective on relationships drastically changed as I experienced the complications involved in a relationship. Dating this girl inevitably led to the destruction of my confidence and it's an experience I would like to stay away from for a long time.
I don't want a relationship anymore, but my raging hormones prevent me from leaving females alone. I'm not the type to pursue women for sexual play, but it's a lifestyle I would like to get into. However, I'm one of those guys with emotions and sensitivity; the type of guy who women usually see as "friends". I've made up my mind, I want to be the guy who rakes in all the sexual glory with strangers... but how?

2007-12-30 00:31:25 · 9 answers · asked by Stephen C 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been living in germany with my g/f for a few months and flew home for xmas. my g/f wasn't sure of where she would be on new years eve so i booked my flight back to germany on new years day. when it transpired she would actually be staying at home, it was too late for me to change my flight to be with her on new yrs eve and it was too expensive (£80ish) to get a new flight. BUT, then I got £100 b'day (which is today!!) money. My g/f was so upset that she couldn't be with me and that i was alone on my b'day and new years, so i decided to spend £80 of my b'day money on the flight. another advantage of this is that now i have an extra day to settle before starting work again on the 2nd Jan. But i feel stupid for using up money given to me as a present on this, esp as I had another flight booked for THE NEXT DAY! Cld someone pls tell me i'm not a total idiot, maybe just a partial one? thanks a lot!! At least now I won't be alone on new year right????

2007-12-30 00:30:21 · 18 answers · asked by colejoe79 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I think it's like a nervous tick or something? It's really funny, i've heard that when you're nervous you touch your nose so could it be the same thing? Could it be like a 'damn she caught me looking' sort of thing? Anyway i like him and I've seen him looking at me quite often and he does this quite often too, so what do you think, could he like me?

2007-12-30 00:24:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-30 00:24:11 · 23 answers · asked by chralissia 6 in Singles & Dating

Should i say i love her even tho i know she doesnt love me??
Even in a text?? What should i say?

2007-12-30 00:21:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend just proposed to me and I don't know what to say.
He treats me badly one day, and then the next day, he's as sweet as a peice of sugar coated candy!

Once, he actually beat me with his fists. Then the next day, he was so nice to me! I don't know.

Can someone help me decide? I really love him sometimes, but other times...i'm not sure.

2007-12-30 00:17:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I remember when I was 8, my former foster dad got arrested, & I weeped all day. I'm 24 now. He died when I was 9. I really loved him.

2007-12-30 00:16:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

At the end of the walk she rubbed her hand in 3 small circles in the middle of my forearm. At the same time she looked in my eyes and said "You're all sweaty". I felt uncomfortable so I said nothing. Was she just being a friendly woman or more? Now, its about 8 months later and she seems to keep her distance from me all month long but then always bumps into me at the end of every month and asks if I've been keeping busy or asks sometimes if I'm seeing anyone lately. Even though I like her as a friend and I'm attracted to her, I have no desire to be more than friends nor friends with benefits kind of thing, yuck. Her and her husband are moving away for 3 years for her job promotion and then moving back here to the same house. Please offer your wisdom and experience. No comedic answers please. :)

2007-12-30 00:12:27 · 13 answers · asked by qwerty 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If you could change one thing going on in your life right now, what would it be and why?

If you can't realistically change what you would like...how do you cope with it?

2007-12-30 00:12:25 · 10 answers · asked by sublime 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-30 00:02:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce