At the end of the walk she rubbed her hand in 3 small circles in the middle of my forearm. At the same time she looked in my eyes and said "You're all sweaty". I felt uncomfortable so I said nothing. Was she just being a friendly woman or more? Now, its about 8 months later and she seems to keep her distance from me all month long but then always bumps into me at the end of every month and asks if I've been keeping busy or asks sometimes if I'm seeing anyone lately. Even though I like her as a friend and I'm attracted to her, I have no desire to be more than friends nor friends with benefits kind of thing, yuck. Her and her husband are moving away for 3 years for her job promotion and then moving back here to the same house. Please offer your wisdom and experience. No comedic answers please. :)
2007-12-30 00:12:27 · 13 answers · asked by qwerty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A few questions to consider:
1. "Why" does it matter now (especially since she is moving away)?
2. Have you been re-visiting experiences that you shared in the past with this woman? Why?
3. Do you (now) desire "more" from her that previously?
4. What's your current level of "satisfaction" with your marriage?
"A man does not go fishing unless he seeks to catch something" ...
2007-12-30 01:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by bucit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is attracted to you, too. Since you didn't really respond to her initial touch and comment, she may be embarrassed that you might have read more into it than she intended. Perhaps most of the month she is very busy, and when your paths do meet she likes to try catching up on how things are with you. Make sure you inquire about her husband. It will kind of reassure her that you are not trying to make a move on her. If given a chance, get to know him too. Who knows - you may all have more in common that just dog walking and being neighbors. Everyone can use another friend or two.
There is nothing wrong with a man being friends with a married woman. If you know each other well enough, even a little flirt now and then can be fun. Just keep it out in the open and above board.
2007-12-30 00:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by sandyblondegirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that she's just a touchy kind of a girl... however it could also mean that she was subconciously showing her interest in you through touch.
It's hard to tell without directly observing the situation. I have a couple of female friends who just can't keep their hands to their self in a conversation. They don't always mean to come across as flirting when they talk, but they generally do touch the person they are talking to as their way of communicating.
You can test the waters a bit if your interested in her action and touch her back. She instigated the physical touch so more in likely if you placed your hand (no more than 3 seconds) on her shoulder she shouldn't have a problem with it in a conversation.
The only reason I'd suggest doing this is to see if her touches become more frequent. The key is to not make a big deal out of it and do it in a casual way as she did. If she's left with the thought "Did he touch me because he likes me?" Chances are she will only progress the situation into something more.
However, as you stated before, you felt uncomfortable. If you'd rather just keep her as a friend, you can let this train of thought roll on with the tracks it is on and let her and her husband move away to live their life.
Me personally.... I would definitely test the waters.
2007-12-30 00:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by untamed_soul 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that's loopy! you're top-"the peak of conceitedness". And that's no longer correct what time your spouse walks the canines, it must be 2:00 interior the morning. that's a hundred% your neighbor's situation. Now dealing with the neighbor could grow to be uncomfortable, yet i could only proceed doing what you all have been doing, genuinely do no longer exchange your strolling course, and sympathize with the neighbor if he says something, yet make it clean that his canines are his duty. only say it properly. you're top, persons are loopy and additionally you do no longer choose your spouse to be in an risky situation. If it maintains to be a situation and in the adventure that your neighbor turns into unfavorable, i could touch your close by police and ask them in the event that they have a community kinfolk officer that could come out and talk to the neighbor.
2016-10-20 09:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by henshaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if shes married stay away from her . Just friends . If she gets divorced and you like her then you might have a chance with her . That is the only proper way . You are obviously thinking about this or you wouldn't have asked .
2007-12-30 00:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The touching was a little weird.
It doesn't really matter what her intentions are. She's married.
I'm glad you what to keep it friends. There are lots of attractive people out there. Go find one and you will stop worrying about the whole incident. You won't give a flying hoot about their living arrangements either.
You just need to go find someone.
Good luck and happy hunting.
2007-12-30 00:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I think you need to stay away from her. She obviously has more on her mind than just "friendship". I'm glad to see that you have no interest in getting involved with her in that way. Good for you! But, I really think you need to steer clear of that one.. she sounds like a real tramp. Nothing good could possibly come from that friendship..
2007-12-30 02:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are that way , it's just the way women act , you guys must have been talking about deep stuff , and she wanted to slay someone and you told her to not worry about it ,, she then responded only as evaluation of the person she had just walked with , and new that her neighbor is a sweetey , Not all neighbors are , she's probably happy she drew you as a neighbor , No wars there .....
2007-12-30 01:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk the dogs off the path into the woods, see what happens.
Good luck.
2007-12-30 05:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jsut being friendly. My female friends and some coworkers are like this all the time.
2007-12-30 00:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by hahaha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋