in short, I love a girl. A year ago when i told her about my feelings she said she needed time (she liked me too)
Whenever i talk about situation she always say she needs time to think what she wants, and now when i asked again she said she likes me but we are not like other couples, we always like friends.
I think there is a misunderstanding because i thought she still thinking so all this time whenever we went out, I took it as we only going as friends because i was the one who ask her to go somwhere and I tried not to cross my limits as friends.
So i asked her out properly by sending teddy and flowers and asked for a fresh start. she said let her think as if dsnt work i will get hurt & she dnt want to. i told her ill wait for answr
Now after month, we went out for her bday.she was nice and ther was a point we held hands for lil while & also she held my arm while shopping.
PLZ, I need to know if its a sign she want to try, or she being friendly bcz we friends for 5 yrs
2007-12-30 00:39:09 · 25 answers · asked by iamconfuse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
adding more: We are friends for like 5 years but we were just friends before and she hinted me that she likes me but i didnt have any feelings.. and when i started i told her.. so yea its about year now.. we dnt go out much as friends now either.. and never held hands or anything.. she knows how i feel and i asked her straight that i need to know as i cant move on. i told her i wont be mad or anything if its a no just tell me so i can move on.
Now it felt different when we held hands for a little while and she had her hands around my arm. I know holding hands can be friendly but holding arm while walking doesnt seem like something just friends do. I cant even ask her again as dnt want to pressurize her.
Just want to know what to do.. where to take her which is not just friendly bit romantic as well. I did cooked her, her favorite meal when we went out.
2007-12-30 01:36:19 · update #1
She likes you as a friend and enjoys your company, that's all. She's not ready for any boyfriend, girlfriend type relationship and may not be attracted to you as a potential mate, that's why she keeps saying she needed time which may mean she needed to look for other people first. Give yourself freedom to enjoy other people's company too.
2007-12-30 00:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Stubborn Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has taken more than a year (Five years?)to think about you. And still you do not realise what is in the offing.
Girls have to be nice, attentive when you shower presents and attend birthday meet. They are taught not to be curt or rude to anyone.
Obviously she doe not think all these years that you could be the ideal one for her. Why do you not evaluate yourself first and find out what others (girls) expect of you. One or two night dinner stands aer not enough for a permanent friendship. Think more deeply about her, if she is worthy to you and does she keep thinking about you deeply or superficially. Analyse what she does all these months/years.
Invest your time for her properly and should not be the case that you jump into love in a hurry and then repent at leisure.
2007-12-30 00:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by NewTech-Bio. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss her!!
or at least be really flirty with her obviously she has feelings also she is just nervous cos she doesnt want ur friendship ruined if the subject comes up again tell her watever happens u will always be her friend so she feels secure about that... also dont bring it up to often as this will pressure her and might freak her out.. but if she doesnt answer for a long time tell her u jsut need to kno one way or another and she cant keep u dangling
also make sure she knows u get attension from other girls and that u wont be around forever
answer my question??? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071230052039AAXnz0n&r=w
2007-12-30 00:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it up to you but if you known this girl for 5 years and she is still thinking about it then she isn't trying to think if she just want's to go out with you. She's thinking how to break it up to you.
Girls give the same lame excuse all the time. Don't believe me. Look at the other questions in this place. Half of the guys out here wan't to know the same thing. 99 percent of the time she is just not interested in you.
2007-12-30 00:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by CharlieJr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, someone is reliving my life! My advice to you is go out with her again but this time go for the kiss. If she truly wants to be more than friends she will let you know after the kiss. From personal experience and heartache I did the same thing as you but finally when I tried to kiss them, the result after the kiss let me know where I stood.
Good Luck and remember if it doesn't work out there are many great girls!
2007-12-30 00:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by rydaldude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this has been going on for a year,
and you've made it perfectly clear how you feel
but she is still in friend mode...
it looks like this is where it'll stay unless you do something. either lay off going out with her so much, and see if she comes around, or find someone else that wants the same thing as you do.
good luck
2007-12-30 00:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find out is to ask.
But my opinion is that she may want to only be friends, or she may want to keep her options open. Either way, you need to find a way not to get hurt.
My suggestion is move on for now. Don't waste time chasing someone. Find somebody who is fun to be with and shows respect for you by keeping you in the loop about her feelings. Believe me there are many girls or women out there who want to find love. Sounds like you have lots to give.
2007-12-30 00:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by UrbanFarmer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, hear this from a girl
if she said she wants to be just friends, then she meant it.
i was once in the same situation with a friend and i want it to stay at this 'just friends'. but believe me, things were never the same and i couldnt talk to him the way i did before. but if you still talk, that's good.
you say you two held hands, to me that's a sign she wants to try. if she didn't, i bet she wouldn't give you fake signals.
try talk to her again about how you feel, take the chance once more. good luck! :)
2007-12-30 00:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Adi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her flat out if there is a chance for romance. Be prepared for an answer of NO but get off the Merry-Go-Round! Do not live your life in limbo. A year is long enough!
2007-12-30 00:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by p h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I say you should do. start dating other women. Maybe when she sees you interacting with other girls and getting on with your life she will see you're not going to wait around. Also you may find another girl you like better.
sorry if it's not the answer you are looking for but it is how I see it.
2007-12-30 00:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by roof_top_eagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋