What to do about a Girl?

Question

Can't believe I'm asking on here...
This girl and I were very close friends, she admitted she liked me more then that.
At the time I didn't want to ruin the friendship, although I did like her a lil in that way. Her girlfriends (also close friends with me) would tell me how much she wanted it to be more. A week after we start getting closer she announces she's going out with a guy, also in the same circle of friends. It's been 1 year, and we rarely have talked since then. I'm still hung up over it, esp the loss of friendship as well. Recently I was told she (in her friends words) 'was still obcessed with me when she got with this guy.But their Still together..I'm wondering if she's only with him because she couldn't be with me? But it has been a year.
The guy shes with knows how much she liked me and hes also a "sortof" friend. soI'd feel weird trying to make contact to her after all this time I miss her, but am unsure what to do.
My friends have no idea I like her so muchthis way

Answer 1

well you don't need to be ashamed of liking her.
did you think, maybe she does like you but is waiting for the right time to break up with him? i'm in that similar situation, care bout my bff but need to break up with mongan first and i need to wait until the next year.
just drop her a line. something like 'hey, haven't heard from you in ages, what have you been up to?' or leave her a myspace comment saying 'hey' or something.
if you're still stuck for ideas, organise a party or a group to go bowling and make sure a mutual friend invites her so you can catch up with her then. make sure it's a reasonably small group.
anyway, good luck.
is it OK to break up on new year's eve?
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Answer 2

I really feel for you especially loosing such a good mate its really hard as to know weather or not to take the step beyond friendship or to leave it as it is. I think what happened was yes she did like you and prob more than just on a friend basis, but i think what happened is that she may of tacked on to this guy in order to make you jealous, unfortunately in doing this has made a rod for her own back, still with the other guy but obsessed over you. Be careful that she isn't just caught up in some fantasy land of what it would be like to be with you, (and I'm not having a go at you buy any means), I think that you should tell her that you miss her friendship and that it would be nice to catch up for a chat every now and then see where it goes from there. Most of all look out for you and your emotions because that is more important. If the situation then presents itself to be really open honest with her take it you have nothing to loose, you cant loose something that barely exists eg (the friendship ) or you cant loose something that wasn't yours to begin with good luck with this mate i really hope that it works out of you, and that you get what you want. There is no better time to make postive moves than the new yr

Answer 3

... you rejected her. Being on the opposite of the problem, I have to say that I can't sympathize with you that much. It seems like you're just liking her because you can't have her now. How on earth do you know you were "getting closer"? If you don't tell her anything, she has no idea what you're thinking or how you feel.
Put it this way, if you see yourself in 10 or more years, going to her wedding, and you still think you'll like her even then and regret never saying anything... you KNOW that you should say something to her now, while you still can. Even if she turns you down, or if she doesn't want to talk to you, it doesn't change anything, because you aren't as close friends now anyway. Although, if I were you, I would try to be closer friends with her again before telling her.

Answer 4

I guessing that she either went out with this guy to make you jealous, or as you said, because she couldn't be with you. She put herself out there, and her friends did, for you and she might have given up hope without you knowing it. She probably thought, well he knows i like him and my friends have told him and he hasn't made a move so i guess he doesn't want to go out with me. is girls can be very stupid sometimes, especially when it comes to love. i don't even completely understand it. if you really want to get back in touch with her send her a txt or email just asking her how she is. and eventually build a friendship up again. best of luck to you!

Answer 5

i agree with the make up artist. send her a text message or an email or something and ask hw she is. then start working up a relationship. im telling you, there is another guy who is worse then you. he broke up with his gf, and she went to a guy named shawn. then they broke up and she came back to him. they had a sleepover tehn in the morning, she dumped him. he is way confused. you dont want to end up like him. i feel sorry for him. poor lad. but you gotta do things while you still can. but even if she doesnt say yes (not saying she wont) ya gotta look on the bright side. your probably still young. enjoy life as a kid (if you are a kid - dont mean to offend you or anything) so ya gotta look on the bright side. theres other women who you will fall in love with. and surely theres a women who will fall in love with you aswell. theres a big life ahead of you. enjoy life while you can.

good luck!

Answer 6

well u should not give up on her, fight for her, i guess u should of take her before , now she's in a relationship with a guy,just do what u feel is right, do u want to be in a relationship with her? or continue with your friendship that u had with her before? it up to u

Answer 7

i'm biggest hypocrite for saying this

but it's not healthy to bottle these emotions up.

you should clear your conscience by confronting her.

Answer 8

if shes been seeing the other guy for a year
drop her and forget about her.

Answer 9

go up to her when shes with her boyfriend and take her in your arms and kiss her if she kisses back then you can have her

Answer 10

Ok maybe you dont understand this.. shes a whore.