My heart is hurting and mixed up !!?

Question

I went out with this man for 7 months we keep broking up he has some commitmnt problems & when he drinks him filts to much with other woman .Well we talk & brok it off last year .I went out of stat to get way from things like him ! It did not work to well but we did not have any contact for a while .When i get home i got a new job & was doing good i meet this man how is great we are seeing each other could not ask for better !
My ex started seeing some one 2 witch is good but We see each other out one day & talked for about 4 houres .He & I still feelings for eachother !! He told me he still loved me but dose not want to do any thing to mess up me & this great guy !
I have been seeing my Ex for luvch & talking alot when i can !
I feel very bad for doing this to my new guy but i cant lose my ex because he was my best friend not only my lover!
I have been depressed & feel so sad alot til i see my ex i feel happy again ! My ex asked me this how & what would i do if he wanted to get

Answer 1

By the simple fact the ex told you that he loved YOU when he has someone and you have SOMEONE, says that he knows how to mess with your head. He is controlling your happiness and you are gullible to it. Why hurt these people in both of your lives to go back to someone you got rid of for a reason?

If you get back together again it will probably be temporary and the same commitment issues will return and you will have given up a potential good man and he will have accomplished controlling your destiny to misery land!

Let him go and stay gone!

Answer 2

Sister (I have a sister just like you), your EX is giving you a crock of s*hit. He obviously is not getting away with too much with his new girl friend so he's coming back to someone who he knows is a push over and he can do what he wants, when he wants and how he wants. Your EX does NOT love you, now, before or ever! If he had loved you, y'all would still be together.

There is no such thing as "second chance" in love. Once you lose it, leave it and move on. There are too many fish in this sea of life to keep getting stung by the same sword fish.

Your EX is just that "EX". Do you know what that means? It means "history, adios, sayonara, Past" or should I say "Pest". Walk away. Do yourself a big favor -- go get drunk and walk away with another guy. You obviously don't have any feelings for the "new guy" so go find another one. Like I told you, there's too many fish out there. Go find another one. O.K. Good Luck.

Answer 3

woooow you have a prob.if your new guy starts getting jealous just talk with him and tell him that you and your ex are just friends and he has nothing to worry about

do you really want to get back with a guy who drinks and flirts with other women and if yal broke up off and on then it seems like to me that the relationship wasn't very strong

on the other hand maybe he could get help for drinking

i dont really know what to tell you besides that

Answer 4

ur lying to urself if you think your not cheating ....ur taking to him for hours ...seeing him for lunches and also know that the 2 of u still have feelings for eachother ...i dont belive in this best friend crap ...you know exactly what your doing ...and thats cheating .....ask urself this ...would u like ur new bf to be spending this much time with his ex knowing fully well that both of em still have feelings for eachother..but want to be 'friends'.......are u trying to tell me that wouldnt bother u at all ?? come on ....pick a guy and stick to him ...remember we r all karma's ***** ....what goes around comes around ...u need to make a choice soon .....sorry if i came off as rude or mean ..but ive had this done to me so i know what it feels like ...make a choice fast before hearts get broken ...good luck

Answer 5

you know what he was like when you two were together
he has not changed and neither have you..
there is a reason he is your x
if you dont stop seeing him you will miss out on the best guy that you already have and regret it for the rest of your life

stop seeing your x..

you are hurting both your x and the new guy
once you stop seeing x... really focus on the new guy like you have never done before... you will be happy

good luck

Answer 6

i think that if you feel so strongly, to go back to him, but you need to ask him if he is gonna treat you right this time, and if he says no, say forget it! and if he doesn't want to treat you better, you can still be friends, but only that. o and don't feel guilty about your new guy sit, if you want to talk to your ex(as long as thats all you doind) it should be fine

Answer 7

You may as well go back with your ex, because when your new boyfriend finds out that you have emotional problems and that you're a liar, he will dump you anyway.