Family & Relationships - 15 December 2007

last night, me and my boyfriend of almost 5 years got into a fight because i woke him up several times because of his snoring. he promised he would not get mad if i woke him but he was snappy at me and said, i am going in the van to sleep in the driveway..he has done this several times this week and i felt it was my turn to go so i said no, i will go as my friend rented a hotel for me and i was suppose to go but did not so as i procceded to take up our 22 month old son and my 9 yr old daughter to take them with me, he got all mad that i was leaving and we argured..i went in the bedroom and he got me on the floor and put him hands on my neck, i screamed for my daughter to come in, he blocked me mouth, then let go and my daughter came in..i got quickly up and told him to leave RIGHT NOW, he kept trying to look at my neck and i was getting pissed so i told him again to leave and he did...this morning he came back to take a shower and i said are you coming home tonight and he said

2007-12-15 10:28:44 · 45 answers · asked by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7 in Marriage & Divorce

Lately it feels like our relationship is not a priority to my boyfriend. I know he is busy and focused on work and stuff, but he made time before. I do not know if hes not interested anymore or if he is just busy, my gut tells me its bad news,
but then i cannot tell if i am just over reacting or not.
help!

2007-12-15 10:27:27 · 2 answers · asked by starryeyed 5 in Singles & Dating

I wanted to send them to a great dinner and then put them up in a nice hotel for the night. I'm assuming something near the ocean in Laguna or San Clemente is nice. Any suggestions of restaurants and/or hotels???

2007-12-15 10:27:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am married and have been for a yr but I find myself having dreams about having sex with other men is it OK? I have been with my husband for 11 yrs and been married like I said about a yr.

2007-12-15 10:26:56 · 5 answers · asked by wculpepper8606 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Living together before marriage

Lots of people these days Live together or shack up before getting married. What are the pros and cons of that? Do people decide not to get married then after?

To me you do get to know one another better, but then when you do get married there's nothing special to look forward to.

Staying the night

Do you think it's okay to stay the night over? Is it a better choice to make than Living together if you're deciding to get married? Does it mean anything special if a guy suggest you to stay the night over and you two don't have sex.

Just curious

2007-12-15 10:26:37 · 3 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Marriage & Divorce

how do i tell her

2007-12-15 10:25:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last night I went to a dance with my b/f Peter- we've been together for 7 months now. He's a sweet heart and I love him to death, although...stuff like this tends to rub on my nerves. I don't know If I'm wrong...or, if He's over reacting.

Anyways, I went with Him, and my best friend Chels- to help make Chels feel more "not-awkward" I guess...I told Peter to dance with her, and while he was dancing with her, I went and danced with some random dude- (OH< AND THIS WAS JUST SWING DANCING! NO DIRTY DANCING AT ALL!) anyways, I never want our realtionship to exclude people, so I always try and include people-(ex. dancing with other guy friends) I know he gets annoyed with it...but honestly...swing dancing? Come on...am I right? Or is he right to be mad at me?

2007-12-15 10:25:07 · 6 answers · asked by christine P 2 in Singles & Dating

I am having the worst year!! I feel like it will never get better. I am going thru a divorce,I went to jail,I lost my house,kids etc.. I went from having it all to having it all taken away. I even still love my husband! ( even though he helped put me in jail and is the reason I lost everything!) What should I do? How do i move on??

2007-12-15 10:20:34 · 10 answers · asked by bettys5incali 2 in Marriage & Divorce

One of my ex-boyfriends and I were together for almost a Year. When we broke up, it was really really hard on me..But it seemed like he was able to move on really fast. We haven't been together for nearly a year, but we still frequently talk and hang out and stuff...I'm happier when i am with him then i have ever been with anyone else. And conversation just comes naturally. We can talk for hours on end without running out of things to say. He says he still really likes me, but he doesn't love me like he used to, and he said he probably couldn't love me as much as he used to...But yet i'm still here. Going back to him. Every single time. Am I stupid for doing something that I know I shouldn't? Or is it just something that every girl goes through. I've told myself over and over that I was done. That i never wanted to talk to him again, but what makes it even harder is that he's one of my best friends. Be straight up and blunt, and don't tell me what I WANT to hear.

2007-12-15 10:18:10 · 24 answers · asked by x0sinfulxtears0x 1 in Singles & Dating

My mate's GF just dumped him coz he was out last night and a girl kissed him on the cheek. Apprantly 2 of his mates were talking to this girl, but he wasnt really followin the convo. She kissed them both on the cheek and asked him if he wanted one too. He said to not appear like a rude tw*t saying no, he said "OK". He mentioned it to his GF today and shes dumped him, theyve been together 2 years.

Do you think he is in the wrong?

2007-12-15 10:15:29 · 46 answers · asked by Matt B 2 in Singles & Dating

i have a friend who not so much a friend anymore! i really want to talk to her!! i mean she was my bestfriend!! i want to say sorry to her but she need to be saying sorry to me!!!she started the whole arguement, why cant she just say sorry!! i will forgive her!

2007-12-15 10:14:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have been in a relationship with this man for 4yrs and recently he cheated with a protitute. Not only did he lie about it at 1st but he made me feel like I was being rude for asking where he was at 4am (we live together). We both have 1 child each from a seperate relationship. We both work, tho his job is not as lucritive as it once was. I am so angry and hurt and think about this everyday. He has said he was sorry and it would never happen again, but why did it happen in the 1st place. I have been in serveral relationships and marriage in my life and ALL have ended poorly after many yrs being devoted to working on things. I am just lost right now and don't know if we would be better off together or apart or how to forget it and move on. A while back we talked about marriage, but when this happened I threatened to leave and he is now not talking any marriage. I dont want to die an old miserable single hag.

2007-12-15 10:11:58 · 23 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Singles & Dating

She Treats Me Like Sh*t Talks To Me Like Sh*t
All She Does Is Talk About Herself
And If I Wanna Talk About Something
She Either Agrees With It Or Goes Quiet And Then Changes The Subject To Something About Her
She Has Frustrated Me So Much That I Have Actually Cryed Several Times
What Should I Do???
Please Help Me?!?!

2007-12-15 10:11:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My dad just blew up at me for failing two classes. He is saying i wont get into college or succed and is very very angry. He is saying alot of hurtful things and i dont know how to calm him down. Please what should i do??

2007-12-15 10:09:43 · 8 answers · asked by Jota 1 in Family

Marriage Family Councilors and Psychologists state that those who don't live together before marriage have healthier marriages. There seems to be a better sense of commitment in that relationship than those who went for a test ride to see if it would work.

2007-12-15 10:08:28 · 27 answers · asked by Charles S 4 in Marriage & Divorce

she wrote me letter saying "Hi Travis I've been watching you for a while now and now I'm starting to really like you. You're sexy and I always wanted to tell you that but I'm scared to tell you.Meet me at the gym at 1:30pm, bye baby! love your secret admire. XOXO" That's what the letter says that she let someone pass to me with out me knowing it was her. I kind of knew it was her because she was staring at me for like 10min


After when I went to the gym (we were both alone) she came up to me and kissed me while I had my hands on her butt. We both kissed for a long time and I back up after 2 mins. Then I went back to class. I am really shy but I really really like this girl though.

2007-12-15 10:08:24 · 42 answers · asked by travis 3 in Singles & Dating

Im not sure if he ever actually loved me the way I thought he loved me or he was just using our "perfect" relationship so that he can build credibility to other girls out there to show that he is a 'good' boyfriend.

He doesn't even want me to add his friends in myspace. Also I do check his myspace out and I found out that he was asking his friends who are girls to hang out today. When I asked him if he had plans today he said he was going to spend it with his guy friends. He also once told me that this friend [a girl obviously] of ours (who was as close as a sister to him since they've been friends for years, also exgf) just had a boyfriend and he interrogated her boyfriend the other day to see if he was a good guy or not.... DID he really have to do that? Or do you think he has some reserved feelings for her? He is such a lier and he doesn't know how much this is hurting me!!

I am so depressed! My mom grounded me because my depression might cause me to do something horrible.

2007-12-15 10:07:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 10:03:49 · 31 answers · asked by j_emmans 6 in Singles & Dating

well it really does feel wrong but i have felt like this for about 9 months and my love for her has grew its just undescribable it really is. she is like my best mate well she is my best mate but in some way i think that she feels the same, but i really want her to no but i am worried that she could take it the wrong way , but in some way i think she would be okay with it because she is a real good mate . it is real love because i cant stop thinking of her i love her more than words can describe . how can i tell her?

2007-12-15 10:02:22 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I worked for a few months at a deli this past summer. I met a younger guy there. he is 20. There was a chemistry there. But then I quit 4 months ago for personal reasons. Since then I have seen him maybe 5 times. He is always sweet and talkative but never asked me out or for my number- Should I just let it go and chalk it up to he's just not that into you? Or should I just man up and ask him? I dont know if him being 5 years younger than me is intimidating to him or if he is just being nice when I come there and we talk. I am really attracted to him but I also dont want to make a fool of myself. sometimes fantasies are better left fantasies, but in this case i dont know.....

2007-12-15 10:00:47 · 1 answers · asked by sheerah 2 in Singles & Dating

do i have a freind

2007-12-15 09:58:33 · 13 answers · asked by favoritegirl2009 1 in Friends

I buy him porn and will watch every now and then. I start looking at the history button on my computer and I am having a hard time believing all the sites that he has been going on. I really want to cry. Some are just so far out there that I am just speechless. I called him at work and comfronted him about it. He made up excuse saying that they send him these things in his emails and that if you click on one then 90 more sites pop up. He states he doesn't go on them b/c they cost money. Am I just over reating ( some were transgender and she males) They are still in the history button so I know he went onto these sites.

2007-12-15 09:56:58 · 14 answers · asked by Bilinda G 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents got in a HUGE fight last night. My mom has always vented to me. Since I was little. I fel right smack in the middle of things, I don't want to be involved anymore but I can't seem to not be tramatize by the fights and the abuse my father puts on my mom. He doesn't hit, but does MEAN things. He has her trapped in this relationship and I can't help but hate my dad for what hes done to my mom. I know that isnt fair but he is in the wrong, and i love my mother so much. How can I be ok in this screwed up situation? If you need more info please feel free to ask.

2007-12-15 09:55:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I hate my life right now more then ever! I want to leave my husband so bad but we have a child together and I keep feeling extremely guilty about leaving my child behind to pursue my career and leaving her behind with her dad. I hate my husband, I hate my life, and all I want to do is drive off a bridge. I want to SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-15 09:53:10 · 28 answers · asked by Behave 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 14 almost 15. I am very shy. and i don't have a lot of friends. i am a little verweight. i really donf't have a lot of friends. and im very lonely a lot of the time. i listen to christian music and i have been trying to convince myself that all i need is jesus. but in know that isn't true. people make fun of me and a guy actually punched me a few weeks ago. my dad got mad and called the school and now people hate me even more. i found myself giving people an attitude now.l im so confused. and i want to change everything. what can i do to be more social?

2007-12-15 09:47:51 · 5 answers · asked by puppiilv 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I cant tell if this guy likes me or not. We talk to eachother and joke around with one and another but im not sure if he likes me as just a friend or more. What are some signs I can look for to tell if he likes me or not?!

2007-12-15 09:46:50 · 8 answers · asked by AMAN DUHH 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm trying to figure out if a man's sex drive can be controlled and if they cheat because of their sex drive. I would also like to know the statistics for a man being faithful and cheating.

2007-12-15 09:41:43 · 6 answers · asked by student 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

there's a guy in my class &after school i was walking around &saw him from about 20 feet away w/ his gf. i glance over&he realized i was walking by. he looks at me&then kisses her quickly. they were having a normal conversation as far as i cud tell b4 i came along. she didnt kno i was there cuz she was facing away from me. i was talking with my friend about this later she told me he hardly ever kisses his gf and he tries to make girls he likes jealous. but wud he really be trying to make me jealous when he has a gf? i catch him looking at me & get the sense he wants 2get2 kno me better cuz of the usual signs of when a guy likes a girl. (always looking at me in class&trying 2 find an excuse to talk to me)

guys:do u think he cud have been trying to make me jealous?
if u had a gf and u liked someone else wud u pursue her or try to make her jealous or anything?

2007-12-15 09:38:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im really shy and I can tell guys are interested because they stare a lot, but i never get approached! please help me out!

2007-12-15 09:36:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf got kicked out of school for a really stupid reason. Im going to miss him so much i really want to stay with him what do i do

2007-12-15 09:35:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating