Living together before marriage
Lots of people these days Live together or shack up before getting married. What are the pros and cons of that? Do people decide not to get married then after?
To me you do get to know one another better, but then when you do get married there's nothing special to look forward to.
Staying the night
Do you think it's okay to stay the night over? Is it a better choice to make than Living together if you're deciding to get married? Does it mean anything special if a guy suggest you to stay the night over and you two don't have sex.
Just curious
2007-12-15 10:26:37 · 3 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am living together before marriage...we have been together almost 5 years and we have a 22 mont old son and I have a 9 yr old daughter. I wish i had just stayed at my parents house until he got his divorce and married me...he has been separated from this woman in Australia for 7 years...he makes up all the excuses in the world not to get a divorce, biggest one..no money but he could afford it if he really wanted too so in my opinion, i would advise against it or get engaged before living together and set a date before moving in. It's o.k. to stay the night over, that is not a big deal, it's when you move in without the commitment and let him have his cake and eat it too!! good luck
2007-12-15 10:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion and having lived with a boyfriend and also lived with my ex-husband before marriage, I don't think I would ever just move in with a boyfriend again. I would want a ring on my finger first. That way, you have the semi-commitment and also can still have time to test the "living together" waters before marriage. Some people may also feel that once living together, there is no need to be married. This can cause issues within the relationship.
You will also get to look forward to the wedding still, so it will remain special and you also have an out, if need be..
I never thought of this before, but think it is a good idea. After a good amount of time of dating, you should know where things are going.
I think that staying over is fine, but if you are there all the time, then it is basically the same as living together eventually. Same effect I think. You do need a chance to see the habits of home life with someone and it makes you aware of what you are getting into.
Maybe the guy just wants to take things slow, without the sex right away. if it goes on too long, I wonder about it though.
2007-12-15 18:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should live togther before marriage just to see what you are getting into
2007-12-15 18:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋