i have a friend who not so much a friend anymore! i really want to talk to her!! i mean she was my bestfriend!! i want to say sorry to her but she need to be saying sorry to me!!!she started the whole arguement, why cant she just say sorry!! i will forgive her!
2007-12-15 10:14:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In the great movie 'Schindler List' when a Nazi got bored to kill Jews and sought greatness, Schindler tells him: "Greatness is to have power and not use it."
Your power is knowing that your friend owe you an apology. Your greatness would be to apologize first.
I hope it turns well for you; friends are the best think one can have.
2007-12-15 10:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Michel Verheughe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think i can answer fairly since i dont know what it was about, but you can say sorry because your such a good friend, if your relationship was worth a lot more than this arguement then you would be saying sorry because you appreciate your friendship, she should say sorry back to you, it may just be pride, show that you are the bigger person and she'll prb feel ashamed for not having said sorry when she knew she should have. If its only a silly argument dont lose your frienship over it, you'll regret it.
Hope it works out! :)
2007-12-15 18:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me when I was 21 and my best friend and I didn't talk for 9 months. Then a guy I was dating told me that I was being stupid for giving up a friend that I had been friends with for 9 years. So I told her I was sorry for my part in what happened and it took a few months but we were eventually back to normal and have been friends for 13 more years now. (By the way, she just recently told me she was sorry for what happened.) Sometimes you have to be the bigger person and just forgive them in your heart even if they didn't say they were sorry. But if she keeps hurting you, maybe she isn't the greatest friend and you deserve better. Good luck!
2007-12-15 18:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all wish the other person or ppl in the arguement would just say their sorry first but it's not gonna happen!!!! You have to be the bigger person and say you're sorry and they'll follow suit. Tell you friend why you are upset without point the finger and placing blame. You're come out looking sqeaky clean and your friend will have to re-exam their self and yall friendship
2007-12-15 18:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by datneworleansgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking with her with the aim of finding out if there was indeed something you did to be sorry for. Be sure to reflect on what she says before you react. You could just be in a stand-off. If after that, you still believe it really is all on her, well, what can you do? Hope.
2007-12-15 18:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Antares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends don't worry about counting the number of times they do something wrong--if you want to stay friends, just go with it. Trying to force someone to say sorry is a parent thing, not a friend thing.
2007-12-15 18:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologize. That's how my best friend is. She NEVER says sorry, even if it is her fault. I went and asked my dad why I should even say sorry for something she did, he said that if you want to stay friends with her, just say sorry and YOU will be the bigger person. It wont be very rewarding to you now, but it will. Eventually your friend will start to respect you more.
Hope that helped :)
2007-12-15 18:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it matter who started it? be the better person. Give her another chance. if she acts like this again, dump her sorry
a ss.
She might have started it, but you didn't have to get sucked into it..you had the choice of how you reacted. Since your reaction was an argument, you are partially to blame as well.
2007-12-15 18:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm a little slow on the uptake, but if she owes you the apology why are you trying to apologize to her?
I mean, the best you can be expected to do is act normally I guess.Just bear in mind that if you're waiting for an apology you can wait a long, long time.
2007-12-15 18:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but your question doesn't make sense and you contradict what you asked. Why do you need to be apologizing to her when she is the one should be apologizing to you? That does not make any sense. I think you two should talk to each other about the situation between you two.
2007-12-15 18:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by ChocLaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋