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I hate my life right now more then ever! I want to leave my husband so bad but we have a child together and I keep feeling extremely guilty about leaving my child behind to pursue my career and leaving her behind with her dad. I hate my husband, I hate my life, and all I want to do is drive off a bridge. I want to SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-15 09:53:10 · 28 answers · asked by Behave 5 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Dragon, you are fUUUcking retarded!!

2007-12-15 11:21:44 · update #1

28 answers

Wait!...Don't drive off of that bridge , lets discuss this.......
First, if you hate him that much is there reason?

If you for whatever reason aren't ready to continue to be the best parent you can be, then it might be best for you to allow him to take that responsibility for now or forever if you decide you want to take a different route in your life and or with your career.

Screaming is good! Scream...Scream, cry....but leave that car in the driveway and it sounds like you could use a bit of therapy..When you call, don't just ask for an appointment, tell them why and of the urgency. Do tell your therapist how you really feel, it's the only way they can help you.

You may hate your husband but I don't think you hate your daughter and you'd not want to take her mother away from her like that leaving her that guilt to live with now would you?

God Bless, try to get through this minute by minute until you can do it day by day....Give yourself time, these things resolve with time....I've been at nerves end and survived to live a much happier life so I am speaking from experience.

Hugs...I think you need them....And remember: Suicide is NOT an option!

2007-12-15 10:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by MercurialMe :-) 2 · 0 0

Suicide is just being selfish. I understand if you want to leave, but you will regret leaving the child behind. Put your thinking cap on and find a way to leave with your child. I have 2 sons and I could not imagine ever walking away from them. They have been my life. Honey, don't you dare take yourself out of that childs life...The child didn't ask to be born and he or she needs her mother. You can find another life but I promise you, if you move on without the child, you will not ever be happy. Sit down, take some deep breathes and try to figure all this out. I know you can do it, you're a woman and women are strong...has been since the beginning of time...Good luck sweetie, but I know you can make it through all of this with your child and have your career too..

2007-12-15 18:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0 0

If things are at rock bottom, the only way is up. Sit tight, ride it out. Find someone you can talk to. Expressing it will help take off the stress and you will start to see your own solutions. I hope that in a little while you will look back on these weeks and wonder why it had felt so completely bad , so suicidal - when you get your power back, you will be in control of your life and your dreams, and that is a great place to be

2007-12-15 18:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by bluebell 7 · 0 0

OK
First, don't be SO selfish...see people don't really know the true meaning of LOVE..how can you EVEN think of suicide when your life belongs to GOD and your daughter needs you. Think about things first..you can do things the right way, legally, if you can't fix your marriage then divorce..have you tried counseling first? Do you really want a career where you would have to be away from your child that YOU and your HUSBAND made...Why aren't you thinking straight Honey don't ever let anyone take over your emotions you be in control...most important talk to GOD he listens..now take a deep breath, relax, and look at your child...does she deserve this??? leave if you have to, But, do it the right way..your not the FIRST one that's felt this way. GOD BLESS YOU HONEY.

2007-12-15 18:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by peternlizh 1 · 1 0

Scream, and scream, and scream, but don't drive off a bridge.
Once you have done all the screaming you can do, look in your local white pages, and find help.
I was, where you are.
For me the choice was to leave.
When my sons were nine and six, I left to find myself.
I kelp the lines of communication open.
While fulfilling the need to find me.
My sons are now 22 and 19, and we have the best of relationships. My X-Husband and I are doing well too. I even have a caring friendship with his 2nd wife of these last 16 years.
My story may not be yours, it's just what worked for me.
Sincerely,
Sista,
thumbs up.

2007-12-15 18:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by sista_sista_sister! 2 · 1 0

Commiting suicide is not going to slove the problem. Run and do what you have to do to get happy. When ur daughter is old enough she wont agree with ur actions bt she will know why..its better than leaving her without any answers and you'll start to blame and hate ur daughter and her father for your unhappiness and you wont be able to love your daughter as much as possibe. Dont live a life you dont want because it'll be living a lie and yes it will get worst..and it'll hurt ur daughter and husband even more. do what you have to do to be happy because you cant make anyone else happy if your not.

2007-12-15 18:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by angie j 1 · 0 0

There is an answer to all life problem. Some find it sooner some longer some not at all. If you are really unhappy with your marriage act on it to keep your sanity. It will be a challenge to start over again but the rewards will be great. Good Luck and God Bless

2007-12-15 21:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 1 0

What ever you do think about your child. My Dad tried to kill himself when I was younger and I went through life thinking he hated me and that I drove him to it. I know you don't want that for your little one. Having dealt with depression myself my whole life I say this. See a doctor right away antidepressants (if given the right one at the correct dose) are worth it. Find the things in life that make you happy while still loving your family. I know everyone will think this part is dumb, but find God. Then you will be able to feel real joy.

2007-12-15 19:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Aimee's Mommy 4 · 1 0

try to define just what it is that is hurting u, and making u feel the way u do, most things can be worked out, if u hate your life the problem may be coming from within and not from the outside. get some therapy, go to someone u really trust so u can talk about it and try to figure it all out. life is a gift from god, so be careful what u do with it. life can look so terrible one day and the next day the problem is solved and all turns out well, so be patient think out your future theres always a way out of something.

2007-12-15 18:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

Don't do anything stupid!Somtimes we all hate our lives life can be dull and seem pointless relationships can grow cold and seem dead but these are all jjust feelings stop and think about some of the things you can be greatful for.there is always someone who has it worse than you.Do you have a roof over your head,access to food,water and people who love you.You obviously have a car(because you want to drive off a bridge.)These feelings of discontentment WILL pass and you are going to be OK.

2007-12-15 20:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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