Family & Relationships - 15 December 2007

Ok, my girlfriend is a Catholic and i'm Christian, I believe in sex after marriage, but I don't only want to have sex to produce a child. She doesn't believe in taking birth control or any form of contraception... for example... I don't want to get married and on our wedding night have sex and she's pregnant, then never have sex again until we want another child. This is almost selfish of me, but I believe sex can be used as a form of pleasure, not only to make children.

I don't ONLY want to have sex 4 times to have 4 kids, then never again....

What do I do? We love each other, not getting married any time soon, but if it ended up happening... I just don't want kids as soon as I get married, we're still young (twenties). I believe you should only have children when you're ready, but don't believe it's wrong to have sex for pleasure... with the love of your life, and you're married to one another....

2007-12-15 08:53:24 · 15 answers · asked by Would you rather? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If you think about something better, please suggest!Thanks

2007-12-15 08:52:36 · 2 answers · asked by Jim 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 18 and I live at home with my dad and brother, mum died when I was 9 and ever since then my dad looked after me and my brother but when I was 16 my dad decided to go back to work and he has a great job and he said he loves it but he gets tired alot. He broke up for christmas last week but this weekend I really dont know whats happened because he went out on Friday drinking with his friends which he does often but he didnt get back till 3am in the morning and then today he woke up at 11am and then about 12pm he went out again but said he wasnt going to drink many and then he never came back and he just came back now and said hes going back out again so he has gone. Obviously I cant tell him what to do cause hes old enough to look after himself and i'm 18 so I can look after myself now. I;m just worried that hes drinking too much. He use to go out on a regular thing on Friday nights and Sunday dinners to see his friends but he stopped bcause he was really tired with working alot.

2007-12-15 08:50:00 · 8 answers · asked by Jodie 1 in Family

a guy that is smart or a guy that makes a lot of money?

tnhey have the same personality

2007-12-15 08:48:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My mom and I were best friends up until Thursday. She showed up to my sports practice with my aunt and my grandma to watch and take pictures. I asked them to leave because I had told my mom before that I would rather she not come to my practices, but only come on the days that I compete. So I asked them to leave, but they stayed to watch. I put up my hood because they were trying to take pictures of me. Whenever I looked over to where they were, they all just turned away laughing, like I didn't see them looking at me. Then, when I got home, my mother did not say anything to me at all. She told me to get out of bed the day after and then a sentence after that. She didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. When I tried to call her on the phone, my dad picked up. I know she just told him to because she didn't want to talk to me. Today, she hasn't talked to me at all. I have no idea why she is so upset. My brother doesn't think anything is wrong. What's the matter with her?

2007-12-15 08:48:29 · 7 answers · asked by >=< 3 in Family

2007-12-15 08:47:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i had one girl friend and i feel in love with her and i mean this girl got me bad she turned around and back stabed me i don't know why but she said she loved me and she broke up with me and and turned around and told almost everone in school that i raped her and it's not true i would never do that to a girl and besides that im still a virgin and tryed to get a restraining order on me saying i was stocking her that i forced her to do things with my temper and she's only seen me lose my temper once cuz of some kid that didn't like and still lover her and it's been about 3 year's i don't know why i still have feelings for her and she's the only girl i have ever had feelings and now a day's i heard from so far 3 people say'n that she want's me back im lost im confused i need help so somebody give me some real answers cuz i really wanna know what's her deal thanks

2007-12-15 08:45:46 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

last night was a school dance and my guy friend (my crush , Zach ) was thair and my friend ( Dezi ) told me she has liked him for a long time . So the night went on and I did my first Dirty Dance ever and it was with my crush and then I called him when i got home and we talked for like 2 hours and in that time he told me he liked Dezi and he wanted me to tell her . So I did and she was all like ohh ya and super happy and im all like ohh no and crying and they want to go out . WHAT CAN I DO , DEZI KNOWS I LIKE HIM AND ZACH KNOWS I LIKE HIM .

2007-12-15 08:43:44 · 31 answers · asked by Stubby hashbrown 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 08:42:59 · 23 answers · asked by kjessjess 2 in Singles & Dating

ok now...me and my boyfriend are getting a little tired and bed and need some new moves! Just send me some crazy ideas!

2007-12-15 08:40:03 · 9 answers · asked by music chick 1 in Singles & Dating

there is dis guy who hugs and holds me like we are a couple but we aren't. and talks to me, not at me...but he ignores me around his friends, even if they are mine too. i've know this guy for a while 2 years, he is black but acts white and emo-ish kind of, i'm black and kind of act white. anyway, sooo he ignores me around his friends, but is really nice when we're alone, and its genuine, b/c i can tell when a guy is fake. like he'll remember if i was sick and ask me if im doing better. he waits for me at my friends locker and puts his arms around me, but i can't get over the fact that he ignores me and some times gets really moody and won't even talk. what does this mean?

2007-12-15 08:37:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have been married for 2yrs and 2gether for 4yrs. When I married I was done with other men and I give my marriage 150% everyday.He works and I stay home but he never comes home to a dirty house or and I cook nearly everyday.Any drama brought to our marriage he brought it. I'm not careless with our money.We don't have children and niether of us want any. Not only am I good in all the areas of the house I really bring it in the bedroom!!! This may sound cheesy but I feel that God made this man just for me. If we're apart for a second I'm always happy to see him.My soul loves my husband. He is a big man but I love every roll and love handle he has. He is changing he is not the same man married.I've talked till I'm blue in the face and as much as I love him I love me more. I can't imagine having an affair.I told him just because I don't play the game doesn't mean I don't know how. I would do anything to make my marriage work but he is not going to drive me crazy and there's other fish.

2007-12-15 08:36:35 · 11 answers · asked by heartsoulshines 1 in Marriage & Divorce

guys are always talking privatly and say they are having "guy talk"

is it about girls?? cuz i heard like a million times that guys talk more about girls than girls about guys?

when guys talk about girls what do they say and point out?



tanks

2007-12-15 08:36:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

technically i left her. she changed into a popular girly girly [the dark side] and i told her that i was tired of this act. she told me i was stupid nad just jealous [i DONT want to look like an anorexic freak, thank you very much- that's what they are at my school].
so now i kind of miss her. not this popular one, the old one.
i constantly wonder what she is thinking about me, if seh hopes i burn in the depths of 'down below in fire' or she is wanting me back.
what is a good way to keep my mind away from her. she's bad for my mind.

thank you for all the answers!
look at the past questions!!

2007-12-15 08:36:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

One of my mom's friends has 2 kids, a son and a daughter, and she is dropping $400 for them for christmas. Isn't that really bad? I thought the point of Christmas was to be with your family.

2007-12-15 08:35:18 · 9 answers · asked by ■ Jessie ■ 5 in Family

Most of them don`t have photos in their profiles and the ones that have look terrible.And it seems most of them have only one thing on their mind.
I have been chatting with one guy for a several days and at first he seemed ok,but he asks toomany personal questions and I don`t even know what he looks like.Should I quit this? Or should I continue being very careful?
I am also a conservative girl,so it is really hard to talk to those men,always having to explain your choices and beliefs,I am starting to feel uncomfortable.What should I do?I don`t really need dating sites to meet people,but i really thought it could be interesting.

2007-12-15 08:33:14 · 3 answers · asked by faro 2 in Singles & Dating

there is this boy i really really like, but once night, we had sex.
i am 14. we were at a party, and things just kind of started going, and we had sex in his friends room.

i really like him and want to keep having sex, but i dont know what to do.
i never wanted to lose my virginity so soon, but now that i have done it it feels so good.
should i keep having sex? should i wait?
i am not sure.
please help.
and no rude comments please.
=]

2007-12-15 08:32:45 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-15 08:31:41 · 6 answers · asked by Sexi Lightskin 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a boyfriend. okay?
and i can't stop thinking about mi ex. i mean, i broke up w/ him, and every time i see him, i think "i don't want him 2 go back out w/ me"

but it's complicated. there's so many songs that make me think i want another chance.

I haven't had a chance 2 talk 2 mi boyfriend lately, and so i talk 2 mi ex.

Is it wrong
what should i do?

2007-12-15 08:30:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have been friends a man for four years now.When we first met we were both married.I am now divorced.Our relationship grew from friends to more last year when we began kissing but no further.I moved out of the area and now have returned.We got in contact again and were right back where we left it.He is still married .We arent sexually active but talk everyday several times and I have no idea if we are real good friends or more could come from this.He has said he is stuck and this whole thing is outside the box for him.He loves being around me and always misses me and I miss him.Is this a full blown affair ive somehow created all on my own here?I love him but would hate to be the one to make a good man tainted by my temptations or is it vice versa?

2007-12-15 08:30:47 · 20 answers · asked by meli 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am in 6th grade and Im having the worst day ever and I have to dress up and go in 10 minutes so i dont have time to do anything im really mad cheer me up plz anything

2007-12-15 08:28:47 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

a woman, and he didn't tell his friends is that respectful or is he embarrased. He had an erectile problem, so Im thinking that might be why, but Im not sure either way.

2007-12-15 08:26:27 · 8 answers · asked by Dani 1 in Singles & Dating

OKay I'm a 14 year old and my parents always embarrass me. everytime we go somewhere i have to translate and i always lose face. My dad is the worst he always yells at me saying I'm the one
that doen's speak snglish and he's just a asshole. He donesn't know how much stress I'm in with school since hes never been to scholl. He dropped out whe n he was in middle scholl because his parednts couldn't afford it. How do i cope with this

2007-12-15 08:26:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I feel sorta harsh about what Im about to write.
But Im gonna say it anyways:

I really like my best [guy] friend,
for more then a friend obviously.
And hes told me alot that he likes me too.
And that he wishes we could be together.
Last night we went to the movies,
and he held my hand.
This is the second time this has happened.
I feel so close to heaven when Im around him.
But then,
he likes other girls.
Which,
yeah Im aware thats gonna happen.
But(for guys)why does he do and say all this stuff,
If he probably does it to other girls to?
(for ANYONE)Should I tell him it bothers me or just get over it.
I know my time to really be with him will come soon enough,
but my jealousy is getting in the way of my feelings,
and I dont want that to happen for him too.
Since hes gone to a different school now,
its really hard to try to keep our relationship "alive"
since I only see him every couple weeks.
I just get so jealous.
Because I honestly feel like Im "better"

2007-12-15 08:18:16 · 2 answers · asked by Ashleigh(: 4 in Singles & Dating

what is the difference between loving someone and being in love. My friend says I'm in love with this girl, but he says he loves his girlfriend. what's the difference?

2007-12-15 08:16:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I feel like I lost this boy I care for a lot. We got into a fight last night... he bailed out on me and I got very upset. But now I feel like it's all my fault that I even got upset and I feel like I lost him over it. I just want him back but I don't know what to do. I know that he won't come to me in a while... he would love me but he just wouldn't make a move. He won't apologize but I am just so sad and at this point he doesn't even have to. What do I do? I don't WANT to lose him and I dont WANT to find someone else. I just don't know what to do. I called him and he said "I guess" when I asked if we were ok... I don't know what to do... please help. I'm very upset. It took us such a long time to get to a good place and now it just feels ruined. I asked him to see me tomorrow and he said he would if he can... that's a bad answer I know but.. what can I do?

2007-12-15 08:13:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what do you think?

2007-12-15 08:11:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Thank you.

2007-12-15 08:08:39 · 51 answers · asked by Laurie 5 in Singles & Dating

Ok i am 14 and this guy i really like seems to like me?! What do i do!!

>he is always turning around in his seat
>he stares at me during choir sometimes
>he gives me some of his candy
>he is constintly stealing my stuff in a teasing way
>he tilts his head backwords to look at me during class
>he is always turned sideways during class with his arm on my desk just a few inches from mine
>he gives me high 5s in the hallway
>he was talking about me at his friends house
>all his friends say he should go out with me
>all my friends say i should go out with him

2007-12-15 08:05:28 · 48 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

I know that I am older now, but this is something most people in their 30's and 40's can relate too. I remember one time when I was with a date, and at the end of the movie I pulled away from the Drive In and forgot to put the speaker back in the slot!! OPPPSS! How about you, anything you can remember from back in the day :P

2007-12-15 08:04:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating