Thank you.
2007-12-15 08:08:39 · 51 answers · asked by Laurie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With the exception of having my 2 oldest boys, I do wish that i would have waited, and that my husband now, would have also...
But I do believe that its a very personal choice.
2007-12-15 08:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tami 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I do!
Reasons:
Religion - no I am not a bigot, rather pretty liberal
Risk of STDs - When I was in school, a Catholic Missionary School, we were shown videos of AIDS patients. It was enough for me to abstain.
Check out the link below:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herpes#Neonatal_herpes_simplex
Would you like to deliver a baby like that?
Condoms DO NOT guarantee 100% protection.
Cultural Reasons - No man can be the best in sex. If we have sex before marriage and we end up marrying someone else, as usually happens, then the first person we lose out virginity to will always remain in mind and hence we cannot be dedicated to our partner. We should not lose our virginity to the wrong person or for the wrong reasons. We would also be respected a lot by our spouse if we lose our virginity on our wedding night! Also, we do not want our children, our blood, to be born out of wedlock.
Hope this helps!
Edit:
Some people say, first try sex and if you enjoy it then marry. It is merely a lame excuse. Given any person, we can always find a better performer. We can't go sleeping around to find the right person. Rather, having pre-marital sex means we are setting ourselves up for disappointment!
Edit:
Jessica has given a very good response: "Yes, when you want to have sex with that person cause you love them then you should get married if you're in love."
2007-12-15 08:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should not put any conditions on sex. Sex can be a beautiful thing shared between teo people and it like any performance art is good by itself, without conditions. If you are trading sex for something or putting conditions on sexual activities I think they have a word for that. However that being said there are two things that must be taken into account before ever having sex. Is it consensual? That not only means are both parties consent, but what is the reason that they consent. If there is an ulterior motive it is not consensual. It also means that the two parties involved should be interested in more than just their own consent and pleasure, but also the loving consent and pleasure of the other person involved.
The last thing that needs to be taken into consideration before having sex is that it is done responsibly. That means a lot of things but the first and utmost means that are you personally, and the person you are having sex with willing to take full responsibility for any outcome of having sex and have you rationally decided on a responsible setting and conditions for your encounter. If one party gets pregnant, are you and your partner ready to responsibly face the decisions that go along with pregnancy? If you can't answer that question you are not ready for sex.
It is the difference between really enjoying sex and facing the sexual act with nervousness and fear through the whole act. Responsible mature people don't have as much anxiety or fear because they face those issues and then put them aside and enjoy the passionate intimacy of another responsible person.
But no, conditions should be placed on sex. And sex should never be something that you base a marriage on.
2007-12-15 08:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by David R 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I believe sex is for married ppl.
It is a proven fact that married Christian women enjoy sex much, much more than women who indulge in sex b/f or outside of marriage. To them, the forbidden sex is a big let-down! Self-discipline is a good thing.
2007-12-15 08:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Definately......I recently got married after being with my husband for 10years. No, we didn't wait until marriage, but after we both found the Lord and being involved with a good church....it's the best way to go......we BOTH wish now that we would have waited...although our wedding was very special if we would have waited for our wedding night it would have been magical.....cause 1 it's right in the Lords eyes and 2 your both giving something to each other that you have never experienced with him or her before. So to answer your question yes.
2007-12-15 08:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by p-nut 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. First: if it's so good as some people say then why is it only for girls? second - every 4-th man is cheating on his wife. you'll catch the infection anyway. Third: it's men who are not self-assured that look for a girl who is a virgin. those who know they are good at it are not afraid to compete. and last - there is more risk they you'll cheat if you're just curious. and the last one - you're a personality, not a thing in the market. A girl with virginity costs more in the countries where girls are sold to husbands. Get some self-esteem. do what you feel right. If you'll think all your life how to please your husband... you won't have a life of your own
2007-12-15 08:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Now that I'm married, I'm all for sex after marriage!
2007-12-15 08:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Dan H 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
anyone that says no to this questions gets negative ratings.. RELAX to the people who are rating them! and everyone believes different things, its for some pople, not for others!! personally, you would be lucky to find a partner who would agree to your wish to wait till after you get married, but fair play if you do!
2007-12-15 08:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lemon1989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says so, but in my mind i think it says that because it is wrong for you to go out and have sex with everyone! Sex isn't just SEX it's making love and that's what the bible is trying to get at! Have sex with someone that you KNOW that you truly love and someone that you honestly have TRUE feelings for! I hope this helps!
2007-12-15 08:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by HaiLeY 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I believe sex stops at marriage.
2007-12-15 08:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by mymadsky 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋