there is this boy i really really like, but once night, we had sex.
i am 14. we were at a party, and things just kind of started going, and we had sex in his friends room.
i really like him and want to keep having sex, but i dont know what to do.
i never wanted to lose my virginity so soon, but now that i have done it it feels so good.
should i keep having sex? should i wait?
i am not sure.
please help.
and no rude comments please.
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2007-12-15 08:32:45 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
(taking you at your word)
Fourteen is young for sex, but there's a saying: you can't put the genie back into the bottle. If you really want to continue, ALWAYS be safe. See a doctor to get the best information about preventing pregnancy and STDs. If your parents are a problem, find someone you can trust to take you to a clinic.
It's not terrible for you to be having sex, but you do need to protect yourself.
2007-12-15 08:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by waia2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well you are far too young to be having a sexual relationship, it can cause many health problems later on life, my advice wait. It may be pleasurable now but really is it worth it? If you really like him, do you know he feels the same. Why not see if this is going to be a long term relationship before you decide anything. If you do decide to carry on having sex then make sure its safe and make sure he's clean, you don't want to catch anything, if in doubt wait. There will be plenty of time for boys in the future, why ruin everything now, wait until you know that you want to have sex, if you don't know then you aren't ready for this sort of commitment, its better to wait than have your life ruined by a few moments of pleasure
2007-12-15 08:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by angel1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't acquire birth control you're a disaster waiting to happen. Pregnancy can happen even after ONE time, so protect yourself.
Don't assume the boy is clean either--STD's are on a steady rise because younger people don't think they can get clamydia, gonnorhea or any of the sexually transmitted diseases. Some don't go away--herpes is forever. It's a lot harder informing all your partners (and future husband) that you have herpes for life and can give it to them if they have sex with you even when you don't have a current outbreak.
Educate yourself first!!!! It's your life, you can make some nasty futures for yourself if you don't. Also be aware sexually transmitted diseases CAN spread via the mouth--you can get them in your throat if you are exposed that way, and those are very painful. Try explaining that to your parents....
2007-12-15 08:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me you at least used a condom, for what you say I believe you're not afraid of being pregnant so I will take that you did used a condom.
I think you're too young for this kind of responsibility, if something goes wrong you will get pregnant or get a venereal disease. I will advice you to wait at least four years more.
I also hope that this boy is not an 18 year old perv seducing you, cause if thats the case you will sooner or later have the shame or telling your sexual life in a court room and see your BF gone to jail.
2007-12-15 09:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kate Kingsley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you shouldn't have had sex in the first place. If you don't respect yourself don't expect others to do it for you. Think of the consequences of sex, are you ready for pregnancy? do you know if he had STDs? do you know if you got infected? Your reputation will be far from pretty. Get out while you can, and see it as a one time mistake.
If he really likes you he will wait for you, if not he will just give you the elbow and spread the word and then every boy in your school will try to get the same from you.
2007-12-15 08:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Raquel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body is ready for sex a lot sooner than your mind and your emotional maturity.
It does not sound like this guy likes you very much if he had sex with you without getting to know you first and now, it sounds like you haven't heard from him.
I would suggest masturbation until you are older and better able to handle the consequences of a more serious relationship which includes sex.
2007-12-15 08:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by LGuerrrr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he like you ? were you just a one time thing for him ? Talk to the boy, communicate ! you're probably too young, but it's happened. Use condoms and don't be embarrased to talk to him. If you are, you really shouldn't be sleeping with him. If he's not interested, I wouldn't run out & find someone else just because you're not a virgin, just wait until you feel the right person has come into your life- even if it takes a couple years.
2007-12-15 08:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please use protection, First time sex, has got to be an experience,never to be forgotten,not to be regretted! You are below the age of consent,even though your body is not. I can only hope,your boy-friend is of your age group. Do not feel ashamed,we have all enjoyed the same thrill,of our first true encounter! If you are meant for each other,i wish you both well,Enjoy and best wishes.
2007-12-15 08:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't continue having sex, BUT if you do, please make sure you protect yourself. Also, maybe you should talk to your parents or a school counselor for some advice. I know you think your parents aren't exactly who you want to talk to, but trust me when I say that we've been there,or at least can somewhat relate. Good luck and I truly hope you decide to wait until you are older to continue to have sex.
2007-12-15 08:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be smart to wait until you are 16. Before that, legal complications can ensue if you get found out; also, you need to be more mature to deal with the emotional implications and complications of sex -- which are considerable. I am glad for you that your first experience was pleasurable; sometimes, it isn't.
2007-12-15 08:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋