Family & Relationships - 15 December 2007

When your spouse hurts you really badly over & over in many, many different ways, do you ever stop feeling the extreme anger, anguish, pain, gut-wrenching agony, sadness, and despair?
I also am extremely angry at one of the women who should have known better and she is probably living her happy life blissfully unaware. She probably doesn't even know I exist, not to mention my anger and sadness.
My husband is getting psychiatric treatment. I am seeing a psychotherapist and had previous counseling (preacher, counselors, group therapy, hospital). Nothing seems to help me just get over the years of garbage he (& others like the other women or "well meaning" individuals who took his side instead of being objective or supportive) put me through as far as this relationship is concerned.
I think I am damaged as far as future relationships go... Think of a dog in the furthest corner avoiding eye contact. That is how I feel inside. Does a person ever recover from something this severe?

2007-12-15 01:58:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-15 01:55:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband seems to think so. I have never worn a pair of his boxer shorts ... until today. It was an old pair that is too small for him. When I walked into our bedroom with them on he freaked out. He kept going on with it and asked me to get out of them because it's "unattractive". I took offense to that because I have seen women wearing boxer shorts around the house (i.e. on movies). I mean I don't see anything wrong with it as long as I am not wearing them under my clothes out of the house, and using them for underwear of my own.

I almost feel as if he was saying "I" personally am unattractive. I do have low self-esteem so maybe this is not as big of a deal as I am making it out to be. But I surely didn't think there was anything wrong about me slipping on his boxers. I guess I have learned my lesson.

Do you see anything wrong with it?

2007-12-15 01:51:06 · 22 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I am petrified of rodents. Most people, including my boyfriend react to my fear by telling me "it's more afraid of you..." I clearly find no comfort in this but it's all I ever get. Last nite to my boyfriend finally tried a new approach. While I was freaking out he sternly told me to stop it, then he ignored me. After a few min. he then acted annoyed by the situation. After calming down and reassuring him that I was all right and to not worry anymore he then told me to stop it again, only this time he yelled. Perhaps this is a new treatment for phobias I don't know about. Who needs therapy when they have this kind of support from their loved ones huh?

2007-12-15 01:48:49 · 6 answers · asked by babycattos 4 in Friends

2007-12-15 01:46:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 01:46:10 · 6 answers · asked by Ruby R 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 01:45:10 · 17 answers · asked by itsme 6 in Singles & Dating

How did it go? Could you take a relationship with a much older woman seriously? Of course presume you think she is beautiful, hot, nice person, intelligent...and you click!! But you are a guy in your mid 20s and she is in her mid 40s (but looks no more than 30). What attracted you to her?

2007-12-15 01:45:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im 20 he is 37 we had a great night at the work night out, now he has invited me out for a night! i have butterflies in my stomach thinking about it but he is quite proper spoken and has always had a good life, i havent. i just dont know if we have enough in common to go out. plus i just want a bit of funhe wants more what do i do?

2007-12-15 01:42:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Think long term

2007-12-15 01:38:43 · 42 answers · asked by David J 2 in Singles & Dating

my girl friend was raped about a week ago i need help... i no the person and to b honest i wanna kill him but i need to be there for her has anyone got and advice on what i should do... please help i don't no what to do

2007-12-15 01:38:36 · 13 answers · asked by help me 1 in Singles & Dating

Guys whats the difference between a girl you want to tap and a girl you want to date?

Is the girl you'd 'tap' less attractive than the girl you'd date and therefore only good enough for sex?

Why do guys pursue me only for sex? I mean why bother pursuing someone so much if you are only after sex?

I have had guys pursue me for weeks when all they wanted was sex.

2007-12-15 01:33:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'M IN THE 8TH GRADE HE IS IN THE 10TH GRADE BUT I FEEL HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANY MORE HOW CAN I FIND OUT WHETHER OR NOT HE STILL HAS A CRUSH ON ME. BUT IM MAD ABOUT HIM......PLEASE HELP............................

2007-12-15 01:24:40 · 4 answers · asked by CANDYCAT 1 in Singles & Dating

I have come back to London after living in vegas for a few weeks, because my sister has anorexia and i came to help her, My friends took me out to some nightclubs and i met this girl, she was my age and really rocked a good party and then i ended up at her place and we had a one night stand, we met up the next day, and the next day, then today, i saw her and this man and this little girl, i knew she had a brother becuase i saw pictures in the apartment and i had asked her who it was and she had said it was her brother, but than they sat down at a coffee shop and he kissed her really intensly and i'm going back to the states in 5 days, should i just ignore it, or should i say something! i feel so stupid i noticed a ring but i never questioned it because it was on the wrong hand! but when i saw her today she had changed it around!!

I'm fed up of all my relationships ending up so F****ed up!

Please help, should i tell her, or ignore it!

2007-12-15 01:21:48 · 32 answers · asked by Love_Me_Jaffa_X_O_X 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 01:20:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We the family members and friends went to an engagement function to a faraway place thr' a van. It is the function in the evening. It become night when we started back. A young married lady who is my friend's distant relative also one among. when we reach, the home of the lady is to walk as van can't go there due bad road. My Friend asked me to accompany her to home and asked me to come in the morning. my wife and my son also ecoved the same. why not you, i asked my friend for which he said that he takes responsible to drop each..the lady asled me please come. There is her mother-in-law who is a blind and her husband was on an offiicial tour. she opened the door and showed a room for bed. i fell in the bed and i feel some one rubbing ..the lady stood with nighty w/o top button and smiled. old lady sleeping..no sleep comes to me, she sat before me. i am on closed eyes begin to sleep. she shared the bed..i tried to control, but she insisted..done..she says that now only she enjoyed..

2007-12-15 01:20:03 · 1 answers · asked by Tamil from Vellore 7 in Singles & Dating

I haven't seen him in 13 years. When I met my first boyfriend (who was black) That entire side of the family disowned me (including my father) I since then have had a child of mixed decent. (in the obituary they did not claim her nor my sisters baby who is also mixed) My mom says I should go pay my respects to my grandmother and go to the funeral (I definetely don't wanna go to funeral because I think that is kinda hypocritical and my father will be there who abused me) In a way I do wanna go see her but I am confused. they did disown me and have made no attempt to see me or my child. When I was a young girl we were very close and I still love both of them to this day. I need opinions on how this situation should be handled. I have always been the one to say why after someone dies do people want to reconnect....shouldn't a reunion be before a death and not after?? Help please

2007-12-15 01:13:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My gf is mad at me because i was speaking to my ex and women on myspace when I said i didn't. I never dated any of these women . just talked. But of course she get mad. talks to someone on line and goes out for coffee. She tells me that she need to think about and she needs space. I tell her I love her so much and will do anything for her. Of course she say, if you loved me so much you wouldn't do what you did. I said , your right and I wish I can take it back, but I truely love you. Last night I gave her a call because I couldn't sleep. We talked , she asked me the same question. I should go out with these women or my ex, I said I want only her, no one else. But if you love me you would do what you did. The phone conversation, we did'nt scream or yell. It was getting a little late. She told me it's late, call me tomorrow. Ok, what time. in the morning, afternoon. She said whatever time. I called around 8:30 am . more than once, didn't pick up. is she playing with me . I left messages

2007-12-15 01:09:20 · 11 answers · asked by napolee_nj 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been told by friends that I am pretty. Not drop dead gorgeous but I'm deffinatly not ugly. I think I'm average looking. But whenever I go places with my friends there are guys obviously, they look at me and my friends "check us out" I guess?? If I'm using that word right.

But they always go over to other random girls. I had my first bf in 4th grade, if that really is one which it sorta was i guess.....but since then...nothing. I dont throw myself out there at them like an easy girl but what ......is it me?

2007-12-15 01:03:52 · 9 answers · asked by yeahrightlove 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend says he want a woman to take charge i.e. make plans to get togather, pay the bills, and have her own career etc. I don't have a problem with those things because I've been a single parent for the last 13 years. The only problem I have is always having to be the one to contact him first. He wants to hear how much I miss him or want him but he never tells me back.

2007-12-15 01:01:51 · 8 answers · asked by Susan 1 in Singles & Dating

In bed, I told my man we could try whatever he wanted..and he wanted to go up the a*s. I had no idea that he would go there because he knew I wasn't into that. It freaked him out... and me. Should I be mad, feel disrespected?

2007-12-15 00:59:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How the hell do you get over someone?
I really like this boy i have for ages at one point he liked me back and i cant help thinking that he might start to again.
All my friends have boyfriends and it is really depressing.
How can i forget about him?
Hes amazing :(

2007-12-15 00:59:12 · 3 answers · asked by Tina=) 2 in Singles & Dating

you are single and you get jelous when you see couple holding each other in a way that they are showing off and telling you something?.it didn't bothered me,but there is certain actins in that relationship makes me tick am not sure that is love....but why do we feel that way?is that normal or i m just weird?

2007-12-15 00:45:22 · 10 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Marriage & Divorce

gods love

2007-12-15 00:45:13 · 10 answers · asked by preacher man 2 in Singles & Dating

I broke up with my boyfriend. i don't like him anymore. but one day i was at my lockers getting ready to go home adn he got down on his knees, looked at the floor and begged for me to take him back. he still likes me, but i see him flirting with another girl. i don't like him. should i take hhim back? plez help.

2007-12-15 00:43:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does this mean he is unhappy I am getting married? Jealous? Or that he doesn't think I must get married?

2007-12-15 00:39:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Does this means my husband hate me? I'm I a bad person to him?

2007-12-15 00:38:44 · 20 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5 in Marriage & Divorce

i've been with my man for 2 and half years but we've never told each over i love you. being xmas i would like to say it, for the first time but i'm worried i'll scare him off

2007-12-15 00:37:55 · 18 answers · asked by Joanne E 1 in Singles & Dating

i want to be biracial, they are really hot and they get all the girls....


its not FAIR!!!

2007-12-15 00:35:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

this girl lauren has a really good friend called amy, lauren went home yesterday for christmas, but most people went out to the union's club last night, i've never met amy before, i've only seen photos of her, but i met her last night n i just went up and said 'amy!! i know u' then she brought me to see her other guy friends. basically, th guy friends were asking her how she knew me, she said she doesn't know, and they looked as if like they were taking the piss. amy looked a bit embarrassed after that, so i left.
have i messed up my chances with lauren? given that i've never met lauren's friends through her before, but i went up to them on my own and by the looks of things, didn't go down too well.

2007-12-15 00:34:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating