My boyfriend says he want a woman to take charge i.e. make plans to get togather, pay the bills, and have her own career etc. I don't have a problem with those things because I've been a single parent for the last 13 years. The only problem I have is always having to be the one to contact him first. He wants to hear how much I miss him or want him but he never tells me back.
2007-12-15 01:01:51 · 8 answers · asked by Susan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not a guy or a man thing
it's a needy, lazy, wimp thing
2007-12-15 01:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure he loves you and lets yu do everything because he trusts you very much but Loving someone cannot be one way only. Does he really know what's in your mind? Did you tell him this only problem you are asking us about?
Personally I am a more active than passive girl, I like to do the first move, like to organize stuff, take charge sometimes but I couldnt handle a situation like this if it was only depending on me. I want a man that is THE MAN and sometimes I even realized that my behavior was discouraging my bf on being so.
I think the best relationship must be Equal in most levels.
Showing your feelings is one of them if not hte most important.Planning events or trips is something both of you should do at times maybe even together...could be more fun.
Now There is something I have to say which means a lot to me: Do not forget The Roles. i know we are in 2008 but we have to admit that there still are even if people try to forget or ignore them. The Man is the Man and the Woman is still the Woman...at least in my house.
There are things that I still consider fundamental in a relationship. Keep the roles might even help the relationship to grow and last forever.
I am not talking about Girl doing the dishes and Boy throwing the trash...I am talking about Feeling the MAN at home. He leads, he takes money home (even if you work and both of you obviously contribute), he protects you, makes you feel a woman, makes you feel desired and wanted, That Man that surprises you with flowers or just a card...all these "old romantic" things that (imho) still want to exist!
2007-12-15 01:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say from my own experience that with guys they aren't based on how they feel about something...it's more about how they think about something. It's NOT ok for a guy not to tell you if he misses you or cares about you. BUT what you can do about it is ask him if he missed you or say did you think about me today or something that brings it down to his level. Tell him how great it would be if he would ask you about your day or let you know verbally how he cares for you. (Verbally expressing his feelings for you is just as important as showing you)
You shouldn't have to change how you act around him though. Don't change who you are; if you miss him then tell him. If you want him then tell him. Don't let his lack of actions change how you do things. I hope that helps. My boyfriend is the same way. But I actually think maybe its more of a independent girl thing. :) Maybe guys think that because we are independent we don't need to hear those things. We just have to remind them that we do.
2007-12-15 01:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by cajunangel20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it relatively is surely strange! ive in no way had a bf say something like that to me and ive positioned up with a good style of bs! i cant believe he even cares approximately that stuff... This of course bothers you or you wouldnt be right here asking this question. i could surely only say which you may desire if he doesnt remark on your visual charm, your hair, your outfits - it relatively is you and if he isnt pleased with you than he desires to discover somebody else. i only can no longer believe this guy provides a crap approximately your split ends... yet besides...you may voice your opinion, you cant only enable people walk throughout you, exceptionally your bf geez.
2016-12-11 05:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it must be a guy thing, cause me and my b/f have been together for 6 months, and i spend about 14 hours a day with him lol i always have to tell him how i feel, and i have to say i love you first most of the time, unless he does it on sudden impulse which suprises me lol, when i'm sick and stuff, he takes care of me, and tells me how much he loves me, but other than that i always have the first word when it comes to love ^^
2007-12-15 01:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Rawr! Shawna monster attack!♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be like, "Let me tell you somethin.....You come at me with all these wants and demands, But have you considered what I might want? And I don't feel that it's fair." Then ask him how does he feel about you. You have no idea of knowing cuz he never says it.
2007-12-15 01:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's a lazy, selfish, taking you for granted because you let him-thing.
2007-12-15 01:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is submissive play it up
2007-12-15 01:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by datsleather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋