my girl friend was raped?

Question

my girl friend was raped about a week ago i need help... i no the person and to b honest i wanna kill him but i need to be there for her has anyone got and advice on what i should do... please help i don't no what to do

Answer 1

call the cops only if she's not scared to talk? plus be there for her and don't push her to talk. she has too do the talking, if she want's to nail'em. i hope she does.

Answer 2

Your anger at the person who did this unspeakable act of violence is understandable. But, violence on top of violence will not solve the problem and will only result in you being in as much legal problems as he is in if your girlfriend has reported the assult and is pressing charges. My hope is that she went to the hospital after the assult so that any evidence this person, may have left behind could be collected and she could recieve any medical attention she might need. You are very right. You need to be there for her. There are rape counseling centers listed in most phone books. But don't push anything. Give her some time. Be there for her and let her lead the way for a bit. Don't push anything on her. The most important thing you can do for her right now is to be a support and assure her of your love.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry to hear that. I know someone whom this has happend to in the past, but I did not know her at the time. Even now, years later, the emotional effects can still be felt, so be ready for the long run. The best thing you can do for her is attend to her emotionally, and, as many people as she has around her to support her, ultimately, this is something she will have to deal with on her own. But be there anyway, because it can be reassuring. You can ask offer to help her seek counselling (maybe not right away, but eventually) as it does provide a better network for her to be with other people who can truly relate. Let's face it, as much as we try to understand her situation, we'll never know what it feels like to be in her shoes (or any other rape victim's for that matter).

As for the person that raped her, the most you can do is press charges. I know how you feel. I know the guy as well, and he deserves to die. But don't do anything rash. Good luck.

Answer 4

I've been there done that... My Ex and my God Daughter's mother have both been raped and or physically assaulted and it's the hardest thing for a man to go through since we as men feel that we are there to protect. Even if you are not the violent type you feel you have to act and put hands on the rapist, but i plead with you to keep control. Be there for her in every way you can been because as hard as this is for you... it's twice as hard for her. I know i couldn't get any of the women in my life to press charges out of fear but maybe you will have better luck. She really needs to so that other women don't have to go through what the two of you are going through. Hold her, talk to her, dry her tears. It's going to be a long process and the last thing she needs is for you to be locked up when she needs you most. My heart go out to you and her.

Answer 5

Unfortunatley with crimes such as rape, the victim suffers incredibly. They learn to cut off all feelings and because it was a rape she has disconnected herself with you during sex. You sound like a very understanding boyfriend and it sounds like you care about her very much. The best you can do is keep her trust and listen to her if she feels the need to talk. Has she seen a professional to talk about it? Her response sounds very common and these issues may take time to heal. I recommend she get professional help and in the mean time just be a support for her. Goodluck.

Answer 6

If she didn't go the the hospital for rape tests>Then it's her word against his unless she is a minor>Call the police and see what they will do> Best luck to her>

Answer 7

If you know the person who did it then you must report him to the police. Your girl friend will need professional help, maybe counseling.

Answer 8

Yes, you must report this.
This must be very hard for you as well as for her. Perhaps some individual counseling for each of you would be in order. Do you have a rape counseling group in your area?

Answer 9

well i hope she reported it. I hope that you will just sit by her side and suport her. She will probably have trust issues with men and sex for a while so you have to be extremly patient. And do not go after him.

And I am truely so sorry for her.

Answer 10

Tell the authorities

Answer 11

if you really love her, you will get the police on the ***** ***.dont do anything you'll regret like beating the **** out of him because youll get in just as much trouble as him.