In bed, I told my man we could try whatever he wanted..and he wanted to go up the a*s. I had no idea that he would go there because he knew I wasn't into that. It freaked him out... and me. Should I be mad, feel disrespected?
2007-12-15 00:59:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Partly, I agree that I opened myself up to it when I told him that, but I meant new positions. Our relationship is pretty new...
2007-12-15 01:16:07 · update #1
First of all, in law they will tell you never to ask a question you don't know the answer to. I would suggest you follow that credo in your sexual activity as well, if there is anything you object to.
"There is more in heaven and earth than dreamed of by any man..." You would do well to know that and also that anal sex is on the list of most males. You asked a question and he gave you his answer. "Anything" is a pretty wide open space in sexual matters.
No one can tell you how to feel, but just consider that even tho you don't consider yourself "that kind of girl", he did trust you enough to be truthful.
I'm assuming then that he did "go there", or at least tried, since you refer to being "freaked out". I'm afraid there is a lttle preparation necessary for this kind of activity and any sudden "entrance" is NOT going to work.
I think you got what you asked for - not a wise crack, just meant that you DID say "anything". Please don't hold against him a desire held by 99% of the male population. You won't have many to see if you cut out all the ones who have a desire now and then.
My guess is you won't be misunderstood again, nor will you open up the games to "just anything". So, take it as a lesson and try not to be angry with the bf. Try not to let it ruin an otherwise good relationsip, if that's what you have. But do talk with him about it. Those kinds of things have a funny way of turning into bad history and that is something to avoid.
2007-12-15 01:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
LMN doesn't know what he's talking about, he's comparing it to his stint in County Jail. Your BF probably just freaked because you said one thing and then responded in an entirely different manner! Don't get into bed with a guy, tell him he can take liberties with your body and then change your mind; you should have thought about all the possibilities before you offered. I bet he was stunned that you would toy with his emotions that way; it's going to take a lot of time and effort on your part to bring him back to that level of trust again, if ever.
2007-12-15 01:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did tell him he could try whatever he wanted!
How you feel is up to you, if you did not enjoy it, then don't hate yourself, or be mad and certainly not disrespected.
If you enjoyed it, well now you know more about yourself then you did before.
Myself, it's not something that drives me wild, but men vary in what turns them on.
I look at it this way, no matter how you do it, as long as both get off then it's a good thing.
Enjoy
2007-12-15 01:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sgt Big Red 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say try whatever, what did you think he was going to ask for? Why do put the offer out there and then act all stupid when he wants to do something different? What did you think he was ging to ask for, more cuddling? Don't think so! You should feel stupid, you told him he could try whatever and then reacted like he was leper when he told you what he wanted!
2007-12-15 01:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be mad or feel disrespected. You DID ask him and he told you want he wanted.
However, I DO understand why you would feel like that. But it isn't personal. Men like the feeling of the "tight grasp" around their, "Johnson's".
2007-12-15 01:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man, and I wasn't really into butt sex till a girl I was dating asked me to do it. She really really enjoyed it, and I got use to having a few different places to go, if you catch my drift.
I wouldn't say it's a thing of disrespect it's more about just trying something different. As for just shoving it up there...you got to work up to that kind of stuff, and it shouldn't be like a whoop surprise I'm in your butt.
2007-12-15 01:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Allan Strange 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with that, we always want what is hard to come by. Add a little spanking and hair pulling and a good time is had by all
2007-12-15 01:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by mikebrennan_us 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told him, "we could try whatever he wanted" and that's what he chose. No disrespect intended.
2007-12-15 01:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be open minded. You did tell him whatever. Just let him know at this time you don't want to do that. Tell him your not ready for it. He should understand
2007-12-15 01:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Fred P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
but u told him he could try whatever he wants
2007-12-15 01:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋