Family & Relationships - 10 December 2007

I'm quite frustrated with the situation I'm in. I don't know if I'm wrong or right...let me give a background. My husband and I met in college, fell in love, had a 6 yr relnship(got engaged also). His parents broke our engagement, he broke off with me, but after 2 months, we got together again and eloped, and had a very happy marriage for 4 years. Now his parents came to help us shift into a new house we had bought, and they are still there for nearly a year and the shifting is done. There was no prior discussion on their stay. We had a lot of fights since they arrived as they are interfering and commanding around the house and I don't like it. It feels like their house not mine. My husband blames me for mostly everything. we fight a lot and he talks of seperating and asked me to leave the house in front of his parents. I have learnt to ignore some things. But when I voice an opinion, he usually gets angry and stops communicating with me. I think I'm being taken for granted

2007-12-10 01:36:44 · 8 answers · asked by qnsans 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-10 01:36:08 · 7 answers · asked by fonzatoz 69 4 in Singles & Dating

I one had an ex that i met in a pub before and i was just desperately kooking for a boyfriend.Anyways we went out for only three mounths and he ended up meeting someone else and just stopped calling me and not returning my phone calls.I felt like a fool and regreting going out with him after all.

2007-12-10 01:34:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my ex cheated, was all the things you don't want in a spouse. she's the one that left (i didn't have any intentions of stopping her at that point). Thing is it's been 7 months of trying to forget about her, what happened, her crazy family and all the drama that goes along with her. I've just started dating again. nothing serious just to get my feet wet. I'm on a few dating sites and put up a my space page. I haven't heard from my ex in over 7 months and did a lot of work within myself to try and forget. ever since i put up a my space page, her friends and her are visiting mypage constantly. I'm not butting into her business but she's got everybody looking at mine(i've got a ticker on myspace where you can see who visits). I haven't heard from her and she left after an affair. I wish she'd just leave me alone. I finally started emailing her friends asking them to leave me alone. Why are they doing this? We are history? Think I did the right thing by telling them to leave me alone? Divorce is hard enough and I really don’t want to be reminded of her and have no idea why she wants to be reminded of me. I just want to be left alone.

2007-12-10 01:32:53 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

At what age do girls get your period?

2007-12-10 01:32:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

OK, I am 18 years old, about to graduate high school in May, and living with my parents. I'm white and currently talking to black guy that I like. My dad is totally against this sort of thing. My mom is too strict about it. But neither one of them know about it. I obviously don't have a problem with dating someone of another race, but my dad would kill me! Not literally of course but you know what I mean. I don't like lying to my parents but I really like this boy... So if you were me, what would you do in this situation?

2007-12-10 01:29:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

thanks.

2007-12-10 01:23:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a boy has hasked me "to go out with him" does that mean he wants me to be his girlfriend or does it just mean hey lets go get some McDonalds or go to that movie with your best friend and my best friend? what does "go out with me" mean?? i need clarity

2007-12-10 01:23:56 · 20 answers · asked by gillooloo_2007 1 in Singles & Dating

im so upset right now ..it may seem ridiculous but i dont know why i cant get over this ..i have posted another question that ties into this situation (read for more detail) but anyway i messed around witha friend..i really liked him..but i always "shut him down" im scared to get involved with another guy after my last relationship (he was a cheat) so i would always say "i dont like you like that" now he doesnt speak to me.i dont know if i was used (for sex) of if he was tired of me "shutting him down" we didnt speak for a while i called and told him i missed him, but he didnt really respond in a positive way (all he said was wow u never said that to me before) he asked me to tell him how i really feel about him.i told him i really liked him ALOT and it hurt me that we dont speak..i asked him how he felt about me and he said "i dont answer these kinda questons..i just ask them" and went on to say "see i told u when i was gone u would miss me" he was right..im so hurt. plese help

2007-12-10 01:21:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My little girls b-day was Dec 9 she turn only 10 all she want it for her 10th b-day to have her nails done pro. So my sister took her to have her nail done before they left the place they gave my daughter a gift baggy didn't think anything until she got home and ask me what the little bottle they put in the bag was? It took me by surprice why would they give her a small bottle of BRANDY,I was Mad !!! What should i do?

2007-12-10 01:17:21 · 9 answers · asked by BRATZ 1 in Family

Ok my husband and I have been married just over 5 years and we have 2 small children. We went for a little over 3 months without sex and last night we started too but it was obvious he didn't want to. He just laid there with his hands behind his head wouldn't move or even touch me! After a few minutes he said "ok, that's enough", rolled over and went to bed. If he wasn't on house arrest I'd think he was having an affair. So what could it be? Maybe he thinks he has some kind of disease or something, maybe he has a bet with someone or maybe he's just disgusted by me. I don't know but I feel so furious, hurt, and humiliated and I don't know what to do! I can't take this rejection any longer!

2007-12-10 01:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by poopykins81 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I have been together for three yrs and being married for 1yr and half we have 7months old baby. He is 30 I’m22.My husband doesn’t like me going out with my girl friends and when I say go out I don’t mean clubbing but I mean just girly things like shopping getting hair, nails, and body messages. I take care of my self I like to look good regardless where I go even at home. However, every time I go shopping or getting y hair or nails done my husband complains about me taking too long. He even complains when his friends come over and say that I’m hot he says that I dress to sexy and ask me if like one of his friends I told you the only one for me and that I never gave you reason to be this way. At first I though it was about me but now that I make a very good money I found out is not about money but he just likes me to stay home around the clock, I even pay someone to baby sit our babe while I do whatever I have to do so he could do whatever he likes.

2007-12-10 01:13:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-10 01:13:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-10 01:12:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've just had a Christmas card from my fiance, Malcolm (aka Crispy) and it was the bottom one of a box of value cards from Woolworths. It was the one that you always give the person you like the least - with a picture of the Bible and a candle.

I am so upset. I wanted one of those ones that come in boxes from Clintons saying "To the one I love etc...".

Should I consider the relationship over? What do you kind people think?

2007-12-10 01:11:23 · 55 answers · asked by Ms Minger 3 in Singles & Dating

I've heard bad rumors about them, even though I'm a very open minded guy, I'd never be prejudice. It's just that.. we come from totally different worlds, you know? Has anyone fallen for a korean girl before? What is it like? @_@

2007-12-10 01:11:17 · 17 answers · asked by Snowypup 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband has a friendship with this girl and its come to the point thats its detrimental to our marriage. We've been together for 3yrs married for 2 1/2. We have a toddler. He's know this girl for less than year.

I told him he needs to stop being around her until we can get our marriage back on track. He flat out refuses to stop being around her. He's not cheating with her but has fantasies about it. She's a lesbian with significant other.

I want him to choose between his friendship with her(at least temporarily) and our marriage. I won't sit around why he disrespects me and ignores my feelings.

He says that I'm being ridiculous and shouldn't make him choose because he has "the willpower not to do anything with her".

Am I being unreasonable????

2007-12-10 01:10:58 · 16 answers · asked by ARL 2 in Marriage & Divorce

okay so i have a friend who is a passive and she has a friend who is bi. her friend is can be mean and bullies her a lot. she's always all over her but (fake name) sally never does anything about it and is afraid to tell her friend (fake name) susan that she doesn't feel the same way and that she's not bi. she won't listen to me and i need other ppls advice!

2007-12-10 01:07:47 · 3 answers · asked by lost in a haze 3 in Friends

me an my bf fussed all weekend i gave him my bracelet and firday he slapped me and threw it at me i still have it today and we usually make up but we didn't he is having a lot of bad days

2007-12-10 01:05:08 · 11 answers · asked by ஐHis Sexxi Wifeyஐ 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-10 00:57:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-10 00:55:39 · 17 answers · asked by lalit n 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm getting married early next year and am very excited...

i'm planning to take my husbands name as its tradition...but feel a little sad letting my maiden name go...

lots of people have suggested a double second name (mine and his) but do you think thats a good idea or a bit pretentious??? What did you do or plan to do?

thankyou :o)

2007-12-10 00:47:38 · 44 answers · asked by CDsummersun 5 in Weddings

says she wants to be able to hang with her guy friends like go shopping or to the mall and leave her husband home? when she is 29?

2007-12-10 00:45:00 · 14 answers · asked by amayseng 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter is 15 and just moved here to live with me. She lived with her father from age 10 to 15.

We live in an apartment and she mentioned that we might be moving to her father. He said that the "world will be upside down" if he finds out that we have moved into an apartment. He wanted to visit over the holidays, but I have decided not to have any contact with him because of this threat. Any suggestions.

Also, my daughter's heart and mind are always with her Dad, grandmother and friends from the other state that she moved from. She gets up in the morning or comes home from school and talks on the phone for about 1 hour. Then, she starts her homework.

I don't know how to change her focus so that its not so much on her past life. She keeps saying "I hate it here." Then, she pushes me or throws a plate on the floor that I am eating. I get upset with her then. I don't know how to handle her?

Its a difficult situation. I feel like a failure.

2007-12-10 00:43:51 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family

First I must say, I go to counseling, so please don't suggest that. I am a new mum, I have a lovely daughter of 6 months old. I am depressed and stressed because of the following reasons:

1- My residency. I am living in UK now, and waiting for my USA green card through marriage which is at its last stage. (Waiting for the interview appointment). So I am just anxiousely waiting.

2- I want to start my own business from home as an IT recruitment agency and I know I can do it, because I used to be a sales manager for 4 years. But I just can't get started, I have prepared the necessary forms, bought the equipment (fax, printer, extra phone line, computer, books), researched a lot, made some initial calls, but I just can't start working. Everytime I want to pick up the phone, I get extremely immobilized, as I'm stressed any time the baby can cry.

3- I have extreme communication problems with my husband, we don't have a sex life, and he is very sick all the time.

2007-12-10 00:41:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

take me away to Canada..He says i will have to get job, AND look after house, cooking..He will NOT help in any household duties.My parents want me to say yes....i feel him too overpowering and rude....help..what do i tell parents?..he has come from canada to get married.

2007-12-10 00:39:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I left my husband almost a year ago because of his drinking. I left him because he told me I had to because he could not get sober with me in the house. I really left him because I could not let my daughters live that life anymore. Anyway,to make a long story short,he found somone else a few months later and now they are having a baby in a month. I am still so hurt by this because it was not supposed to turn out this way. Even though we live in different states now,it is almost like he has taken her and this new baby over our own kids. He sees them on holidays and wants everyone to drop what they are doing for him because he decides to come into town. He was paying me for the kids but stopped for some reason a couple of months ago. I feel so lost. I know I didn't do anything to make all this happen but I don't know where I will get the strength to move on with my life. This all started because he told me a couple of mintues ago that he wants to marry her when we get divorced.

2007-12-10 00:34:50 · 11 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband and i have been together for 3 years married only 2 months. before we got married he pushed and pushed for us to get married and now its like he doesnt care anymore. he would rather go out with his friends, spend time with his friends, and go drinking than spend time with me. i would go with him to do any of these things. i dont have a problem with what he is doing besides the fact that he doesnt include me. he doesnt talk to me about anything anymore. he has just become so distant and 'cut off' from the relationship that i dont know what to do anymore. i try to tell him how i feel but then he says im *itching at him. no matter what i do its wrong and more than likely will start an arguement. im just so lost that i dont even know what to do anymore..........plz someone help me find some kind of direction.

2007-12-10 00:30:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Just need to know how it went for you and if you ever realized that you did love the person that you have been married to. What was the outcome? Did you get a divorce or did you experience regret? Did the person that you thought you fell out of love with meet someone else and did that affect you? Or if you are the person who fell out of love, did you meet someone only to regret leaving your husband or wife in the long run? Or were you just happy wht the enw person? If you have experienced this...wether you were the one who fell out of love or you were the person who your spouse left because they fell out of love, I would appreciate your answer. Thanks!

2007-12-10 00:29:55 · 7 answers · asked by Javi 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-10 00:29:43 · 3 answers · asked by himanshu d 1 in Marriage & Divorce