I've just had a Christmas card from my fiance, Malcolm (aka Crispy) and it was the bottom one of a box of value cards from Woolworths. It was the one that you always give the person you like the least - with a picture of the Bible and a candle.
I am so upset. I wanted one of those ones that come in boxes from Clintons saying "To the one I love etc...".
Should I consider the relationship over? What do you kind people think?
2007-12-10 01:11:23 · 55 answers · asked by Ms Minger 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wrote: from Malc. No kisses.
2007-12-10 01:20:32 · update #1
Actually Denise darling they WERE £2 for 25 cards! Jolly expensive and classy. It wasnt my fault woolies had them reduced to 50p
I admit on close inspection the card is almost paper thin and the printed verse is barely readable due to poor printing but the picture on the front of the candle is lovely!
2007-12-10 22:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
FYI, guys aren't good at this kind of thing. What the card says on the inside is more important than what it looks like. But most importantly, you sound like you are having serious doubts of the whole relationship if you base everything and all the love on a stupid christmas card. My husband always gives me silly cards, but I love him to death and the ugliest card in the world wouldn't stop me from doing so.
I think you have serious unrealistic expectations for the poor guy if something like a card makes you doubt the whole relationship. Take a step back and look at everything as a whole. Is he good to you otherwise, does he make you happy, do you really want to be his wife, etc. If the answers are yes, then just laugh the card off as another failed attempt at your man being romantic. But if this is a serious issue for you then you need to take a look at yourself instead of blaming your fiance.
2007-12-10 01:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkleBean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't what the card looks like on the outside, someone else wrote the words., What is important is what he wrote inside the card . LIKe the saying "don;t judge a book by its cover" is what you are doing. You are engaged so I am sure the relationship is worth more than a Christmas card to both of you. .The relationship would be trouble if you received no card at all!
2007-12-10 01:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by angelcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, I think the majority of men don't really notice what is on the front of a xmas card.
If he didn't like you, I don't think he would have bothered to give you a card in the first place. If you are worried that the relationship might be over, it sounds like there is more to this story. I'd suggest talking to him about how you are feeling regarding your relationship.
I know this is easier said than done...GOOD LUCK!
2007-12-10 01:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by chanchan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn`t focus on the quality of the card so much. It`s the thought that counts and women are much more sentimental about these things. Most men are not. I don`t think your relationship is over by any means. Give him the card from your heart and he will realize what happened and nothing will be said and no hurt feelings, and hopefully he won`t do it again. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
2007-12-10 01:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once again Ms Minger your lack of empathy never fails to astonish me. Crispy probably feels hurt and rejected because you keep on flirting with other members on here, and you have cheated on him many times in the past. Instead of focusing on how YOU feel, think about your behaviour and the effect that it is having on crispy's self esteem. You know that he is struggling to get by on disability allowance, yet you expect him to buy you an expensive card? It is only natural that he is going to be a bit cautious about revealing how he truly feels for you because you keep on hurting him. Crispy is just protecting himself.
Also, you do seem to have become complacent and have let yourself go a little bit. You need to return to that hot piece of asss he fell in love with.
2007-12-10 04:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by raggyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well men aint good at getting a girl a very nice,special card,i think they dont realise that a card means alot to a girl so they just get any card.maybe they really dont think its a problem. also i always make an effort when i buy my boyfriend,xmas cards,valentines card,he made an efffort though but unlike me he dont write like an essay(you have to realise men are not like women,he may love you but guys dont feel they need to show you that by gettting the best card ever. they show it in some other way,no big deal,atleast he got a card for you.
2007-12-10 02:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by london-fem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have both of you on my fans list cause i added you and he just asked a question about asking a woman out. so ya its over. if it werent he wouldnt be trying to show interest in someone else. he mentioned you cheated on him. if you did or not i wont speculate. but the fact is if he believes it hes not gonna marry you thinking you did and may do it again move on he has
and that is uncalled for friction and the others who are insinuating shes ugly. leave her alone at least she put a pic up. is there a reason you didnt? HUH? yall are fricking rude and if you cant help someone without being total losers then leave them alone...get a life...all she wants is help not for you to nitpick her picture away because you think its funny!!!!
2007-12-10 01:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree talk to him you know how us women OVER think things...talk to him its not like you know that this is all your present for sure...And you are lucky to get a Xmas card from him - some people wont have a loved one to get a card from as they've died or at war...etc. Dont be ungrateful
2007-12-10 01:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be worse, could have been a box of value cards from Netto, then you know he doesn't care.
Its only a card, I would be more worried if he hadn't sent one. Try and out do him and send an even worse one.
2007-12-10 01:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Carlton J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋