im so upset right now ..it may seem ridiculous but i dont know why i cant get over this ..i have posted another question that ties into this situation (read for more detail) but anyway i messed around witha friend..i really liked him..but i always "shut him down" im scared to get involved with another guy after my last relationship (he was a cheat) so i would always say "i dont like you like that" now he doesnt speak to me.i dont know if i was used (for sex) of if he was tired of me "shutting him down" we didnt speak for a while i called and told him i missed him, but he didnt really respond in a positive way (all he said was wow u never said that to me before) he asked me to tell him how i really feel about him.i told him i really liked him ALOT and it hurt me that we dont speak..i asked him how he felt about me and he said "i dont answer these kinda questons..i just ask them" and went on to say "see i told u when i was gone u would miss me" he was right..im so hurt. plese help
2007-12-10 01:21:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also...he told me he has been really busy...really distant from everyone..but he doesnt know that i know about a new "friend" that he has..i feel he replaced me with her :(
2007-12-10 01:22:46 · update #1
i forgot this part he said :" so you like me? enough to be your bf?" i said "if i wanted a boyfriend yes, but i dont want one, you know what i went through with my ex and i just cant do it again" and he said "oh god. you dont make any sense!" and dropped the topic.it got quiet and awkward so we got off of the phone
2007-12-10 01:34:17 · update #2
I think the key is in this statement he said: "see i told u when i was gone u would miss me" He is bitter that he liked you for so long without response. But it sounds to me like he is just trying to give you a taste of your own medicine. If you really want this guy, be patient and keep in touch. He might be testing you to see if you really do like him..he might feel used himself.
Of course, be prepared that he really has moved on. (Although, that would be pretty rude since you guys just "messed around") If that's the way he is, then you don't want him anyway.
Good luck!
2007-12-10 01:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by opinionated1984 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you rejected him right? I understand you've been hurt in the past and have a hard time trusting. Maybe you aren't ready to trust a guy yet. It would probably help you to not become involved with any guy until you are ready to trust again. Otherwise, you may find yourself in this situation again and you don't want that.
I don't think he used you for sex. I think he really like you, too but got totally confused by your mixed messages. So either you like him enough to risk the trust issue, or you chalk it up to another lesson learned.
Good luck.
2007-12-10 01:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by clayinspiration 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really like this guy yet during the relationship you became elusive and insecure and didn't put your full trust into him. As a result his feelings got hurt and now that your talking again hes not welcoming you back with open arms in fear of getting hurt again.
If both of you are willing to work on a friendship then, I would suggest you workout the trust issue.
2007-12-10 01:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to get back at you for hurting him by hurting you. Just leave him be, he'll probably come around again but I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who gets me to finally open up and then tells me "tough s**t, later skater!" Just try to be a little more open in the future when you meet someone but you don't need to spill your guts until you KNOW that you can trust them.
2007-12-10 01:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty selfish to me. I think you are better off without him. A true friend would not have done that to you. It sounds like he just wants to hurt you and if you let him he will keep doing it. Sorry you lost someone you thought was a friend but it may be the best thing that happened.
2007-12-10 01:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by 400lbtwins 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If someone told me they did not like me like that I would move on to. People cheat it is an unfortunate fact of life but you can not go through life not giving others a chance to prove they are like that.
2007-12-10 01:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by tonice248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LI guess he never figured out with time that someone could be forever and mean it. Heart and all.! Looks like its going to be a "cold" Early Winter. When maybe the season passes he'll find his true love !
2007-12-10 01:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough
2007-12-10 01:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Slick98 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good news for you. This is a simple fix. What's happening is you have confused the guy. Guys aren't that smart to begin with [at least not from an emotional perspective] so we need things spelled out for us. From his perspective, he opened up to you [difficult for us] and you rejected him for no good reason.
You 2 need to have a heart-to-heart. You need to explain yourself to him as you have to us, and assure him it was just fear on your part and will not happen again. If he cares for you in a respectable way then he will respond. If not, you've saved yourself a lot of time and future aggravation.
Heed this Pimp. He cares for you.
2007-12-10 01:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
it seems unfair to me that he's prepared to ask you questions, but not to answer them himself. i suggest you get in touch with him again and explain that you know you were wrong to hide how you felt because you were scared, and that if you want a future together he needs to be honest with you.
if you are completely honest with him always, then you wont go far wrong, and the rest will be up to him.
good luck!
x
2007-12-10 01:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋