Family & Relationships - 16 November 2007

My wife has 2 sisters. Both divorced. Her mom wears the pants in the house. 3 sisters live in other countries and they talk to their mom all the time but rarely talk to the poor father. I say poor because he has lost his 2 kidneys. He is really sick but they all talk to their mom all the time… Their dad was a money making machine for them.

My wife always tried to control me. I asked her more than a year to go to a counselor together. Finally we went to 2 different counselors but she did not show up the second time because she says: I am smart and educated and I know what is right!

Both of sisters got divorced because they love the way their mom is acting,. No man can handle it but their Dad! I want you to share your experience with me… My wife never thinks she may make a mistake and when you tell her about her mistakes she gets angry. She threatens, she screams…

She has filed a divorce as another threatening tool to control me. She thought after seeing the divorce papers I will say: O.K, I will be your slave and will do whatever you want but I am not going to do that.

Here are some of her controlling issues: She gets mad if I go to the gym, or play tennis with my friends (I was an athlete my whole life)…whenever we go somewhere she says: whey do you behave like this? Whey did you talk to her? What were you telling to her?? It is so insulting. I believe when I got married I am committed to only one woman and she is my wife. I never think I will be with somebody else… but she just does not understand. I lived with her for a year and a half and every day was like hell…

Do you think my wife can change? Just stop asking why and start enjoying life?
Oh, she is 34 years old by the way. She is beautiful and I am a handsome guy. I always trust her but I think she is very insecure seeing I get a lot of attention.

2007-11-16 17:01:00 · 13 answers · asked by mazyar m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi all! i'm 19 this year..been going out with this guy for 3 months. We knew each other since 13 but we've been friends all the time until sparks started to fly bout 6 months ago. Everything seems perfect initially but i'm currently having exams now so we're not hanging out as much. Things just seemed different now, not as sweet and lovey dovey as before. Am i being oversensitive? He's not telling me he miss me and that he loves me anymore. Something he would always say last time. I love him very much and i cant imagine myself without him now. We used to have PLENTY to talk about but there was a lot of silence during yesterday's dinner. What is going on? I cant help but keep thinking bout negative stuff. Am i being oversensitive? :(

p.s He's not a playboy or anything cos i'm his 2nd gf and his first relationship lasted for 2 years. This is more or less my first relationship. He did tell me i'm the one he wants to marry and have kids with in future.

2007-11-16 17:00:34 · 2 answers · asked by Ashley L 2 in Singles & Dating

why do you guys text a girl giveing all the right signals, flirting and everything, and then it's like the next day it's like you guys drop off the face of the earth?! You don't text back or anything. please tell me why do you guys do these thingS?

2007-11-16 17:00:03 · 2 answers · asked by tiffany c 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm looking for this kid, his name is Canniggia Deslandes but all the clues that I've had so far have led me to dead ends. I would hire a private investigator but I can't afford that, I'm only 16.

I went to the place he once lived but his family no longer lives there, so I tried looking up his parents name online to find his current address but the ones that turned up were old addresses. I tried reverse phone search to track him down but that didn't work. His phone is no longer in service either. His parents names aren't listed anywhere in phone books.

I tried all the online social networks but that didn't help either, I found people who once knew him, even his ex-girlfriend. However he doesn't go to her school anymore. She didn't have any clue where he went or his contact info. Neither did the people who knew him.

So do you have any suggestions as to how to track this kid down?

If you think you know this kid (Canniggia Deslandes) please reply!!!

I need to find him!!!

2007-11-16 16:58:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Im going to a college campus party in about 40 mins and well i have aspergers and as such my social skills arent the best. give me some conversation topics, tips for meeting people, encouragement, anything that might be helpful

2007-11-16 16:54:46 · 11 answers · asked by captainpantsbc 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

closer I miss her so much. She was in a coma for a couple weeks after the accident and I got to go see her and now I regret it kinda because my last image of her is when she was in the ICU and very hurt. I made a memorial website for her please visit it and sign her guestbook the address is http://alison-miller.virtual-memorials.com/ I was just wondering if you have any ideas abouy how I can remember her on her Birthday, or if you have been through this and know how I feel. Thanks in advance

2007-11-16 16:50:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

If a girl is asking many personal questions such as:

-Future Life Plans
-What I do with my Free time
-What I like to eat
-What music I like
-If I look at her pics on facebook because I think she is hot

Could this be signs of interest?

2007-11-16 16:49:59 · 16 answers · asked by Joe 1 in Singles & Dating

As a western woman, i don't understand this process, nor do i understand the concept. It is giving me major distress, not to mention huge amounts of stress. He has made it clear that we will still be together. Please enlighten me on why people go throught this process. Is it engrained in them from a young age? Is it family coersion? Please help me to understand.

2007-11-16 16:48:44 · 12 answers · asked by jen 7 in Marriage & Divorce

We always fight over petty matters and we even slap each other sometime.. i dont know why i cant cope with him. We do not live together and for the time being he is on holidays for 6 months and we keep on fighting. I want to stop all this i feel suffocated and dont know what to do it is only with him that i have these fights and no one else in my family including my sister and friends.

2007-11-16 16:45:44 · 6 answers · asked by Heather 1 in Family

im in high school. im in love with a womanizer. he talks me alot and he says he loves me and he says that he wants only me. we are 1/2 in a relationship because he moved a few months ago to another state and THEN i started talking to him in this way. im just annoyed because hes xtremely flirtatious with other women. that wouldnt bother me except for how MUCH he says he likes me. am i over-reacting when i want to tell him its over?? also, how do i do that if i should, i have tripped and fallen for him and theres no getting up. i know me being in love with him is so stupid, but its just like my heart hasnt a clue. anyone know what im talking about? personal experiences perhaps?

2007-11-16 16:45:41 · 1 answers · asked by Bear 3 in Singles & Dating

He's not actually dating someone...but the phone calls and emails...and the lies. We have only been married for three months and he dated her while we were on a break for about a year. We've been together for 6 years though. How do I confront him? He always seems to have good excuses!!!

2007-11-16 16:43:27 · 30 answers · asked by KimberlyG 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 16:40:39 · 3 answers · asked by momto3 1 in Singles & Dating

When i look at him i get a huge feeling in my stomach and i just wanna lay on him and smell him .. but some part of me says that i might not look him ....

2007-11-16 16:38:48 · 22 answers · asked by Taylor Avie 1 in Singles & Dating

Seriously!

2007-11-16 16:38:39 · 12 answers · asked by OZ 3 in Singles & Dating

Im 20 female and a virgin. I am hoping to lose my virginity soon and am worried about not being able to orgasism several times? How can i?? Also, I have found out that im a kinky girl...is it good to go kinky the first time? or slow and normal ?? 10 pts to the mature answer. Thanks!

2007-11-16 16:38:31 · 28 answers · asked by YEP THAT'S ME.. 3 in Singles & Dating

We have a seven year old son. He spends most of his time playing video games and goes to strip clubs on the weekend? I know it sounds like I should just up and leave but because we have a son its hard. Help!

2007-11-16 16:35:26 · 16 answers · asked by sexyangelkiss26 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to know how to keep things from falling into the pletonic friend zone.

2007-11-16 16:30:02 · 3 answers · asked by Justin M 2 in Singles & Dating

My husbond works night and seem like it doent bother me or meybe couse i go to sleep so i dont think about.He works in a nite clubs..anyway the last phone he got he put a pin nr on his text msg...so i wont read them ..well i had read them before and was not happy with what i saw but he said its just flirting..i need guy opinion on this...i dont feel like he's up to something couse he's with me all day buy when i think about it its bothering me..

2007-11-16 16:28:39 · 10 answers · asked by MJ1977 2 in Marriage & Divorce

HELP! Girls! How do I convince a girl I'm not a player?
HELP! Girls! How do I convince a girl I'm not a player?
Women seem to think I'm a player. Not to be cocky but I workout alot, very buff, always had girls like me even when I wasn't buff, drive a convertible Porsche, dress like an ace, sport the rolex and custom shoes. Very social. Make mint money like 200k a year. So they all think I'm a player and not good long term. I like this one girl how do I convince her that all that 'game' as she says isn't a game for her!

I mean thing of YOURSELF, what would convince you?

2007-11-16 16:26:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I left my husband to be with the man of my dreams - I obviously had a bad marraige to begin with - my "amazing man" left his wife to be with me as well. Everything was perfect - until I started getting a sneaky feeling about him. He left one night with a lame excuse and I called his ex on the phone just to confirm everything that he was telling me -- she told me loads of lies he had told me - one was that she was his 3rd wife - he had cheated on all of them and then left them to be with the mistress and then married the mistress - and cheated on her -- I had no idea - he told me this was his 1st marraige and they met thru friends - he met all of his mistresses on line - including me! The bad part about all of this is that I was madly in love with him and now cannot move on and forget him! Please help in getting some closure for this - I really need it!

2007-11-16 16:25:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just curious. There is usually one in the relationship that loves the other more than the other loves them.

2007-11-16 16:24:40 · 10 answers · asked by Lorrie W 5 in Marriage & Divorce

He's so deep. He is so passionate, I love his photography (Has a True Talent Here) and writes his own music as well. I sware if I had the chance I'd meet him, we are only friends online, never exchanged phone # or addresses (home).

I Truly Miss him when we don't run into each other on-line, we both get times when we'll not sign on for a month or more to the community page we met @, No not myspace it's an artistic site for people with actual talents.

Should we met? Should we exchange phone #'s 1st? Should we write letters 'Snail Mail'? Should I just stop day dreaming about meeting someone that's only a key-stroke away but 1/2 a country away?

I went to Ireland and met a friend from the same site, granted had other actual friends there just met my online friend for a few days, it was really cool.

So Should I go 4 it? Would U give it a try if U where someone who has been single almost 3 yrs now?

Give me some honest feed back Please...

2007-11-16 16:22:59 · 1 answers · asked by Chef April 3 in Singles & Dating

This is a question about sex. Feel free to answer it if you need to. I'm usually a total submissive person in bed, I let my partner take total control of me, and my ex was very good at it. Now I'm dating a submissive man. I need to know what I can do to make things more fun and comfortable for him in bed.

2007-11-16 16:22:43 · 5 answers · asked by Melissa M 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

What agenda are you folks pushing. Theres a 50% divorce rate so that means half of them fail and the other half are miserable.

What is soooo goood about that huh ladies?

I think marriage is just a way to control people...to keep them in a caje of debt and responsibility and boredom.

2007-11-16 16:22:41 · 16 answers · asked by male.confused 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 16:20:33 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

His complaint is that I never want to do it and I never blow him enough. And well, he's right about those things I guess. The thing is, I just had a baby a month ago and the last 10 months my hormones have been out of control and my body has been to hell and back. I need some time and patience from him but he doesnt understand that. Also, I feel it's always about his pleasure. He never goes out of his way to satisfy me and when we have sex, there's hardly any foreplay. Then he complains I enjoyed sex more with my ex-bf. I just think his approach about sex is completely wrong. When I tell him that, he says I'm putting all the blame on him for our bad sex life. Who's to blame here?? Any advice on how to make it better?

2007-11-16 16:20:26 · 5 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Singles & Dating

i met a boy in preschool. we played with each other when we were little . we didnt see each other anymore years later when i was in 5th he was in sixth grade he saw my mom at kfc and told her to say hi to me few years later i saw him in middle schoool . i talked to him once at the middle of the school year at the end of the school year he said he probably go out with me. now he is in highschool im in middle

2007-11-16 16:19:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

on valentines day i was thinking of sending my crush a rose (im in 10th grade)
is that a good idea? why or why not?
should i write my name? should i add anything else?
and since im too shy to go up to him and tell him it's me who sent it, i was thinking of writing my screen name for AIM on it so we can talk on AIM a bit and "get to know each other" and then when im ready i can tell him.........is that weird or a good idea?

2007-11-16 16:18:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i like tattoos and percings and i want alot of them i want to strachs my ears to 1 1/2 and get alot of tattoos but she hates it but its something i want and it would make me happy what to do??

2007-11-16 16:15:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Well she thinks she owns me. She tries and decides for me ALL the time and she contently makes me feel like a failure to life. She's not independent at all she listens to her friends when it comes to me kind of like gossiping. How can I tell her to just knock it off basically?

2007-11-16 16:15:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family