I left my husband to be with the man of my dreams - I obviously had a bad marraige to begin with - my "amazing man" left his wife to be with me as well. Everything was perfect - until I started getting a sneaky feeling about him. He left one night with a lame excuse and I called his ex on the phone just to confirm everything that he was telling me -- she told me loads of lies he had told me - one was that she was his 3rd wife - he had cheated on all of them and then left them to be with the mistress and then married the mistress - and cheated on her -- I had no idea - he told me this was his 1st marraige and they met thru friends - he met all of his mistresses on line - including me! The bad part about all of this is that I was madly in love with him and now cannot move on and forget him! Please help in getting some closure for this - I really need it!
2007-11-16 16:25:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately you have learned a valuable lesson in a terrible way. We can never build happiness on the heartbreak of others. That is what you were trying to do. You may have had a bad marriage, if so you should have resolved those problems one way or another before becoming involved with anyone. And as you now know being the "other woman" is a no win situation. Any man that cheats on his wife will cheat on you, because that is what he is. Hopefully you have learned you just don't want a man with such a low level of moral development.
You are probably feeling a sense of loss, failure, and guilt. It will take awhile before you feel better, you will have to grieve, feel foolish and regretful, and redefine your values. Take time to do that, but at the same time find other pastimes to take your mind off things. Renew friendships, get involved in worhwhile causes, take up a hobby, get a pet, anything to that will make you feel better about yourself. Good luck.
2007-11-16 16:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dale T is right. A little blunt nonetheless, right.
You're the one with the problem. He's thoughtless and uncaring and can't be fixed.
You need to sit alone and re-evaluate your priorities. Your decision making has been glossed over. Cool your heels, chick.
Quit thinking the way to get over someone is to get under someone.
You need some time on the sidelines to determine what you want from a mate. Any guy can give you slick talk... quit being a sucker for that.
If you go into your next relationship with your eyes wide open you can keep them half shut after the marriage.
2007-11-17 00:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Voice of Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARE U KIDDING sounds like u are getting what u deserve. if they will do it with u they will do it do u sounds like u both have the morals of an alley cat and deserve each other
2007-11-17 00:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋