closer I miss her so much. She was in a coma for a couple weeks after the accident and I got to go see her and now I regret it kinda because my last image of her is when she was in the ICU and very hurt. I made a memorial website for her please visit it and sign her guestbook the address is http://alison-miller.virtual-memorials.com/ I was just wondering if you have any ideas abouy how I can remember her on her Birthday, or if you have been through this and know how I feel. Thanks in advance
2007-11-16 16:50:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I do not know what it is like to have someone that close to me die. I am so sorry. Well make sure all of her friends are there. Have everyone wear black to commemorate her death. It's always nice to light a candle for the person. It's also nice symbolism to have when the light of the candle goes out. Make sure you have a moment of silence for her. It would be nice if you did this at her grave the moment you laid the flowers down. I think she will be there watching you commemorate her birthday from heaven. I know she will appreciate it. It is very sweet of you to do this for her. I wish you warmth around you and all of her friends on the day of her death. I will commemorate it as well because I was so touched by this story. Stay strong. Remember to have a moment to remember the joy of her life as well.
2007-11-16 17:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by luvlaughter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I been through the same thing with my uncle when he passed in 98 and the only thing you can really do is remember all the good times you had. I also had two friends pass away within the last year and half. Ya its gonna hurt for a while. I still cant believe there gone. Try your best to remember the good times. here's a quote that i really like and all-ways gets rid of tha sadness for me.
"The Life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living"
2007-11-17 01:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents are probably in so much pain. The best thing you could do for your friend is to write her parents a letter in your own handwritting. Tell them what she meant to you, some of the memories you have of going to her house and doing things together. Share something that you used to laugh about, what she said her favorite color was and what she thought she wanted to do with her life. Those thoughts and other personal remembrances of her that are" only for their eyes" will give them back a tiny piece of the daughter they have lost. I think that if your friend loved her parents as much as I imagine, any fond thoughts that could share would relieve some of their feelings of loss,and would make your friend smile up in heaven.
2007-11-17 01:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest getting a group of her friends together and putting some flowers on her grave. Coincidentally, that's my birthday too. I'll be thinking about her then.
2007-11-17 00:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋