His complaint is that I never want to do it and I never blow him enough. And well, he's right about those things I guess. The thing is, I just had a baby a month ago and the last 10 months my hormones have been out of control and my body has been to hell and back. I need some time and patience from him but he doesnt understand that. Also, I feel it's always about his pleasure. He never goes out of his way to satisfy me and when we have sex, there's hardly any foreplay. Then he complains I enjoyed sex more with my ex-bf. I just think his approach about sex is completely wrong. When I tell him that, he says I'm putting all the blame on him for our bad sex life. Who's to blame here?? Any advice on how to make it better?
2007-11-16 16:20:26 · 5 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How to make it better? Choose a man who cares about you and his? child. Don't rush the sex part until you know he is at least a decent person.
2007-11-16 16:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound like I'm nagging at you but why would you want to be with somebody who doesn't trust you? The sex thing sounds like he's really controlling. does he even let you see or go out with your friends? let me guess, no because he thinks you're gonna go attract some other guys. You should take charge and be your own person. You sound like you're being molded into something he wants but you do have free will. With my girlfriend I let her do anything because she is her own person and she likes doing what she likes but that is becuse I trust her. Is it love because you think you might not get anybody better or love because you first had sex with him or love because you've been with him so long? No offence but if you let him do anything he wants and he doesn't let you do much, that's not much of a relationship.
2016-05-23 22:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to hear how your needs aren't being met, all he cares about is his... So If you are ready to have sex, you should talk about some guidelines such as how often, and maybe have him please you first before you do anything to him. Tell him you really want to have sex but you need a little help with the baby at night so you can get ready for him by taking a nice bubble bath.
2007-11-16 16:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by 212 Degree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about get another boyfriend. This guy is a loser. The sexiest turn on in the world is the guy who says, I want to marry you and I'll do the dishes so you can get some rest. What has this guy got to offer?
2007-11-16 16:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
unless you wanna stick with this guy for the rest of ur life, i'd advise breaking off from him, because you know what? he's gonna treat you like an object for the rest of your life, yes i know i sound brutal, but you gotta understand, i'm trying to be realistic here
if he won't understand ur feelings, heck you should throw him out of ur life immediately, from what you wrote, he sounds verrry selfish, he's using you as if ur a sex toy, i'd run while you still can
i hope everything works fine with you, good luck
2007-11-16 16:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by mc_muffin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋