What agenda are you folks pushing. Theres a 50% divorce rate so that means half of them fail and the other half are miserable.
What is soooo goood about that huh ladies?
I think marriage is just a way to control people...to keep them in a caje of debt and responsibility and boredom.
2007-11-16 16:22:41 · 16 answers · asked by male.confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your letting yourself be controlled...be more stronger and demand the key for some along time...most birds came back to the nest any way..so what a little freedom o spread you wings and catch some air.
If your in debt...that means you made a life for yourself...and you are being responsible to work for it....why do you have to fight for the key of happiness if your responsible ....because your being controlled.
Go the gym...or a jog a hike alone away from family and work and boredom or other activities...this way you will feel refreshed and not so stuck in a boring marriage.
2007-11-17 03:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow....that's a pretty jaded way to go through life. I'm guessing you haven't experienced true love yet because if you had, you would understand. You wouldn't NEED people to upsell you. When you are in love with someone, you WANT to be in that "cage". :) Yes, there is a 50% divorce rate but that shouldn't deter people from ever getting married. It SHOULD make people more cautious and wise about their choices though. So many people just rush into marriage without fully understanding what it takes or what it means.....and that inevitably leads to divorce.
It's hard to look at couples who have been married 50 years and still hold hands and think that marriage is a cage. To me, marriage is a promise to my beloved and to God. Personally, I don't see marriage as a cage and if it is, I can't think of anyone I'd rather be "caged" up with than my sweet husband!!! :) I'll take those chains any day!!!
2007-11-16 16:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is Awesome! I have been marrieed for 15 yrs. We have stuck by each other. My husband doesn't control me and neither do I control hmi, Love isn't about control. It is about a deep commitment that you make to God and eachother. Some marriages are not good when it is not a safe one ie:abuse or cheating. But alot of ppl also divorce because they just aren't happy with their Spouse, rather than workiNg it out they give up or some may think that marriage is a game where you "play" house and once they realize that is not true,they run for the hills. I dont miss the single life one bit! Also FYI responsibility is a part of growing up. I agree with the one that posted " Don't get married".
2007-11-16 16:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by bella s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why your sign in is "male confused". If you believe that marriage is just a way to control people you have never been deeply and passionately in love , .Marriage is not just for the benefit of the couple involved, it is there for the nurturing and protection of the children that result from those two people being together. There may be a lot of people who get divorced but that is probably because it is far too easy to do it . Lots of us are married and happily married. Ask most kids if they don't wish that their parents were together. Try raising kids as a single parent. Sure marriage probably holds some shakey unions together but it also encourages compromise, forgiveness and commitment when it would be far easier to just walk away.
2007-11-16 16:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all calm down. The divorce rate is less than 50%, it's 40-45%. It's still high, but there are reasons.
Also, marriage is a beautiful thing. It will always exists, and thankfully. It's the highest form of love between two people, even stronger than sex. It should never be taken as a means for money or anything else. It should only be out of love.
2007-11-16 17:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by airforcewolf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a way to control people if you really love someone then you can make it work. Would you believe my grandparents new each other for 2 weeks and they got married they was married for 65 years. with 7beautiful kids. I want a marriage that true and stable. My husband of 7 years lied to me everyday and then he shot himself . Found out later he had bypolar and had been fired from 5 diffrent jobs and he had a mistress on the side. His family new he was like this but they didn't bother to share it with me.. But they claimed he was always happy and stable when he was with me. He left me being 10.000 in debt had to file bankrupcy. But most of the bills were all medical. Except for two and those were signature loans to pay for his mistress apartment. All I ever did was love and care for him andI was very supportive of him. And all I GOT WAS THE SHAFT!
2007-11-16 16:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tracey Fahnestock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what type of a question is this? Seems it is only a point of view and everyone should be allowed to chose to be married or be single. You shouldn't have to 'sell' marriage; it is just a choice in life that each person may or may not select.
Why do you feel you must justify being single? And why does it bother you that some people love having one person to share their life with? It isn't affecting you any what they chose to do with their lives.
2007-11-16 18:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you seem pretty bitter over a very dynamic situation. A marriage is defined by the participants. A marriage will be what you make it.
It does seem as though you have a very sure definition of yours would be, a disaster. Maybe that has more to do with you than a legal document and a ceremony.
2007-11-16 16:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. McK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have to sell it all i know is it works for me and my husband. Just because your parents didn't love each other doesn't mean every marriage is like that.
By the way my husband and i have been married for over 28 years not counting the two years we were together before we were married. We both love each other more then the day we were married. If you are thinking i am speaking for the both of us your wrong. After 20 years of married my husband ask me to marry him all over again. He bought me a new set of wedding rings and we walked down the aisle once again.
2007-11-16 16:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 01:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋