Family & Relationships - 16 November 2007

We've been seeing each other for over a year. I am a civilian contractor and so is my boyfriend. I spend a lot more time in Iraq and thats where he's at also. At first I had no idea he was married, i just recently found out. I am so upset at this whole situation, but I'm also in love with him, and don't know what to do. He claims he has no love at home and both had talked about a divorce way before I came in the picture. Should I believe him? It gets very lonely in the desert and I would hate to do the rest of my time here with out him around me. We are so close. We stay at each others room everynight, we do everything together. I know this is wrong but I didn't know he was married. Help!

2007-11-16 14:23:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We are coming up to the holidays and I know it isn't going to be easy.

My husband cheated on me with a prositute over the summer. We are trying to work things out. We have been tested for STDs. We are going to church and are in counseling (seperate and together- with the same counselors).

I have been dealing with images and thoughts in my head.

Example: I can be driving and it will pop in my head. I will think about him with her (I know the details) and wonder why. I question what he was wearing and want to get rid of those clothes. I ask myself questions about what lead him to do it. My biggest thing is thinking of the two of them together in that hotel room.
I'm thinking about it more lately.
My question is How do I deal with all of this with the holidays and the fact that no one knows about our problem?

Thank you for your advice.

2007-11-16 14:22:00 · 17 answers · asked by K_A_mom 1 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been together for 4 years and i already have kids and knows some day he will to what would you do!!!!!!!!??????????

2007-11-16 14:20:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so i like this guy who i used to sit next to last year he was really sweet and nice but he was kinda punk i am not like puttin us in different social groups but i am kinda preppy well this year he doen't talk to me anymore and i can't tell if he liks me or not he does some little thigs that makes me think he likes me but than he just blcks me out !!! i am not the type of girl who gets asked out or asks someboby out but i really like this guy he can sing, he is smart , and really cute !! HELP !!

2007-11-16 14:19:56 · 15 answers · asked by Alejandra C 2 in Singles & Dating

people think if your not ready for a relationship you are wierd, is that true, give me your view

2007-11-16 14:19:31 · 3 answers · asked by ANNIE TEXAS STACY 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

It seems to me that younger girls, usually around the ages of 14-17 are more attracted to older guys around the ages of 18-24. Is there a certain reason for this, or is it a fluke?

2007-11-16 14:18:20 · 15 answers · asked by Casey Pieper 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 14:17:47 · 10 answers · asked by terri b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It is now day 55 of of 60. I may want to change my mind about it being uncontested. Does my refusal to sign force everything to begin again at day one>

2007-11-16 14:15:33 · 4 answers · asked by wfs 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It is now day 55 of of 60. I may want to change my mind about it being uncontested. Does my refusal to sign force everything to begin again at day one>

2007-11-16 14:14:52 · 7 answers · asked by wfs 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What is the youngest age for relationships?

2007-11-16 14:14:48 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I guess I wanna try something new. But sure it'll hurt someone. How can I get over that girl? Just don't talk to her at all, I guess. But then the feeling still left in there....

2007-11-16 14:13:42 · 7 answers · asked by Rungkit V 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok well my good friend is kinda gothic, but not much. she dresses kinda ark, but not fully goth. her other friends dad dssnt like the way she dresses. he says if she dssnt change, they can b friends ne more. shood she change for her friend or put her foot down and stay the same.

2007-11-16 14:11:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

is it approiate to send registry information in the bridal shower cards? I would like to know if not how to get this information out, and why would the company send the information about the regisrty cards out?

2007-11-16 14:09:20 · 10 answers · asked by me 2 in Weddings

Their self image is so distorted, they can only see themselves as a monster.

Also, if a woman does show any kind of interest in me, I immediately think either she is lying or there is something wrong with her.

2007-11-16 14:06:32 · 11 answers · asked by Zardoz 3 in Singles & Dating

try to guess the name os my mom and my father... who answer correctly will win a kiss, virtual kiss

2007-11-16 14:06:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He said "maybe" with a "=]" in a flirtatious manner and has been flirting with me some?

what are the chances of him liking me?

2007-11-16 14:05:26 · 9 answers · asked by ceecee 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 14:05:16 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For 13 yrs I chased this guy..it was love at first sight for me..when I hit 21 a "certain kind of relationship" started with him.I am 24 ..for the past 2 yrs I have been the girl who he always knew would be right there waiting for him..5 days ago he said he wanted space and I said okay even thought he knows i love and am inlove with him and that I would wait for him to find out w.hat he wanted..he still wanted to have a break..he felt pressured.. he asked me too what if i changed my mind and I said don't because this is what you need. he said he didn't want to lose me its just he wasn't ready for me in life right now..hes 30..I am 25..I said ok and afterwards we stopped talking,writing ect. 5 days there were no calls,or letters or nothing..we are 3 hrs apart by the way..he writes me today and says he can't do it..and not being able to hear my voice is killing him..he said he hates this and doesn't understand why its all or nothing..am I wrong if I dont write back?If i do..when?

2007-11-16 14:04:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This has to be grounds for divorce.
I can deal with the sex change and all but I can NOT deal with the nightly beatings he/she now gives me..

I was safer in prison.

2007-11-16 14:03:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 14:03:06 · 11 answers · asked by samantha 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 14:01:47 · 23 answers · asked by Dirt E. Deeds 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i think this guy is flirting with me, but im not sure.

2007-11-16 14:01:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife tells me sex is not important in a relationship but i think it is, actually making love is to me not just sex. I like the pleasure of touching her, feeling her entire body, caressing her every inch of her body, massaging her and plenty of foreplay and then making love four and hour or 2 or 3! Kissing and hugging, and making great hot love! If I it were up to me, I'd do it with her everyday, sometime twice a day. She tells me that once or twice a month might even be too much for her and that in this world, there wouldn't even be a woman who would even want that much affection, that it does not exits! I believe otherwise. She says that I'm a dreamer! Is this true or are there any women like me out there who can save my case??? That am not the sexually crazy one out here! Although, if she was more affectionate and caring I probably wouldn't want it so much! At least 4 times a week of great love would be great!

2007-11-16 14:00:50 · 12 answers · asked by Camelot 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just found out my husband has been having an affair so I had to pack up my two kids and move in with my parents. My father hits both me and my kids and there is nothing I can do about it because of fear. Is there anyway to make money quick so I can afford to get my kids away from this environment and get a good enough lawyer so that I don't have to share custody with my horrible drug addict cheating husband?

2007-11-16 13:57:22 · 11 answers · asked by xxxxxxlinziexxxxxx 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-16 13:54:56 · 7 answers · asked by anonyn55 2 in Singles & Dating

What are some good chatrooms for ppl in new zealand? besides yahoo!

2007-11-16 13:54:20 · 4 answers · asked by music_junkie_nz 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-16 13:54:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I had been drink one night and I decided to call this girl up that I have started to have feelings for. I know that she has a bf but she flirts with me and even others can tell by the way we are around eachother that we like eachother. But that night we started to talk and in the middle of the conversation she tells me this friend of hers and then gave me his last name and continued on with the conversation. The friend she was talking about was her bf. Why would she call him a friend and use his last name? Was it because I had been drinking and she didn't want me to get mad about her talking about her boyfriend or does she have something else on her mind?

2007-11-16 13:54:04 · 4 answers · asked by myfav1 5 in Singles & Dating

what gives people confidence to approach girls and make them know they are going to get with those girls?

2007-11-16 13:53:38 · 8 answers · asked by Obama's GF's BF 1 in Singles & Dating

i need some emotional help!!!!!!!!!

2007-11-16 13:51:26 · 16 answers · asked by Ronnie♥ 2 in Singles & Dating