Can someone's self esteem be so low they cannot see themselves as even remotely desirable?

Question

Their self image is so distorted, they can only see themselves as a monster.

Also, if a woman does show any kind of interest in me, I immediately think either she is lying or there is something wrong with her.

Answer 1

yup,

especiallyyy, when people have told you that ur pretty or something, however the only attention you get from members of the opposite sex is friendly attention.

so yeah.

Answer 2

I can relate, Ive come a long way & made progress toward thinking of myself in a more healthy & realistic way, but I definitely know what you mean, I still struggle with it, feel free to email me if you ever feel the need to vent or just need an non judgemental ear, plus talking through email is kind of doing in anonymously I know it can be a sensitive subject to talk about yourself like that. I used to be absolutely convinced that I was the ugliest person in the room, I used to think head to toe there was nothing desirable about me physically, I used to be affraid to walk behind a woman even if it was in a parking lot or something on the way into a store cause I used to think that people would just look at me & think Im a rapist or something & in reality I look like a normal person, Im not all dressed in black or tatted up or anything extreme. Im guessing you got yours from childhood thats what happened to me, I grew up in an abusive home. Best of luck.

Answer 3

YES! You are talking to an older woman with serious health problems, 30 lbs overweight, thinking no one could remotely find me desirable...I was wrong. There are REAL humans out there that love from heart to heart. The outside , physical appearances are shallow reasons to not love someone. Looks mean nothing to me but for someone to want me I thought I couldn't meet them right now until I got a better self image..WELL we are meeting in less than two weeks. I AM ME only me... You need your self confidence pumped up! Please, who are you and I to decide for others what they find desirable? huh? Think about that! Bless you...good luck!

Answer 4

Welcome to my world!

I was undesired by girls when I was growing up. Now, when a girl shows interest, I panic thinking there must be something wrong with her if she likes me.

We/you need to get feedback from a nonbiased, independent party. You won't trust family and friends, thinking they won't tell you the truth.

As crazy as it sounds, I was told an exercise to try is to write a survey about your good/bad points and how people see you. Go to a public place and hand it out to people (telling them it is a psychology experiment). See what kind of responses you get. I bet other people see you differently than you see yourself.

Answer 5

everyone feels like that "self image", if its that bad then you should seek therapy but even the, "most beautiful " feel ugly at times its human , but be glad to know theres someone for everyone, and it happens when your not looking at all , open your heart up not every one is a lying back stabbing sob, and you will find faults with people if you find faults with your self just know know body's perfect.

Answer 6

No, that just means their is something wrong with you. If you can't accept yourself then how do you expect anyone to? Learn to love yourself because you can't change who you are, we are all born with insecurities but we have to appreciate what we have and not always be thinking about what we wish we would be like. You're chasing away perfectly good women who could actually love you for you, I suppose you like being alone.

Answer 7

Thats when you apply fist on
apply it directly to the forehead
fist on
applied directly to the forehead....etc...

Answer 8

Secretly, most people probably feel that way, or have at times.

Answer 9

dude its the same way wit me ur not the only one in the boat

Answer 10

Yeah.....but the only way is up.....confidence grows over a very long period of time!!!!