we have been together for 4 years and i already have kids and knows some day he will to what would you do!!!!!!!!??????????
2007-11-16 14:20:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't want anymore children then you shouldn't have anymore children.
Now the ball is in his court....either he stays because he loves you more than he wants children....or he leaves.
2007-11-16 14:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to talk...totally communicate about this situation. Does he know your position?
If this is going to be a real ordeal in your relationship, it has to be addressed, not ignored.
You either love each other enough to make things work the way they are, or you have to do what is best for the both of you. I know that you love him and may feel that you may be doing him an injustice by not wanting to have more children.
Compromise is the only answer. You give, he gives...of course that is in any relationship.
Just make sure that neither of you have any regrets with the outcome of your decisions...that leads to resentment.
Good Luck,
Diane
2007-11-16 14:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no children and refuse to ever have children. Because I am a woman, I have that kind of control, you also have this and will never have children against your will. If I were with a man who wanted children, I would tell him straight up, it's not going to happen. Then he can decide if his love for me is enough or if he loves the idea of having children more than the idea of being a significant other to someone as great as me! If he left, all the better, obviously he wasn't good enough.
2007-11-16 14:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is going to want at least one child from you. You need to talk to him about this, because he feel he will never had a kid of his own, and might not like the idea.
2007-11-16 14:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't imagine living without a child of his own, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to let this man go. If you love him so much you don't want to lose him, you will agree to have his child for him. If you dislike kids, you need to tell him and let him move on.
2007-11-16 14:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. If you both love each other this should not be an issue. It is deceiving him if you are just putting him off and he thinks that there is a chance of you having more children.
2007-11-16 14:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Queenie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have made it clear from the beginning of the relationship, although i understand how people can agree with stuff like that and then change their mind after you are emotionally invested in them.
2007-11-16 14:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit and talk this out that.s your right not to want more children after all you have feeling.s on this as well him to and didnt he know you had children before you both got married yes . he did. my opion>? ref,,,, male here as well ?
2007-11-16 14:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stop waisting his time already.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 14:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to him about it
2007-11-16 14:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋