We've been seeing each other for over a year. I am a civilian contractor and so is my boyfriend. I spend a lot more time in Iraq and thats where he's at also. At first I had no idea he was married, i just recently found out. I am so upset at this whole situation, but I'm also in love with him, and don't know what to do. He claims he has no love at home and both had talked about a divorce way before I came in the picture. Should I believe him? It gets very lonely in the desert and I would hate to do the rest of my time here with out him around me. We are so close. We stay at each others room everynight, we do everything together. I know this is wrong but I didn't know he was married. Help!
2007-11-16 14:23:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want to put your life on hold then keep staying in his room every night! I'm sure there are plenty of single "military men" over there, the last count was like "the entire US military"!!!!
2007-11-16 14:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the wife of a deployed soldier. I would hate to know that there was someone like you around. It has nothing to do with keeping him satisfied at home and I understand that you can't force someone to cheat on their spouse. BUT, if this guy and you are so called "close" then you would know that he was indeed married. If this guy did truly care for you, he would tell you. AND if he was any sort of decent human being, he would have never began cheating on his wife. Period. You will loose him the way you found him. Cut your ties and be done with it. You are hurting so many unknowing people right now, especially if he has children. You don't know that he doesn't. I would hate to see the faces of his wife and children if they ever found out about you. It would destroy their whole world. I even bet his wife looks up to him for doing such a good job over there. Divorce TALK is alot different that actually going through with it. If they truly did NOT love each other, they would be divorced. He obviously still loves his wife somewhat in all of the peices. When he leaves, you will only be a memory of someone that he got to get it on with while he was deployed. What happens on deployment stays on deployment, right? Us wives and military folk know all about that sort of thing. PLEASE do all of us including yourself a favor....leave this man alone. Given the opportunity he may can save something that was probably very beautiful to begin with. Besides, shouldn't you people actually be "WORKING" over there? That is what you were sent to do. But now I guess we Americans really know why nothing is getting better over there. Everyone is too busy breaking marriages and meeting their sexual desires. Disgusting. You have alot of thinking to do.
2007-11-16 17:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Life 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you need to realize the fact that he been lying to you. What exactly are you looking for in this relationship? Do you want to marry this guy? Or is he someone to keep you from being lonely? The big question you need to ask yourself is, is he going to do this to me one day? Marry me then cheat on me? I would let him know that you want to be with him but that you refuse to continue this relationship when he's married. And end it. If he contacts you back and says he left is going through the divorce, then it is up to you to believe him. Don't pursue this when he is still married. If you want nothing more than someone to keep you company, just find someone else.
2007-11-16 14:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to know that what you are doing is wrong, so why continue. Why don't you call his wife to see if she knows that her marriage is in trouble? If he truly loves you let him get a divorce, than continue your relationship. If he is not willing to start divorce proceedings than all he wants is you there and a wife back home.
2007-11-16 14:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by Queenie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe the lies he tells you or the lies you tell yourself. When it's time to go home, the relationship will be over.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 14:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave Him Alone!
2007-11-16 20:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by singer4u1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you can't verify anything and he is getting some....I assume he is lying........................
2007-11-16 14:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by richard t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋