My husbond works night and seem like it doent bother me or meybe couse i go to sleep so i dont think about.He works in a nite clubs..anyway the last phone he got he put a pin nr on his text msg...so i wont read them ..well i had read them before and was not happy with what i saw but he said its just flirting..i need guy opinion on this...i dont feel like he's up to something couse he's with me all day buy when i think about it its bothering me..
2007-11-16 16:28:39 · 10 answers · asked by MJ1977 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please do not silence you first gut reaction. You were right on ..Never assume that he would never cheat or believe that it is not possible. He has his own mind and thoughts that you have no control over. So if he decides to have an affair do you think he is going to come right out and tell you all about it after wards. Don't fool yourself into believing a lie because if you accept the first one more will follow. Stand your ground and put a stop to it. ask him about if the shoe was on the other foot how would he feel or think about it. I also think you should check up on your husband at work with out telling him you are coming and bring a friend you trust. I would find somewhere to sit in the back ground and watch what happens. the truth will come out . Just watch.
2007-11-16 20:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by mksgna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off he would have to find a different job no husband should be working in a night club that is just asking for trouble and he shouldnt be hiding anything from you like putting a code on his messages where you cant read them and he shouldnt be flirting with no one else exept you and it would bother me too because i would be wondering what he is really doing at the night club and afterwards maybe you need to pay a surprise visit at his job one night and see what is really going on then you will see for youre self if he is working or flirting good luck
2007-11-17 00:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by lil momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a married person flirts , It is not innocent. Sorry but why would he try to keep you out of his messages and why would he have some chicks message on the phone and then try to passit off as just flirting? You have his Days but are you sure that he is just working after what you witnessed?
2007-11-17 00:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been just flirting, but he shouldn't have described it as such. I've done that before without being physical. Some jobs are so mindless and boring that you do silly things. He's probably telling the truth.
2007-11-17 00:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
bells whistles alarms and red flags should be going off ALL AROUND YOU!!! You should be worried and this should bother you....Time to confront him and if it is just flirting then why the pin on his phone???
2007-11-17 00:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it should bother you.. if hes flirting and your not with him you really dont know what hes up too or doing.. flirting will turn into more if it hasnt already.. he would have to stop that if it was me.. good luck
2007-11-17 00:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAGS RED FLAGS RED FLAGS!!!
can't you see them waving in your face?? You husband is extremely immature and YES he IS hiding something from you or else he wouldn't have a pin on his phone. Leave his sorry ****.
2007-11-17 00:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Renesme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he works in a place that would encourage affairs, he needs to stop working there and get a day job. he probably does all of his dirty deeds at night when your asleep.
2007-11-17 08:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....it's JUST flirting! That doesn't seem very respectful and violates your marriage vows not mention your feelings.
I'd seek counseling and go here for more help:
www.barbaradeangelis.com/
2007-11-17 00:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you hang by the pool your gonna go swimmin....
2007-11-17 00:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋