Family & Relationships - 24 October 2007

OKAY....SO....ME N MY EX BROKE UP LIKE TWO MONTHS AGO...BUT WE NEVER STOPPED TALKING...WE STILL TALK WE STILL LOVE EACHOTHER SOO MUCH.....BUT HE CHEATED ON ME WITH SUMOTHER GRRL...WHICH CASUED US TO BRAK UP.....NOW I MISS HIM SO MUCH AND HE SAID HES GUNNA CHANGE..I DO BELIEVE EVERYONE DESERVES A SECOND CHANCE...BUT ALTHOUGH I LOVE AND MISS HIM SO SO SO SO MUCH....I STILL HAVE PAIN FROM WATT HE DID....SJOULD I TAKE HIM BACK??

2007-10-24 03:37:31 · 19 answers · asked by baby_gyrl_913 2 in Singles & Dating

she says things will get better but they have not yet.

2007-10-24 03:35:49 · 26 answers · asked by musclemansix 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We almost lived toghether for 6 months. He is 44 and I'm 37.
Both went thru divorce ones and both have own problems with ex's.One day over the phone he told me that he's not for marriage and serious relationship and to wants to be just friend with me.
I see him almost every day, he helps me a lot with the kids and he would do anything to help.
On other side he won’t let me get close to him. For some reason he seams to be afraid and he avoids to talk to me about it.
What to do? I still love him. This is going on for last 3-4 months.

2007-10-24 03:35:31 · 4 answers · asked by Goca D 1 in Singles & Dating

Not about them! I know if it's about them, it'll more than likely offend them. If I ask a sex opinion about someone else, or even me, and it's presented in an interesting, funny way, do you still think the group of girls will get offended and get turned off? Will they engage in the conversation, once it's not too too deep, or will they still say "he's talking about sex too early"?

2007-10-24 03:34:53 · 10 answers · asked by Ryder 1 in Singles & Dating

OK, my wife's co-worker "all girls" keep buying her shirts, pants, etc. When I asked her about it she said it was a gift? But it's not even her birthday or any special day. This happen quit a bit. I don't know what to think of it! I'll freak out if one day she brings home a thong. Is this normal for girls to do this?

2007-10-24 03:32:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I caught my son (senior in high school) smoking weed. It was late last night - I told him to go to bed because he has school - and we will talk about it after school.

What should I say/do?

Option 1)
Ground him - but I'm pretty sure he'll rebel and do it again later. I really don't like this option - because I remember when I was a kid - I'd do it 10 time as much to get back at my parents.

Option 2)
Control as much of the situation as I can (Ie: no driving, etc). He gets good grades and has a parttime job - so he is not a failure and not lazy. So I'm thinking that 1) I do not let him drive except to work and school and 2) Tell him he can do what he wants UNLESS his grades drop.

I smoked a little when I was young - and still went to college and got a degree and a good job. Thankfully stopped smoking - as I expect he will too. Being high just made me paranoid, self conscious, hungry and horny - still don't understand the lure - it's not a good state to be in!

2007-10-24 03:31:51 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have spoken to a counselor about the issue of finding a mate, and he asked about the reason I want one and what we would do. So I explained about going places together, communicating, eating together, doing things together, being good companions, if the desire comes (to make love) and just being there for each other sharing similar interests.
He said you don't need a wife, you can get all of those things from a friend. So stop looking for a mate. Do you agree with him?

2007-10-24 03:31:51 · 17 answers · asked by Housecat 3 in Marriage & Divorce

It seems like every day it is another issue with my boyfriends son... He has succeeded to keep my boyfriend from going on a family trip to Washington DC with me and my kids simply because the 8 year old child of his does not want to go and if he doesn't want to go his Mom won't let him go. Now my boyfriend tried to plan on going without him--- but his son pitched a fit and made him feel bad so now he is staying back with him. Ahhhh I could scream at this point. I try so hard to love this child as I do my own, but he makes it so difficult. I love my boyfriend to death, but I am beginning to wonder if it will ever change and if it is worth all this.

2007-10-24 03:28:19 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My parents are divorced and both re-married. My dad threw a HUGE hissy fit when I told him that I wanted both he and my step-dad (who I've known since I was 12) to walk me down the aisle and told me that it had to be HIM to walk me down the aisle or he wouldn't come. He wasn't even okay with me walking down the aisle by myself. (They're financing $5,000 of the wedding, which is about half, so I have to humor them somewhat).

Because my dad is so self-centered, I know that he would want me to have the father/daughter dance with only him, and I don't want to hurt my step-dad's feelings even more than I already have. So if it were up to me, we would just skip the whole family dance thing all together.

The problem is this: my fiance is an only child, and it would break his mom's heart for her to not dance with him. I can't very well have only a mother/son dance, can I?

What should I do in this sticky situation? Any ideas are appreciated!

2007-10-24 03:26:05 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs.10/18/08 4 in Weddings

We got married when I was nineteen shortly after i found out i was pregnant with our daughter. He never asked me to marry him it was all arranged by his sister whe thought the baby needed her father in her life. I come from a single parent so I feel it is very important for a chilod to know both parents. I was in love with him at the time but after 12 yrs i am not so sure if it was the right thing to do. I have been very unhappy and lonely and am not sure how to tell him that i think that our mariage may have been a mistake. I asked foe a divorce seven years ago but agreed to try and make thing work but I don't feel things have gotten much better. Am I wrong to feel this way? Does anyone have any advice?

2007-10-24 03:25:35 · 39 answers · asked by scared1 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Maybe it is not so much a question of how to mend a broken heart. But more of a question of "Where to go from here?" I'm your average guy, so to speak. I have a history of finding the wrong women to put into my life. I have had casual to serious relationships with nine women in the last ten years. I guess it comes down to the women I look for. I have been told I look for women "I can fix." And that does make sense to me now, I have looked for women with issues. If I find a woman with a few issues I do not have to worry about rejection. So I am left with only one option, go the opposite direction, which I am fine with. But where do I start? I don't party and I am not into the club scene. I work a lot sometimes so it is hard to find events to go to and meet people. I just don't know...

2007-10-24 03:25:07 · 9 answers · asked by starvingfingerpainter 1 in Singles & Dating

hahaha.
i wanna write something there:]]

aw thats sweet.
that would suck though if she said no though him going to all that work an stuff haha.

haha only cuz you're a guy.
dont worry you're in touch with your feminine side.
thats good though haha
:]

2007-10-24 03:22:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-24 03:21:08 · 16 answers · asked by beachgirl111982 2 in Weddings

2007-10-24 03:18:52 · 29 answers · asked by You know you want me 5 in Singles & Dating

other then your share of the food? i go to my bfs house on a thursday night and leave monday morning. i usually bring food to cook for tea each night and when we go out for lunch etc i somtimes pay (when he lets me!). should i be offering to pay towards household bills? any advice would be appreciated! been with him 4 months. ta x

2007-10-24 03:17:29 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He has political clout and took her 5 and 8 year old to live with his married girlfriend. She hired a lawyer and filed in court but the judge will do nothing. She is a professor and economist. She is an upstanding person. No, there is no hidden secret. He is also trying to get her fired from her job by having asomeone follow her and question her students. Again, there is no hidden problem with her.

She has said that the system has failed her and she will just kill him and go to jail. What should I tell her? I already told her that she will probably fail and then he will laugh that she is insane as she sits in jail, still minus her children.

2007-10-24 03:16:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and doesn't know that I know...I saw his credit card statement....one set of flowers was for me, but the other was not....should I confront him. He I am sure, sees nothing wrong about it.

2007-10-24 03:15:17 · 20 answers · asked by Wondering 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok my bf got this shirt from his "lady friend" at work (only knew her for like a month) she says its like a Christmas gift. I asked him how his day was and he never told me about the shirt. I had to find out from myspace the next day. I don't care if she gave him a gift ...but why didn't he tell me? It 's just weird

2007-10-24 03:15:03 · 21 answers · asked by Talk Talk 5 in Singles & Dating

Im a single male in my early thirties and I do not want to get married or have any kids ever. I dont want the financial burden. I dont want the responsibility, and I dont want the drama. The pain out weighs the pleasure. Can a man live a purposeful life with out a wife and just a girlfriend and no kids. And if so how ?

2007-10-24 03:10:54 · 22 answers · asked by Black Jack 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I never been in a relationship, never been in love. But from what I can gather from what I see and hear about love in todays society in particular. . . It seems kind of stupid and confused.

You always hear about love as this amazing force of nature! When you love someone, you care about them. Never want to HURT them! you're always to be truthful and honest. Put THEM ahead of you. Thats what love is, wanting to be the best you can, for somonew else, right? I'm guessing. . .

WRONG! Look at the reality of what people are! We are a contradiction of everything I just mentioned. People CHEAT, lie, deceive, put on a false character and hurt the person they're with without a second thought. Just look at what some of the married and non-married people on this site and what they're confessing to.

What is love? Its a 4 letter word. Nothing much else. I think I've lost all faith in ideal. It just does seem worth 98% of the nonsense. I'll walk this life alone instead.

Thoughts?

2007-10-24 03:09:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend of 3 years and I just got back together after a 3-month breakup. At the beginning of the three months things were kind of crazy. I started seeing someone else and my boyfriend started calling and emailing both me and the new guy. He was never threatening or anything like that - he just couldn't let go. Over time he calmed down and stopped that and I came to realize that I did still care about him. So I've agreed to try to work things out again. However, I feel like we should take it slow. I'm a little hesitant to tell people (family, coworkers) that I'm back with him. I guess mostly out of embarrasment over the past 3 months and how dramatic things had gotten for a while. We both have myspace pages and while he has posted many pictures of us on his and has announced how happy he is that we're back together, I am not ready to do the same. I don't know if it is fear or what, but I really want to take things slow this time. He is very hurt by my actions.

2007-10-24 03:08:25 · 12 answers · asked by Mel 6 in Marriage & Divorce

We are making an engagment party for my nephew and his new fiance. Many of the people were invited to his previous engagement party and refused to take their gifts back when my nephew tried to return them after he broke up. We don't want to obligate anybody. I think it's a lose/lose situation. We look bad if we invite...and we look worse if we don't.

2007-10-24 03:07:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

what do people really think he means? really two days...or its the end?

2007-10-24 03:06:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Lets say you have a girlfriend who is perceived by low-life jealous men to be popular. You (the boyfriend) are above or better than these low life jealous men. However, these men try to steal your girlfriend off of you. After about a year or so one of these men succeeds, and your girlfriend cheats on you with one of them, while you are away working long hours. However, your girlfriend keeps it a secret from you. About a month passes, and your girlfriend keeps cheating and becomes distant from you. Then one night, she doens't come home as she is out at a bar with this man. You call her and she finally answers. She tells you that she is not happy, and that she needs a break from you. She then breaks it off with you. This scenario happend to me 2 weeks ago. I got all of my belongings, moved out, and dropped her as it is apparent that she has no respect for me. I mean obviously she wasn't happy, but I never cheated on her, disrespected her, or abused her. I just need advice basically???

2007-10-24 03:05:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Why did you get married?
Was it what you expected it to be?
Any Advice???

2007-10-24 03:01:13 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

She emailed me that it's now final, & she's really pleased to have closure. Help, I'm not sure of the etiquette here. Should I send a card? I really want to avoid saying the wrong thing, as i haven't been in her situation. What should I not say or write? I like them both, he's with a new partner, & she is dating. If I delay replying, she may feel I don't care or disapprove! I feel it's worked out well. But congratulations doesn't sound right. Well done, maybe, & good luck? If it was you, what would you appreciate hearing at this time?

2007-10-24 03:00:44 · 19 answers · asked by WomanWhoReads 5 in Marriage & Divorce

?lots of answers?
Hayride anyone? lots of answers...ten points for the BEST!?
so here's the 411!!!!
there's this guy that i think might like me...im not 100% sure yet
Im getting mixed signals...sometimes he'll flirt with me constantly and sometimes its like we dont know each other. i asked some friends for advice and they told me that they have noticed it too. they also told me that maybe he wont make his move or ask me out or anything because he probably thinks that ill say no ( something about how i would never have gone out with someone like him before) i told them that they were being shallow, but do y'all think that could be true? Also ive tried talking to him during study hall but i get nervous...usually he's with his friends whenever i try to talk to him (more like asking for help on homework). i dont know what to do..should i just wait it out or should i ask him to a hayride thats going to happen on saturday? how should i say it so that if it turns out that he isnt going i wont look like a total idiot!??

2007-10-24 02:59:26 · 8 answers · asked by Violet 2 in Singles & Dating

There's this guy I've been seeing that's ALMOST everything I could ever want in a boyfriend. I have a feeling he's going to ask me out anyday now. I'm 21, he's 24.
He's smart, funny, outgoing, nice, sweet, caring, and RESPECTABLE (hasn't tried anything sexual with me! he just wants to get to know me)
The shallow and b!tchy part is I think that I will say no if he asks me out because I don't find him very attractive. At first, I only saw him as a friend and that was all. But as time has passed, his personality showed and I was able to look past his looks... but I don't know if I should actually become exclusive with him. I'd like to have the looks not bother me, but they do. How can I look past this and see his inner beauty? I really do like him and wish more than anything that I could give him a chance for who he really is... can anyone help? Thanks!

2007-10-24 02:57:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband was (and is) alcoholic. He stop drinking now for 11 month but very often he is in bad mood instead of biing happy.Very often he is rude upset and very often he puts his bad mood on me almost every morning but later when I think I need to divorce him he calls from work apologise and he is so nice that I feel sorry for him and till everything go again I feel he sucks my blood like vampier Should I treat him like big hero that he is not drinking ore I should divorse him? Your opinion very important.I think I still love him but I don't think he loves me. We live together more than 10 years he is my second husband. We don't have children together we have property together.Sorry for my english still learning.

2007-10-24 02:56:37 · 15 answers · asked by lbelfer 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I've asked a similar question before, but the way I've written confuses many, so I've posted a new Q with different aproach.
My English fiance, who I fell in love madly last year when I was in London for an year, came to Japan to propose me this July.
But my successful American ex boyfriend who's my best mate now has asked me to return to him, and marry him, at a similar timing.
He now knows that I have a fiance, but he's my closest person who I can talk anything at all, even criticism, and I feel like I've made a huge mistake.
I'm in love with my fiance, but I've only known him for an year, and he has totally different value in what makes each other happy. I have much deeper love (as a good friend, close to familly) but I'm not attracted to him as much as my current fiance.
I understand how much my fiance loves me, but I can't lie to myself knowing I'd be sayng "what ifs" all through my life...
Is this a sign to cancel my engagement?
Very serious...

2007-10-24 02:54:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings