We are making an engagment party for my nephew and his new fiance. Many of the people were invited to his previous engagement party and refused to take their gifts back when my nephew tried to return them after he broke up. We don't want to obligate anybody. I think it's a lose/lose situation. We look bad if we invite...and we look worse if we don't.
2007-10-24 03:07:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
don't bother inviting those people back. I would just keep the party small and intimate.. just for family and close friends that mean the most to your nephew. Get a list from your nephew and his fiancee.. Good luck.
2007-10-24 03:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly why are you having an engagement party? I think in his particular case you need to wait til he actually sends out invites and all that.
I know if I kept getting invited to engagement parties and showers and never to a wedding, I'd feel like I was being used for gifts.
You are right--it is a lose/lose situation. Skip the engagements parties and just invite them to the actual wedding. If you really want to have people over to celebrate (which may be embarrassing to the nephew), just invite them to a party and don't say why. Then make a spontaneous toast to the newly engaged couple. Then no one feels like their presence was for their presents!
2007-10-24 10:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about gifts, why not make the invites sounds less like an engagement party and more like just a couples party, or just a plain old party to celebrate. or i dont know if you or anyone else thinks its tacky, but just say gifts not necessary on the invite. And worry about that when they go to have a wedding shower...
Not really sure, hope i helped.
Good Luck to you. You are a sweet to do that for him.
2007-10-24 10:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spread the word by mouth that gifts are not necessary. I doubt people are holding the past against him, anyway. They probably dont care too much about the gifts from last time. Some of them might bring a gift this time, too, but you cant control that.
2007-10-24 10:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u shuld invite them. If u dont invite them they will feel bad and think about u and ur family in a bad way. Better u invite them. Let they think they shuld come or not or give u gifts or not. Good Luck!
2007-10-24 10:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rock'n'Roll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could have taken the gifts back if they wanted to. If you feel weird about it, just include something on the invitations about gifts not being necessary.
2007-10-24 11:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by vaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite them. It's up to them whether or not to bring another gift.
2007-10-24 10:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋