my man asked for 2 days "breathing space" from me.....?

Question

what do people really think he means? really two days...or its the end?

Answer 1

Either he feels smothered - do you call all the time, demand his time?
Has a need to think over the relationship - whether he wants to stay or not
or
Has found someone else and wants to "try" them out and then will decide whether to come back to you.
Either way, not a good scene
When he calls after the break - don't be available - make him work hard to get your attention and be unavailable. The test is this - if he really cares he will not give up and if he gives up too soon - he dosen't care -

Answer 2

There could be hundreds of reasons for this. While this could be a bad sign on many levels , it could also be healthy for a relationship. You really have to ask yourself several questions to evaluate the status of your relationship. Are you married? How long have you been together? Has he been acting strange lately? Has there been affairs before? Get creative, think about all the negative and positive factors in your relationship and write down a list of questions (and statements). You will likely get some insight from this and maybe some "gut" feelings.

I also recommend that you don't ask him why, instead, just say, "You're right, a few days apart would be good for us." Don't play mind games or bluff, just take those days and do something you have been wanting to do alone or with your friends or family. I personally think breathing space is good for healthy relationships, but it's obviously a negative sign in unhealthy relationships.

So, really, with all sincerity, you need to sit down and contemplate on it. Don't jump to conclusions. Maybe it's you who could use some breathing space. I mean, in a productive way. Get in touch with yourself on an independent level. Sometimes relationships can get so intertwined that we lose touch with some of our deeper personal needs. There's a saying I heard in China, "You can't see the mountain from the mountain." Meaning to say, you could learn alot about the relationship by looking at it from the outside.

Take those days and have yourself a ball. This is just the way I see it. Hope you can gain some insight from this. I've been with the same woman for the past four years, and we spent days and weeks apart on several occasions (and yes, I was a good boy). We just got married, and it's agreed that breathing space is a good thing, at least for our relationship.

Answer 3

Depends. Do you call him all the time? Demand that you speak to each other at least once a day? Always IM him or text him or otherwise communicate with him? He might feel smothered; give him his two days and then some. Wait until he gets back with you.

This happened to me waaaaay back in high school, and my boyfriend told me afterwards that he was much happier without me. I don't remember specifically being clingy, but he might have viewed my actions differently than I did. Just because you're dating doesn't mean you need to contact each other every single day. It's nice but not necessary.

Answer 4

Let him breathe for 2 days. Look inside yourself for answers in those two days. When he returns, you take 2 days to go away and let him see your trying to work things out.

Answer 5

Not necessarily the end. I told my husband to stop "hovering" over me as he was driving me nuts when we were fighting a few weeks ago, and it didn't mean I was done w/ the relationship. If, after the 2 days, he wants more time, THEN I'd be a little more concerned....

Answer 6

I have a guy friend who told me that when he asks his ex-gf for some "breathing space" what he really meant was that they were over.

Answer 7

It can mean lots of things.

If he feels you are too clingy he will definitely want space.

Give him his space and just talk to him after those two days and ask him why.

If you haven't done this already, I suggest you try to find things to do outside of your relationship.

Most guys like girls to be self sufficient and have interests and hobbies and other things to do besides just hanging around them.

Try it sweetie.

Regardless what happens with your guy, this will help in future relationships.

Answer 8

You know him better than we, and the recent state of your relationship. It may mean he just needs some time to himself (esp if you are the clingy type) or it may be the beginning of the end (taking a 'break' often is).

Give him the time he requested and see what happens...

Answer 9

it will be the end if you don't give him the space..maybe you need some space too. time apart makes the heart grow fonder...the longer you spend away for awhile..the more you will want each other.

Answer 10

It depends. Some women smother their boyfriends by calling them constantly, email, texting, other stuff. If you've been doing too much of that, he may be getting annoyed.