She emailed me that it's now final, & she's really pleased to have closure. Help, I'm not sure of the etiquette here. Should I send a card? I really want to avoid saying the wrong thing, as i haven't been in her situation. What should I not say or write? I like them both, he's with a new partner, & she is dating. If I delay replying, she may feel I don't care or disapprove! I feel it's worked out well. But congratulations doesn't sound right. Well done, maybe, & good luck? If it was you, what would you appreciate hearing at this time?
2007-10-24 03:00:44 · 19 answers · asked by WomanWhoReads 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think congratulations is most acceptible. I know couples who throw 'Divorce parties' to celebrate their divorce. Email her and tell her that you think it is great that she finally got closure and invite her for a drink or dinner to celebrate.
Congratulate her on her closure and not the divorce since this is what she mentioned she is pleased about.
2007-10-24 03:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations On Your Divorce
2016-11-14 20:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you're happy for her - and you hope she can find the happiness she deserves.
I don't know how I would have felt if someone congratulated me on my divorce. It's not something I was overly proud of, I failed miserably at something I shouldn't have. At the same time I was glad it was over.
Maybe it would be alright if you found one of those over the top cards just designed to make you laugh, it might be okay to throw in a congratulations.
It really depends, everyone is different. You know her better than anyone on Y/A - but personally I'd just wish her well and let her know you're there for her if she needs anything. She can't take that the wrong way :)
2007-10-24 03:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations is very appropriate if you know that she is happy about it.
Divorce isn't always a bad thing! Sometimes the marriage is.
Maybe even offer a girls night out to celebrate her divorce, especially if she had been longing for her freedom for any certain amount of time.
2007-10-24 03:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Did she want the divorce? I'm going thru a divorce, i asked for so it would be great to her congrats when mine is finally final.
Now i have a cousin that is going thru a divorce and she still loves her husband, he has a new partner but she doesn't want the divorce. He's cheated on her and used to abuse her! But if he came to her tomorrow and said I want you back she would do it. I tried telling her she deserves better but anyway she won't want to hear congrats when her's is finally. So there's two situations. Its whoever wants the divorce. If she wanted it then congratualate her if she didn't then don't!
Good luck.
2007-10-24 03:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by catdogpenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the marriage was abusive, then I would congratulate her, but on the other hand, if the divorce was mutual and no fists were raised, then I would also be unsure what to say. I guess if they are moving on with there lives, then I would say congratulations as well.
2007-10-24 03:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by roadrunner1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can never go wrong with the "If you're happy then I'm Happy!"
Just tell her you're happy that she's happy and that the whole mess is over with and that she can finally move on with her life. Tell her you're sorry she had to go thru it to begin with but at least she can start a new! Good luck and congrats on the closure and the opening of the new chapter on her life, not on the actual divorce. :)
2007-10-24 03:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Insomniac Tryin to Help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As your friend you must know her situation rather well....if she is pleased and has moved on with another man in her life...by all means let her know you are happy with how things turned out and wish her the best with the rest of her life...heck for my divorce we threw a "divorce party" and even decorated my car with stuff and drove around town like u do when u get married..it was a fab. ending to a bad situation and a glorious start to a new chapter in my life......
2007-10-24 03:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by kandy_kane03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I for one, would not brag about a divorce... unless the other party cheated...then, I would brag about it! =) so, unless "he" was cheating, sure, reply with way to go! glad you got rid of that loser! but, if it was some stupid reason for divorcing, I would not say anything... =(... personally, I think it's bad to brag about a divorce unless there was cheating involved... and, no, never send a card, not even an e-card... if she expects a response that's just too bad... divorce just plain sucks...
2007-10-24 03:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck for sure, but if you have to ask about the etiquette about it regarding your friend, better to err on the side of caution than to offend, right? A nice card that you wish her well and are really glad that she's happy would be great.
2007-10-24 03:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋