How to mend a broken heart...?

Question

Maybe it is not so much a question of how to mend a broken heart. But more of a question of "Where to go from here?" I'm your average guy, so to speak. I have a history of finding the wrong women to put into my life. I have had casual to serious relationships with nine women in the last ten years. I guess it comes down to the women I look for. I have been told I look for women "I can fix." And that does make sense to me now, I have looked for women with issues. If I find a woman with a few issues I do not have to worry about rejection. So I am left with only one option, go the opposite direction, which I am fine with. But where do I start? I don't party and I am not into the club scene. I work a lot sometimes so it is hard to find events to go to and meet people. I just don't know...

Answer 1

To mend your broken heart, try praying for Guidance. To find the right girl for you, try waiting. Surely God is up to something good for you. Just be patient. :D

Answer 2

I just hit my head, anesthesia's. Lord don't strike me down for being nice to this one.
Okay here's the list of potential causes:
1. You're not looking for it to last, so you're ideal girl would have to qualities that you could regret after getting bored. Just like my son's toy gamitt. He gets a toy and after playing the toy get bored and makes to the trash after only 48hr purchase turnover time.
2. You do not think that you deserve better and you need that needy person to make you feel good about yourself. A little gross (You would think the same if you saw someone doing it and had searched for it, wtf!)
3. You have not gotten over a previous relationship that had needy qualities that you liked or you are just trying to keep busy.
4. You like the control that you have over needy women and that's just not healthy.
5. You really are a little crazy and you may need to seek the counsel of your MD or your psychiatrist.
Places to go:
1. Movies, if you don't want to speak
2. Sporting event: lots of walking, eating, and crowds take up time.
3. Festivals in your area, every community has them, especially around Halloween.
4. The Mall, would be a brief date for someone who just is too busy, it's a nice starting ground.
5. Restaurants are okay, but that should be the last or close to the last thing that you do on a whatever you call it.
6. Amusement parks, concerts, do an activity that you both engage in like riding bikes or hiking. Park is okay as long the conversation is there.
7. Remember if you're stressed out by your date before it happens, it's already over in most cases.
8. Look be realistic and know that your normal and someone else's ideals of normal do not have to be the same. It's not like your dating them, just hanging. That should help your worries. Keep your hands still and never twitch your leg, it's dead giveaway. Most assertive girls will pick up on it and be bored with it.
Hope that helps
Read the fine print: You may not have any success with any of these suggestions, but note that you will be responsible, in the beginning, for all charges, addons, and taxes. So buyer beware. Crappy dates are not crappy people; they, just need practice. Unless you fell asleep; then, I would say that bless you cuz you just got blown.

Answer 3

if you won't party or go to the bars you need to pick up a hobby, pick up baking, cooking, knitting, hell become a troop leader and pick up some moms or something. Even hunting or shooting or horseback riding will probably get you some. But remember, nothing's easier than the bars.

As far as your choice in women, go for the most confident intimidating woman at the bar next time, you'll get shot down, but if you do that enough eventually you'll score a winner, and maybe she'll even stay with you.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about the broken heart as I'm in a simular situation myself, yet I've found that surrounding yourself with friends and things you enjoy will help.. just remember time heals all wounds and one day you'll find the right lady!

Answer 5

where ever it is your finding these "broken" women would be the same place you'll find the "okay" women. basically go out with friends, join a book club ... try internet dating .. you'll find her, just make sure you know what your looking for.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are getting into these relationships back to back. Maybe you need some "me" time take care of yourself instead of these women you get involved with.

Answer 7

You need to start with some good counseling. You need to work on self esteem or you will repeat your patterns no matter how much you want to change them.

Answer 8

You should be patient and keep on praying coz it's God who knows what he has in plan for you.But go for counselling as well.

Answer 9

maybe gay men are for you