OKAY....SO....ME N MY EX BROKE UP LIKE TWO MONTHS AGO...BUT WE NEVER STOPPED TALKING...WE STILL TALK WE STILL LOVE EACHOTHER SOO MUCH.....BUT HE CHEATED ON ME WITH SUMOTHER GRRL...WHICH CASUED US TO BRAK UP.....NOW I MISS HIM SO MUCH AND HE SAID HES GUNNA CHANGE..I DO BELIEVE EVERYONE DESERVES A SECOND CHANCE...BUT ALTHOUGH I LOVE AND MISS HIM SO SO SO SO MUCH....I STILL HAVE PAIN FROM WATT HE DID....SJOULD I TAKE HIM BACK??
2007-10-24 03:37:31 · 19 answers · asked by baby_gyrl_913 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u can trust him, thats what u need to ask yourself.
2007-10-24 03:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by silly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are both very young. If you believe EVERYONE deserves a 2nd chance then give him one. You are both in love with each other. And everybody does make mistakes.
1. You both need to get tested for STD.
2. Tell him exactly how this made you feel.
3. Tell him what will happen to your relationship if it happens again.
4. Then somehow you are going to have to find trust in him. Which can be hard. Let him know that. And it can take a long time.
5. Then see where it goes.
If he is willing to listen and do these things then you are on the right path. Good luck and remember there are plenty of fish in the sea!!
2007-10-24 03:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
heres the thing, this happened to me and i hate to say it but he cheated on me again. yeah, it hurts but hey, his loss not mine. so personally i would give him a second chance but first let him redeem himself. make him show u that hes worthy of a second chance and that u'll be able to trust him. i know u both love each other but make him prove it to u...u can go a/b this many wayz....when he talks 2 another girl he should juss flat out tell u a/b it or when u ask he shouldnt get offended or anything and should be able to tell u no problem. he should also be very open and honest w/ u a/b anyhting. first sign of him cheating tell him its over and thats it because "mistake made once shame on him, mistake made twice shame on u". i am also a believer in second chances so go 4 it, juss be cautious and...trust him like u wud a new person, u can talk w/ them, hang out and enjoy urself but it takes a while b4 u can trust them, so if u do that w/ him hopefully all goes well. Best of Luck!
Sunshine
2007-10-24 12:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, give it a try, but take things slowly... he needs to earn your trust again... you shouldn't just give it... explain to him, for a while, he is gonna have to make sure he is open with you about what he is doing, so you can see he really has changed. Don't jump back in eyes closed, holding your heart out for him to break again... protect it a little this time, and if after a while, you see he is better, then hand that heart back on over to him to care for. Make sure he is fully aware of how much he hurt you last time... that will help to keep him from doing it again.
2007-10-24 03:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by llcentlous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself from a third person perspective...
You're making excuse to yourself so you could go back to him. I'd advice NOT to contact him after you've decided to split with him, cuz it's too easy for the guy.
Honestly there's a high chance of him going to cheat you again, although he would say "I won't".
Do you think you could trust his words? Would you trust him if he said "I was at my mate's house" and he smelt very good?
Sorry, but I'm really not a person who can give second chance to guys. I have too much dignity of myself.
2007-10-24 03:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, let's see --- He "cheated". He broke up. He called to keep his hooks into you. And you have to ask a BB about YOUR life?
What is wrong with this picture? Why not forget the jerk and put your energies into self improvement. Perhaps you could take time to learn to spell correctly and perhaps a class in grammar.
2007-10-24 03:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you can trust him, if you can't trust him its not fair to either of you.
All things considered can you trust him?
Even to go out at night?
No matter what the situation have you come to the point where you will not doubt his integerity?
If so take him back, if not all you will have is more pain.
Think about it, and stay strong,
Jessica
2007-10-24 03:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you go back to him you need to work on that pain because ur still hurt. I think you need more time. If you go back to him right now you will bring that angry out and it won't work out anyway. You and him need to talk about what happened and explain to him if this happen again you won't take him ever again. He has broken your trust.
2007-10-24 03:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I've said it once, I've said it a million times: Once a cheat, always a cheat. You could never trust him. Move on.
2007-10-24 05:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never trust someone that has cheated. It will always be a lingering thought that they cheated. Try to move on, even though it is tough sometimes.
2007-10-24 03:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by gotbeerimez69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everybody do deserve a second chance so if you really love him then give it another try but be more demanding if he dosen't take you for granted.
2007-10-24 03:41:32 · answer #11 · answered by bettyboop_littlebettybop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋