Family & Relationships - 24 October 2007

the middle of the week, what one thing if you could change would you? It can be anything you said or did or didn't say or do. Just think there is a magic YA genie that will grant you this one thing...

Just curious...

2007-10-24 06:38:12 · 6 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-24 06:38:02 · 3 answers · asked by dale_jdc 6 in Singles & Dating

My father and mom divorced when I was 3 she was 7. He disappeared for years.OUr childhood was a whirlwing: our mather worked 3 jobs and he paid nothing... he went to jail for not paying shild support once. WHen I was in the 5th grade, he married an amazing women and then all of a sudden was apart of our lives. It was fine, we were at a point where we could adapt.. my sister was in the 9th grade though... THEN my dad got divorced and once again fell away form us. He would call once every few months and justify it. He really hurt us a children; he abused our mother and was emotionally abusive to us. He became finacially stable and opened his own business. He was making ALOT of money. He had a business in just three years of over 100 employees. He still does very well. When Jess(bride) graduated high school he offered to help pay for college... he gave her 300 a month.. which does help alot... and THEN.. her junior year of college she was on an internship Ill continue with edit below!

2007-10-24 06:36:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

so i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years.we broke up to take kind of break and because we were tired of each other.then my best friend and her boyfriend broke up and her ex is my exs best friend so her ex kissed me.....now what?and who should be mad?

2007-10-24 06:36:00 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am planning on getting married in an outside pavillion how do you transition from ceremony to reception. Is it ok to not do a receiving line?

2007-10-24 06:33:02 · 10 answers · asked by ceco 1 in Weddings

Recently an old college buddy had sent me a video via email that I shared with my wife. It started out with a really hot couple going at it in every sort of way. Then she started urniating on his face and in his open mouth, then proceeded to defecate on his hairy chest. While I found this grotesque and disgusting my wife did not. The peeing I can understand because I pee on her leg in the shower and vice versa, obviously all in good ha ha fasion. But the defecating is something that IM not into. Now, She wants to try taking a dump on my chest and keeps asking me to do so when we are talking dirty during sex. I love my wife and want her to be happy and will do everything for her, sexual but this. Her fetish is gone to the poitn where its beggining to turn me off to her. What should I do?

2007-10-24 06:32:01 · 78 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Shouldn't we show love in the way our partner wants it or likes it?

If they like flowers give them flowers.
If they like cards give them cards.
If they like poems give them poems.
If they like sex give them sex.

Isn't it kind of wrong to force your partner to ONLY accept your love the way you want to express it?

A card is nice, but I don't feel love from a card. I'm just not that sort of person.
A poem is nice, but I don't feel love from a poem. I'm just not that sort of person.

Flowers or Sex its all the same thing its a medium of expression like money is medium of exchange.

It seems that if you really care for someone then you need to express your love the way they like it and not what is easiest for you. If they love you they should do the same.

Now if you hold back waiting for them to do it first or better or more then you are just selfish, after all love is giving isn't it.

So what do you think?
Right/Wrong?
Am I close or way off base?

2007-10-24 06:29:38 · 8 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Singles & Dating

Shouldn't we show love in the way our partner wants it or likes it?

If they like flowers give them flowers.
If they like cards give them cards.
If they like poems give them poems.
If they like sex give them sex.

Isn't it kind of wrong to force your partner to ONLY accept your love the way you want to express it?

A card is nice, but I don't feel love from a card. I'm just not that sort of person.
A poem is nice, but I don't feel love from a poem. I'm just not that sort of person.

Flowers or Sex its all the same thing its a medium of expression like money is medium of exchange.

It seems that if you really care for someone then you need to express your love the way they like it and not what is easiest for you. If they love you they should do the same.

Now if you hold back waiting for them to do it first or better or more then you are just selfish, after all love is giving isn't it.

So what do you think?
Right/Wrong?
Am I close or way off base?

2007-10-24 06:29:22 · 10 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Marriage & Divorce

we've been married a year and have three dogs between us. Two were his before the marriage, one was mine. Well one of his dogs has been throwing up and looks lethargic and losing weight and also has this scabby thing on her head. The dogs stay in the backyard and I feed them and take care of them. Husband rarely cares for them or even goes out there to see them. So when I told husband a second time about the dog appearing sick he got all mad and said he had no time to be troubled by a sick dog and couldn't handle the stress of dealing with it. He didnt even go out to check the dog til later in the evening. Later he says the dog doesn't look sick to me but if you think she's sick then you can take her to the vet. I am having such a negative emotional reaction to how my husband responded. What are your thoughts and what should I say to him, and what should I do about the dog?

2007-10-24 06:27:06 · 62 answers · asked by Twiggy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Or do you not look at her and look elsewhere? If he isn't looking at you when he talks does that mean that he is not interested in what you have to say when you are talking to him or that he is not interested in you at all and just there...I had a date last night and he didn't look at me at all when he was talking to me but when I was talking to him he glanced at me but most of the time he was looking else where and all around? What the heels?

2007-10-24 06:26:37 · 28 answers · asked by Simply Lisa 3 in Singles & Dating

we met 4 years ago and have been together ever since. a year into our relationship i got pregnant and we got married because i loved him and thought he was def. the one for me. his ex was always a problem calling him, but he said she was crazy, so he changed his number. when we were married she was still an issue, and then i found out my husband was sending her money for a kid that she says was his! she was ot sure if the child was his or another mans(pretty sad) and she was hitting up my man for money and HE SENT HIT! this infuriated me but i worked through it , and then we had another child together. he stopped sending her money and said the whole thing was over. recently this woman contacted me and said that my husband cheated on me with her right before i got pregnant with my daughter and that he is never happy with me! idont now how to get over this. we have 2 beautiful kid and this was before we were married but i cant seem to get over it.

2007-10-24 06:21:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I really want to know if she would give me another cahnce, after I failed so badly. I have never bomed this bad with a women before.


met a woman (35 yr old) 2 weeks ago while I (22 yr old) was painting a family freinds apartment. We did some painting, but really talked about all kinds of different stuff, which lead her too give me her number. The next day she came over to my place, but we got interuped by my family randomly stoping by( At the worst time) So, a couple of days went by and she came back over, we had every good conversation, but nothing happened between us. Last Monday she came over again and the conversation was very sexual. She started telling me about having sex in Mexico with a 20 year old and how she was having sex with a 21 yr old and a 23 yr old right now. She was even telling me that she like guys to " TAKE CONTROL" Which I read a sign. that read " I WON"T KISS YOU, I WANT YOU TO DO IT. I made the most BONEHEAD MOVE. I asked her for a kiss???? What can I do?

2007-10-24 06:19:27 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I make okay money but as I said, it’s not enough to cover my half (just thinking in terms of financial responsibility/realistically)plus his extra debt. Going into a relationship or marriage you should be able to afford your share (your own bills as well as half of the house bills). I don’t mean this to sound selfish but unless one of the parties makes a LOT of money (which I don’t) then realistically, both should be able to cover their bills- No matter how you divide it. I’m not saying I won’t help him- I’m just saying that you should at least shoot to cover your bills. How is that Selfish? That’s how my brain works and I have perfect credit (plan to keep it that way). If you can’t cover your bills and the other person is not rich than you have a problem. I have used "my bills" for mathematical purposes only. Of course I’ll help my husband. AND- who ever mentioned divorce pleadings is IGNORANT. There will be no divorce. People are here for REAL advice not ignorance.

2007-10-24 06:18:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my wife just got married in august. she is the mother to my duaghter and has two lil boys alson who i have taken on. The problem is we got married wheni was on leave and she just split from her ex. Now the ex is always comin over to see his son and while i trust her i dont trust him. I know he is there to see her and not his son. To top it off i am in Iraq with 10 months left of my deployment so I have little I can do other than make myelf look like an *** and short of denying him see his son say i dont want him there. The guy doesnt work is practically homeless and is always askin my wife for help. I know she doesnt love him but she uses the excuse "he is the father of my child" when ever he needs help or he is messed up on alchohol and is crying about BS. I dont know what to do cause I hate to say it but i am jealouse cause he spends more time with my family than i do and its killin me that everytime we talk about it it ends up in a fight. HELP Me with some advice!!!

2007-10-24 06:18:27 · 6 answers · asked by megabite_me 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My friend built up a serious relationship with a women for 9 months. She sent him pictures of herself and he was pleased what he saw. When he offered her and her two kids tickets to come to the UK to meet. Reality set in his friend confessed to be a man and not the women of his life. I wonder how many others have experenced the same. He has finally come to his senses that there are far too many unstable people using the internet .

2007-10-24 06:16:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Question for the guys: Do you like easy women that will do anything for you?

2007-10-24 06:14:52 · 11 answers · asked by Jack in the house 3 in Singles & Dating

ok here goes i've been talking to this girl for about one month and were have alot in common i asked her out yesterday adn she said she would think about it then her ride came and picked her up and she txted me i dont have time for a boyfriend right now so then i told her "its cool we could still be friends right "she said yead that night she called me and we had the most romantic concersation i had ever had we talked about every thing so then i saw her a skool today and she gave me a peck at skool i was like wtf but then we kissed again and she still doesn't wanna go out with me? whats wrong with me...or her

2007-10-24 06:12:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been spending time with this really great guy. And he's really romantic and sweet. Then I found out he was married and his wife lives in another city and he works here on business all of the time so half of the time he's away from her. Not only is he married but he also has a couple of kids. I confronted him about it and he confessed that it was true but he did love and want to be wtih me. I think I love him too though and I have been with him again since I've found out. I feel bad for his wife but I can't help what I feel what should I do?

2007-10-24 06:10:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 35 and have 1 child from a previous relationship. He is 37 and has never been married.

We have been together (living together 2 1/2 of those years) for 5 years. He is at that point where he says he's not sure if this relationship is right for him. He loves me (and my child), but is not sure if he's "in love" anymore. He bought me an engagement ring last December & now is in unsure about the whole forever thing.

His parents went through a messy divorce when he was in college. He will be the first one to admit that it has affected his relationships. When things get too close, he runs.

Can he be fixed? Would counceling help him to deal with his commitment issues?

Is it time to cut my losses and run?

2007-10-24 06:10:28 · 19 answers · asked by orange c 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Well, me and my husband almost got a divorce. It started with the fact that every time we got into an argument (which was rare) he would say he was leaving or he just didn't care anymore. The other problem was addicted to his computer game and nothing else seemed to matter. At first he said it was for the best but he eventually realized that it was crazy to divorce me over a computer game and stopped playing altogether. I can't see myself living without him because I love him, but i'm not in love with him. I don't know what to do, he says he can live with me even if i am not IN love with him, but i wouldn't want to hold him if the distance between us remains between us. Do you think i should stay with him and try to fall in love with im again or just let him go because of my being unsure of whether i'll feel the same way about him again? When we first met he was always spending time with me, but after we got married he changed. He says he trying to go back to the way things used to be

2007-10-24 06:09:37 · 39 answers · asked by silversailorm90 2 in Marriage & Divorce

you think you have found a nice, decent guy then all of a sudden he just wants sex, no commitments
it does my head in
i have had about 5 guys like that in the last 6 months
and they all said well everyone said you were easy
what? after having one boyfriend?
that makes me such a slag
and yes my yahoo im is iamaslut69er but my friend made my account, not me and she was joking around
:(
what is it that a lot of lads are after only one thing
as a rule i am not a man hater but there are some people who really make you consider turning lesbian
(no offence to anyone)

2007-10-24 06:09:33 · 18 answers · asked by Emma kisses 2 in Singles & Dating

Does emailing your emotionally unavailable boyfriend and telling him that you are tired of their distant behavior and pretty much just saying that you are going to start doing your own thing and they can tell you when they know what they really want mean that you sent them an ultimatum?

I know ultimatums always backfire and I hope my email didnt come across as an ultimatum. I just told him he can tell me when he knows what he wants from me that I am done dealing with his push and pull and that until he knows what he wants I am going to move on. I have always been passive with him and this is the first time I have firm. I am frustrated he seems to keep me hanging on and doesnt break up with me but also keeps me at a distance and then after a while he pulls me in again acting attentive, going from hot to cold. I was hoping my email would get a clear answer from him as nothign else has worked. He has not emailed me back.

Is my email cause irrepairable damage?

2007-10-24 06:09:25 · 7 answers · asked by Sad Girl 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-24 06:08:16 · 9 answers · asked by boo 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ladies: Please translate?
Talked to a girl I met online for months and months and we get along great, talk about a lot of things, dig each other's interests, flirt, and even talk about going out, but then all of a sudden she stops taking your calls. I called her twice and all one time her brother answered and gave her the phone, I told her it was me and she was like making a deep breath like annoyed and hung up.

Then she did it again that second time so I stopped and moved on....but man, that REALLY upset me.

I have a hard enough time taking people at face value, I didn't say or do anything to upset her that I knew of?

Why be thrown under the bus?

This bothers me, so no lectures about being a grown up---I am thank you. I also happen to be a sentimental human. Since you want the bad boy, I guess that doesn't mean much anymore.....


BTW, if you want to become predictable and trite, side with her.

2007-10-24 06:08:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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2007-10-24 06:08:08 · 5 answers · asked by everij2004 2 in Friends

My husband and I recently got married. I thought I "knew" alot about him, but come to find out I dont know anything. He has lied to me about his whole life. I found out about everything once his parents came to visit. He said he had been in the military 7 years, but his parents said only 1 year. He said he owned a 175 acher horse ranch. His parents said he lives with them in a trailor in Louisiana. He has told me tons and tons of lies about himself, and his parents tell me something totally different. But he gets his lies from other people. Like he said he has 2 pit bulls, but the pitbulls he is referring to belong to his aunt ( with the same names ). Every time I catch him in a lie I confront him. I am tired of him telling me, my friends and family lies and treating me like I have to do everthing for him ( pay bills, clean house, cook dinner, do clothes ) its not worth it. I need to know how to confront him and how to go about getting a divorce. Someone please help me!!!!!

2007-10-24 06:08:05 · 14 answers · asked by kryddlez 1 in Marriage & Divorce

so as most of you know I took out a girl I was really into, finally I found an innocent girl with morales and personality in a college town. Right before our second date she said she couldn't go out with me cuz she just got a boyfriend but would still want to hang out sometime, I thought she was lieing and I just got shot down but yesterday I found out she's back with her ex (total gangster and a huge loser). But she txt me last night, Do you think I can hang out with her and just be her friend? Even tho she has high morales do you think seeing her could stir the pot and eventually make this things go south for one or all of us? What would you do?

2007-10-24 06:07:51 · 1 answers · asked by Nate 6 in Singles & Dating

I really need some serious ideas here. A few co-workers (female) and I want to get some serious revenge on another co-worker (male). Nothing illegal, but I wan't it to HURT either financially, emotionally or psychologically. This guy is a total d--k and he deserves it. He would have been fired years ago due to sexual harassment if he wasn't our best salesman.
I've never done anything like this before, but I am willing to go really far to get this done.
Help!

2007-10-24 06:06:56 · 8 answers · asked by dickenerfelheimer 3 in Friends

2007-10-24 06:06:51 · 19 answers · asked by marm 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

can they?
is true tht they eventually start havin a crush on the other????

2007-10-24 06:06:38 · 25 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Singles & Dating