I've been spending time with this really great guy. And he's really romantic and sweet. Then I found out he was married and his wife lives in another city and he works here on business all of the time so half of the time he's away from her. Not only is he married but he also has a couple of kids. I confronted him about it and he confessed that it was true but he did love and want to be wtih me. I think I love him too though and I have been with him again since I've found out. I feel bad for his wife but I can't help what I feel what should I do?
2007-10-24 06:10:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This man is a liar.
This man has done this before and will do it again.
Yes, you can control yourself. The sooner you break off with him the sooner you can find someone who isn't just using you.
Re-read the first sentence.
What kind of love comes without trust and respect?
C. :)!!
2007-10-24 11:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are totally wrong! Why the hell would want to ruin anothers marriage and on top of that he has children you need to be woman enough to tell him to leave you alone or you need to quit your job so your not tempted why would you want to be known as the woman who has ruined a marriage, have some self respect, and he may love you but he is telling his wife the same thing he will not leave her for you this just sounds like the same old stories that you see in the movies he cheats with some girl and he tells her he loves her and only wants her and does he ever leave his wife NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!. BE WOMAN AND CALL IT OFF, it really makes me sick to know that there is woman out there like you ruining what could possibly be a good marriage and kids are involved you should be ashamed of your self think how those kids would feel.
2007-10-24 06:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Texasmom26/30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM AND NEVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN!! Why do you think that this wont happen again? Ok, so lets say he leaves his wife and he is now married with you. You have a couple of kids and 10 years later he wants to divorce you because he met another woman living in another city 5,000 miles away.
This is the reason why I cannot marry a man who has a travel job, it is very hard for me to trust him. Just stop for one moment and think about the pain you are causing for the whole family.
Do you want to be known as that woman....home wrecker!
Leave now before it is too late!
2007-10-24 06:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel the best thing to do is stop the relationship. He is already married with KIDS! You have to understand this is for the betterment of yourself and him. You will ebnefit becasue if the wife were to find out in any way then your family could find out what you did. He on the other hand could lose hislife, kids and wife. The best tihng right now is to tell him you will see him when he is divorced, but make sure you ask him if he really loves his wife...you do not want to be responsible for a divorce now do you ;)
Best of luck!
2007-10-24 06:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jessay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you couldn't be with him since he's married. How would you feel if you were married and your husband was doing what you guys are doing?! He has a wife and KIDS. Do the right thing. Not to mention...say he did leave his wife and kids to be with you...who's to say it wouldn't happen to you down the road too. Not a good characteristic...oh sure he's sweet and romantic....but being that way with more than one woman makes it far less appealing. Good Luck
2007-10-24 06:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by bulldogclover75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say that if he loves you and you love him then it will work out but I can not. First you will have to hurt and possibly break his wifes heart, and hurt all those who are supporting the marriage. Then the children will have to be hurt. I dont know the ages but they will hate you for what you have done to their mother. No one will understand your love for one another. There will be many difficultys and problems and it maybe that eventually your relationship will be destroyed. All for nothing. If there is one person out there like him then go find him and leave the married men alone. Do your self a favor. Grampa B
2007-10-24 06:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk a mile in her shoes. You think you have a lovely husband who loves his children and would give his life for them. You think you have a husband who is at home being completely faithful and understanding of you working in another city. IF you can be in her shoes and see that it's your fault why he's with another woman. Why he cheated on you. Then I guess you've no reason to feel bad. But if you know that if you walked 100 miles in her shoes, and in no way understand or give your husband the time of day for what he did...then you should see that what you're doing is wrong.
Take this into consideration. If he can't be honestly and loyal this woman he promised to love and cherish for all time and then has CHILDREN (not a child) but CHILDREN with this woman...what makes you think that he won't do the same to you.
2007-10-24 06:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you cannot help your feelings for this man as you were unaware of the fact that he is married with children when you developed your feelings for him. That being said, you need to stop and ask yourself at this point, if he really wants to be with you, then why has he not seperated from his wife yet? And even if he did, he was unfaithful to his wife with whom he has children, what's to say he won't do the same thing to you? You need to consider what would be a healthy relationship for you and not one beginning on the basis of lies.
2007-10-24 06:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie "waiting to exhale" with whitney houston..it sounds like her character...He was so charming and wonderful BUUUTTT he was married with kids and NEVER planned on leaving his wife for Whitney.
You are both committing adultery..NOW that you know he is married you have a responsibility and that is to BREAK it OFF...Seriously, how would you feel if you were the one being cheated on? It isnt right ..i dont care whether he isnt happy with his wife anymore because she wont give him sex, love, happiness, etc..... He is cheating and he is married ..if he wants to leave his wife he should break it off and divorce her and NOT going behind her back and being with you...
There are sooooo many wonderful men out there that will treat you wonderful..and the bonuse is THEY ARENT MARRIED. Break it off!! you are contributing to the destruction of the family unit...
2007-10-24 06:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not OK at all. And how could you love someone who would abandon his family so easily? What does that say about you?
Think how his kids would feel, esp. the wife. Put yourself in their shoes.
This man is a jerk, and it's a double-edged sword because if he leaves her to be with you, he will eventually betray you too in the future.
2007-10-24 06:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋