Family & Relationships - 22 October 2007

I have been best friends with my girlfriend for years now, and we decided to get together six months ago. During that time my girlfriend hit some rough spots and broke up with me, she was alone and confused and I was still there as her friend, she later worked out things and got back together with me. (w/o me offering or anything).

Her parents still seem to think that I am a bad person, I mean for some reason they do not like me, nor does her sister. I have never done anything to her, I mean it's been 5 months and she still doesn't want to kiss me and I am waiting not pressuring her or anything.

Can they not see how much I do love her? Since we got together her grades have come up, she is a more enjoyable person and WE let God take control in our relationship to help both of us out.

I love her and she loves me, I just don't understand could someone help me out?

God Bless.

2007-10-22 08:53:16 · 9 answers · asked by ??IuM?y?? 1 in Singles & Dating

Like guys who like to shop, smell good and take care of themselves? I mean not those guys that are a complete fruit cake. I'm the type who will take my time to get ready if I'm going on a hot date with a girl or if I was going out in public. So my question is Would you rather have a guy who is kind of metro (but not to the extreme)?

-I'm straight but I like to represent a good appearance.

2007-10-22 08:52:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

MY SCHOOL IS HAVING A DANCE FRIDAY. I like this girl named Krystal and we are going to the dance together but as friends (her suggestion). Today she gave me her # and email address. Is this a good oppertunity to ask her to be my girlfriend?

2007-10-22 08:49:59 · 3 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

Has anyone else had this problem? I mean, we'd elope if we had the choice (we were going to, but now the parents (his; mine have no money) are paying and basically organising the entire day (they have plenty money to throw around)).

Problem is, I'm just so bored with all the organisation! I mean, I really, really couldn't care less what colour the bridemaid's dress is, and if it matches my mother's, or what colour the table centrepieces are - table centrepieces - what????. I'm quite happy to just let her organise the whole thing (whatever rocks your boat), but at some point I just know she's going to want some input! (Like me choosing a dress, ha ha ha). Does anybody else find all this colour coordinating and wedding planning just dearthly boring?

I personally just want to be married to the man I love without all this fuss (but I don't want to fall out with his mother either! (She's lovely really, just very - well, girly?)

What are your experiences?

2007-10-22 08:48:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

im a 15.5 yr old female..and yea ive like always been interested in sex since i hit the "maturity stage"..but was nervous, and held off, i wanted to stay a virgin. but now...im growing up, understand the chances, consequences, and all that. but i think hey...i'll be protected, i can act resposible about it, and im better then to just go out on a wild goose chase and have sex, just if the right moment comes with the right guy, is it okay to well...have sex?

2007-10-22 08:46:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We offered for them to live with us when they first got married so they could save money to buy a house. Two years later they havn't saved a dime and have talked about moving out but won't take steps to do so. It has put a real strain on my marriage and my relationship with them. Also my mother in law is at my house watching my son 4 days a week and stays all night two nights a week. Everything combined has made me a rather bitter person. They are all I think about lately. Every day gets worse. And of course my husband is not bothered by it as much as I am because its his brother. I could go on forever with stories of things that have happened but that would take forever.

2007-10-22 08:44:09 · 11 answers · asked by Sophia G 1 in Family

Since time began (it seems), every year at Christmas, myself, my wife, and our children have had to visit all the family.
We get up at eight, have breakfast, let the kids open their presents then immediately rush off to the in-laws, stay there until about 3pm (having Christmas dinner) then go to my parents until 10pm.
The poor children get ferried around and dont even get to see their toys until Boxing Day afternoon (because the in-laws expect us over for lunch that day as well).
I want to have a nice quiet Christmas this year, just the four of us - Christmas dinner, kids enjoying their presents, and a lazy afternoon watching the repeats...

Is it too much to ask, or am I being selfish?

2007-10-22 08:43:43 · 27 answers · asked by R G 3 in Family

What would you all do if you fell in love with a man who was 22 years older than you? Would you be able to resolve all the issues that the huge age gap might bring? How would you explain this to your parents, friends, society?

You see I am a 20 yr old lady and I love a man who is 22 years older. I have never liked men because I have issues with them...like all females have. I never had a boyfriend because I never found a boy that I liked enough to have a serious relationship with. Then, along comes this man, who I feel is so similar to me in terms of personality and I feel like he is the only one who understands me.

Is it alright to marry someone whom you love that is 22 years older than you? I know it sounds wierd, but I really love this man. You don't even want me to tell you how much I love him. He is the only one who fits me so well in personality. I need him; I need a man like that in my life.

I don't know how to explain this to my parents. I asked this question before

2007-10-22 08:42:54 · 13 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2 in Singles & Dating

shes older than i ,and isnt into sex as much as i am and says she doesnt want to lose me .but ive never even thaught of leaving

2007-10-22 08:41:49 · 14 answers · asked by lonly man 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-22 08:41:25 · 3 answers · asked by AdrianF-22 1 in Singles & Dating

I have never encountered this problem! I know Im good in bed and take care of my body, but my bf n I never have sex! I have needs and only see him on the weekends, we talk for hours every night and I know he is not cheating. He is 26 and20. I am ALWAYS the one to initiate, and that gets old really fast. I want to feel...wanted. What can I do? I think he might have a low sex drive and that sucks but if theres any advice to give please do! I need some good hot lovin lol Im only 19!

2007-10-22 08:39:47 · 14 answers · asked by SoberAsADuck 4 in Singles & Dating

Okay so I will be sitting in class, at my desk, doing my work, and everyday the same boy [Who is very creepy, never talks, and always hides under his hoodie!] will walk by me to get a tissue, and then on the way back he grabes my elbow and like sqizzes it or something, it is very creepy.
But thats not the wierdest part, when he gets to his seat, he throws the tissue in the trashcan right next to him away before he uses it, he saw me watch him do it once and smiled at me. I am afraid to tell my boyfriend becuase he would beat him up.
What should I do this is realy bothering me?!

2007-10-22 08:39:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What impact did it have on you? As an adult do you have any hard feelings against your parent?

2007-10-22 08:38:23 · 11 answers · asked by Sugar 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I made my husband leave a week ago, after 12 years of marriage and 3 years of trying to make him leave I finally did it. He came back this weekend so now I've made him leave again. He will not take no for an answer. He's controlling and plays mind games, it's completely changed the person I am and I don't like it. I've told him this and it goes in one ear and out the other, he just won't listen and won't give me any room to breathe. We have 2 kids together, so it's not like I can just cut him out of my life. How do you deal with someone like this, and most of all not let the kids see the damage that has been done. How do I make him understand that we're not doing eachother any good and it has to stop?

2007-10-22 08:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by Cowgirl Up Yours 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am just really bad in this game.
I can’t make the impression that is needed to seduce woman. I can’t talk a fancy talk; I can’t make a girl laugh.
I can only be my self. And I am afraid that it is not good enough. My self is a really poor self, lame self.
Once I thought to my self every loser will find his loser to live with. But I am even too lame for that.
It seems people don’t fall in love any more.
Only make cold calculations.
No one but stupid me. And I can’t keep up with this time.
I can’t do the things that are necessary to impress woman.
I am 22 years old and alone, for god sake.
I am good enough to be a friend. I was called:
Helpful, kind, caring and a good hearted person.
But these are not the qualities that are good for finding a girl friend…
So I guess I will have to spend my life alone.
Should I except this fate and try to live with it.
Or finish it now? Its just looks so hopeless…
And I don’t want to die or something.
I have ambitions. Big ambitions! But what dose life achievements are good for when you are alone in this life.

2007-10-22 08:37:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

The guy I like, we flirted when we were a bit drunk.I know.but people there that night said I think he does like you.This guy has never had a gf and doesnt have a whole lot of confidence. I almost told him I liked him but backed out and left.He left me a voicemail sayin"Hope u got back 2 your room ok I'll IM u tomorrow" and he did,kept asking me ?'s and if I was in headacheland. Ppl there that night pestered him afterwards, I guess nudgin him on to do something about me. They also did that "that night" but my crush didnt get mad then.1 of my pals there that night told me "He doesnt have feelings for you, simple as that, a 1000 ppl meddlin didnt help alot" He didnt tell any1 about the messages but my pal said "hes just stupid" He now knows Ive liked him since last yr.He keeps randomly sayin hi 2 me when he doesnt even look my way. 1 night when hangin out, he said hi 2 me when he entered the room.I wish if he didnt like me back he would ignore me.cHe doesnt know my pal told me that stuff

2007-10-22 08:36:33 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm going to give a scenario and then please tell me what you would do:
There's a woman, who was your best friend when you were in high school, and for almost a year after high school. After high school she got into a bad relationship with a guy everyone hates, but she was tricked into marrying him, and ended up having a baby a year later. You've been talking with this woman, and are still distant friends, and now she's divorced and moves out with her son back to the city you're in. She's independent, supporting herself, and comes to you with a question. She loves being a mom and wants another baby but doesn't want to wait because of the horrible relationship experience she had, and trusts you, and wants to know if you'll "donate" so that she can have a baby. It would be yours and hers, but you have the choice to be totally unconnected and it's mainly her asking so she can have another baby. You know she's a good mother, and attractive. Maybe you even liked her in high school. WW u do

2007-10-22 08:35:28 · 11 answers · asked by Alice 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it a good ideo to join the army? Ive been thinking about it cuz i really would like a change of pace in my life and i think it would be cool though challenging. Im in school right now and i know my parents would not approve but im in college and 18 and can make my own decisions? So for all the people who have been in the army would you recommend it?

2007-10-22 08:34:15 · 3 answers · asked by bizybee316 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm TERRIBLE at math(and I mean TERRIBLE) but this guy I love is a genius at it and LOVES it while I HATE it.
Will he still date me if I don't like math?

2007-10-22 08:31:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She's 14 and she likes to swim, read, harry potter, and other girl stuff? what should i get her!

2007-10-22 08:30:44 · 33 answers · asked by ? 3 in Friends

Well, my wedding party has not adults, no teens. It goes as follow:
ring bearer: 3
flower girl: 2 (What should she have in her hands...she is so attached to me and so moody that I am afraid that she is going to make a scene...any solutions?)
2 six-year old girls, (at firt I wanted to give them a small round bouquet- but one of them is just dying to have a basket with petals!)

2 eight-year old boys

2007-10-22 08:28:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i peeled 10 lbs of apples with my husbavd and we made two cakes with that plus cooked the rest. also spent most of sat. on yahoo answers.

2007-10-22 08:26:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

A co-worker makes her working son and daughter (18 & 22) pay one utility bill a piece. She says it will teach them responsibility. The floor is split 50/50 on this. Some say this is wrong while others agree. What say you?

P.S. She is married and they are fully capable of paying the household bills.

2007-10-22 08:24:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My husband and I are very adventureous with our sex life and we have been discussing going to a swinger's club. However, when the time comes to go, I get very nervous. Can anyone give me positive feedback on an experience or encourage me to take the risk?

2007-10-22 08:23:37 · 33 answers · asked by Carrie S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-22 08:23:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I keep hearing "If you're over thirty, and you want to get married, you have to marry somebody with children !" . Is this true ? Children won't obey somebody's rules if they don't want to, and they don't want to . I'd have to have my rules obeyed and respected, and children aren't obedient and respectful . Any children that live in my house would have to follow my rules . Is it fair to make new rules halfway through their childhood, or "change the rules in the middle of the game" ? Would EVERYBODY make a good stepparent ? Aren't there some people who shouldn't have children ? Is it realistic to think ANYBODY can inspire respect and obedience in children ?

2007-10-22 08:22:52 · 6 answers · asked by I_hate_being_single 3 in Family

Do you go back to an ex to stay in that comfort zone? Why would you want to if he/she treated you bad and/or has someone?

2007-10-22 08:22:41 · 3 answers · asked by peaches6 7 in Singles & Dating

I WAS SERVING IN THE ARMY I LEFT IT WITHOUT INFORMATION TO FATHER NOW HE ANOID FROM ME FROM LAST 4 YEARS AND BLAMING ME FOR MY MOTHERS DEATH AS SHE DIED IN 1999 AND I LEFT THE ARMY IN 2004 PLEASE GUIDE ME

2007-10-22 08:22:22 · 9 answers · asked by majid aziz 1 in Family

We are in our mid 40’s and getting married. The band that will be playing at our wedding wants to bring their wives and girl friends to our wedding. We do not know these people and we had to omit some friends because there just isn’t enough room. If we allow this, we would have to add an additional table and an additional $100 per head.

What would be proper etiquette in this situation?

2007-10-22 08:20:27 · 47 answers · asked by Jose M 3 in Weddings

Okay, so long story short...my bf and I had a fight Friday night/Sat morn. We talked on Sat. afternoon and he said we were okay but, "shaky". He said, "Remember when I said I didn't want you to live your life around me? Well, that's what it's been feeling like lately." I explained that I was sory for being so clingy lately and that I'd work on it. He wanted me to live my own life too. His work schedule has really been screwed up lately and he hadn't slept in 22 hours or more, so I went home. He said that he'd call later.

So, I went home and started contimplating what he said and what I needed to do with myself. I invited friends over for the night and invited one of MY friends from back home. 'Cept, it's a guy...who knows I have a bf, and my bf knows about him but has never met him. I thought it would be okay...it wasn't. My bf flipped out mostly bc he was so tired and wanted to sleep. His phone is out of min. and I haven't heard from him since Sat night. Am I doomed?

2007-10-22 08:17:59 · 8 answers · asked by marigoldkelly95 4 in Singles & Dating