I have been best friends with my girlfriend for years now, and we decided to get together six months ago. During that time my girlfriend hit some rough spots and broke up with me, she was alone and confused and I was still there as her friend, she later worked out things and got back together with me. (w/o me offering or anything).
Her parents still seem to think that I am a bad person, I mean for some reason they do not like me, nor does her sister. I have never done anything to her, I mean it's been 5 months and she still doesn't want to kiss me and I am waiting not pressuring her or anything.
Can they not see how much I do love her? Since we got together her grades have come up, she is a more enjoyable person and WE let God take control in our relationship to help both of us out.
I love her and she loves me, I just don't understand could someone help me out?
God Bless.
2007-10-22 08:53:16 · 9 answers · asked by ??IuM?y?? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Casa: I indeed have friends that are guys. And two that are close as brothers. As for the rest, I am sorry that you feel that way and this is in no way an act. This is who i am, and I'm sorry that you indeed feel that way about me, having never met me.
God is the bonding glue in a relationship and without Him, the relationship is meaningless and unfulfilling. He is the center of all my attention.
God Bless. I truly mean that my friends, truly do.
2007-10-22 09:11:04 · update #1
Casa: Indeed I have never come close to banging her nor would I before marriage. I have no money for a baby, nor do i have the strength to handle the price of my actions.
And here is where you think i am an idiot or lieing, but remember, im not here to impress you.
2007-10-22 09:12:34 · update #2
It may seem this way because they love their daughter more than anyone else (and even more than you do at this point, believe me). So anyone who may have hurt their daughter at some point, they will look at with a cautious eye. Heck, even if you were the nicest person in the world, they're just looking to protect their daughter and no one may seem good enough. You just have to be patient and prove to them what a great guy you are. This will take time sometimes, but if you think she's worth it, you will take this time. They will see it and hopefully eventually appreciate it.
2007-10-22 09:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Nathan K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take it personally -- but the parents could not "like you" (specifically) for many reasons you'd never know or learn. It doesn't mean that you're a "bad person" -- just not the person they want, or would rather. I don't want to start listing why, because you just may have thinner skin than most people asking for outside perspectives... you say you're not here 'to impress me', but you ARE. Not specifically, of course... but in reality.. you wouldn't use the internet as your psychologist or a collective friend, to bounce/get reaction on a topic that doesn't have a set answer (and is impossible to answer) if you weren't looking for acceptance, as if WE are a surrogate parent. Or, hers specifically. (Hey, look at the bright side.. it may just only be your... breath.)
Because a guy ends sentences with "God Bless" as in your case (and the question is about DATING?) -- doesn't make you a nice guy automatically, no matter how you try to convince anyone. ...And the parents don't usually fall for that nice-guy nonsense, especially when it's TRANSPARENT that you're working so hard to create that persona.. Moreover, whenever a man wears religion on his sleeve... it's usually a Red Flag that there's a reason for this, for most people. Either there's some epiphany on your part (cancer, drug abuse, car accident, forming a new church/congregation as a way around paying taxes, etc. etc.). -- or, there's a suspect-eye as to why a young man is leading with "faith", when that is supposed to be personal.
Here you are, posting about HER parents... and making it a 'general' question -- because you are living in denial, about something. You have an ultra-HIGH opinion of yourself... and basically, you're frustrated because that isn't shared by anyone other than the One Girl you are on your way to brainwash, about that being the case.
2007-10-22 08:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, they are inclined to dislike what they know isn't best. And a young girl (high school) doesn't need or truly have any positive use for a serious relationship. You can disagree with me and thats fine. You'll understand when you're older.
It could also be that she talks bad about you and blames you for things when you aren't there.
I am going to assume its a combo of both.
2007-10-22 08:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, sounds like you really need to talk to her! It doesnt seem like she is clear on where you stand in her life. If you are her boyfriend, then why is it that she hasn't kissed you in 5 months? You need to ask her these questions. Its not pressuring her, these are the things that you need to communicate in a relationship, otherwise it will all fall apart! You need to tell her how you are feeling, that you would very much like to kiss her because thats what couples do, and maybe let her know that you would like to try to build a better relationship with her parents. Maybe get to the bottom of why they don't like you...it could be some stupid misunderstanding on their behalf, but you will never know to fix things if you don't at least open your mouth and say something about it!
2007-10-22 08:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by nuniestar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mom loves my boyfriend - my whole family loves my boyfriend, for that matter. It just sounds like your girlfriend's parents are overprotective; they don't want their "little girl" to be with anyone. Plus if some of your problems have been related to you, and she's close enough to her family to tell them, they may be prejudiced against you for that. I don't think it's a lost cause, but I don't know the whole story. Just be kind to her, be kind to them, and hope they'll understand.
2007-10-22 09:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what happens. When you are going through a rough patch with your girl, she will often tell her parents. However, when it gets resolved between you two she doesn't give all the details. Therefore you are still seen as the creep that will undoubtedly crush their poor daughter's heart one day.
2007-10-22 08:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Colonel Obvious AM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply put: yes. Parents are EXTREMELY overprotective of daughters. You really have to prove yourself to them, and even then, you're an evil boy who wants to do naughty things to their daughter and are just being nice to get in her pants...hang in there, they'll change their minds.
2007-10-22 08:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by chevalrose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats really sweet my parents dont like my boy
2007-10-22 08:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by kentuckycutie10@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No,
The boyfriends are never good enough.
And if they are we will never admit it.
2007-10-22 08:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by smars442002 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋